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Better Than Chocolate: 4 Ways Sex Toys Can Sweeten Your Valentine’s Day

Published: JANUARY 31, 2023
However you're celebrating this Valentine's Day, you deserve to feel good -- and sex toys can help.

Chocolate? Yes please! Its decadent mouthfeel and melty goodness can make any day better -- not just Valentine's Day!


But the goodness of chocolate is temporary, and if you're looking for a gift to last long past February 14, swapping that heart-shaped box for a rectangular one might be all you need to do. When you think about it, better sex and orgasms have a pretty long laundry list of benefits to themselves including that same release of feel-good hormones (over and over!), exercise for your cardiovascular system, better pelvic floor muscle tone, and an improvement in self-esteem.

That's a list I can totally get behind.

READ: Skip the Gym, Get in Bed: 7 Health Benefits of Sex.


So, step one in this magical swap? Simply picking out one of these amazing toys. And maaaaybe adding a tiny chocolate truffle on top. Just for good measure.

1. Hands-Free Explorations

Sex toys are awesome; if you're here on Kinkly, you're probably not going to argue with me about that! But hands-free sex toys? They take that awesomeness to a whole new level!

Instead of needing to hold your pleasurable toy in place, the toy does all of the holding for you. This leaves your hands entirely free to explore whatever you want! Just think about all the ways you could play with a hands-free option:

  • Make working from home feel even more engaging.
  • Keep the chores from feeling as boring as they are.
  • Sunbathe in your backyard with a fun, naughty secret to keep you occupied.
  • Read your favorite erotica with both of your hands available.
  • Film an erotic video or picture for yourself (or your lover!) without worry of trying to hold too many things.
  • Watch porn on your phone without worrying about lube getting on your device.
  • Explore multiple erogenous zones with your hands free to hold even more toys for an amazing time!
  • Enjoy foreplay with a partner with extra sensations to add even more to the experience.
  • Give oral sex -- and have your hands free to touch them! -- while simultaneously getting pleasure yourself.
  • Explore remote-controlled play in public.

READ: Wanna Act Kinky in Public? Here's How to Do It Incognito.


Hands-free toys can really change up how you can use your sex toys. All new ways to get more pleasure in your life? I think that might be better than chocolate.

For a Flawless Experience, Try The:

READ: VibePad 2 by Orion: Sex Toy Review.


The Hot Octupuss Jett penis vibrator.The Hot Octopuss Jett Penis Vibrator.

Budget Picks:

The Waterslyde Bathtub Water Diverter.The Waterslyde Bathtub Water Diverter.


2. Cell-Phone Controlled Fun

Did you know remote-controlled toys have come a long way in the last 10 years?

Honestly, if you haven't picked up a recognizable brand's remote-controlled toy within the past 5 years, you're really missing out. While the signal on many generic toys is still a bit lacking, the technology is there for most name-brand options, and it's totally worth checking one out.

Not only does a cell phone make it easy to control your toy without awkwardly figuring out the buttons on the toy itself, but the app usually unlocks a ton of features you'd never get to see without your phone. We're talking:

  • Visual representation of the vibrations to easily know what power setting you're on.
  • Surrendered control to a nearby partner to control the functionality.
  • Surrendered control to a long-distance partner (anywhere in the world with the app and internet!) to control the functionality.
  • Synchronization to music or audio porn to really have an amazing time.
  • Synchronization to ambient noise to make your toy pleasure you to anything in your environment like your voice, a lover's voice, a favorite movie, or your music from your own sound system (gives you a new way to explore that "bass bath"!)

Of course, every specific brand is unique, and every specific app offers different features, but those are the usual suspects! Some apps even off a "hidden" mode that hides the vibrator control panel as a music player on your phone to make for ultra-discreet public play!

And when you don't feel like using the cell phone functionality, all of these Bluetooth-enabled sex toys can be used like standard vibrators too. There's no need to pair them with their technologically-advanced counterparts. It's like a two-in-one experience!

For a Flawless Experience, Try The:

The Lovense Hush 2.The Lovense Hush 2.

Budget Options:

The Satisfyer Deep Diver.The Satisfyer Deep Diver.

3. Unlock New Positions

OK, OK: I know this one is a lot to swallow at once, but hear me out.

Sex furniture can make a drastic difference in your sex life -- even if you're single! It helps support you in the ways that usually make your muscles strain, and it helps make your erogenous zones more accessible by placing your body into the angles needed to expose those zones!

It can even hold your sex toys for you for realistic "riding" sensations whether you're using a stroker, dildo, or vibrator!

READ: Love Life Need a Boost? Sex Furniture Will Put You In Position.

Once you add a partner into the mix, sex furniture gets even more valuable. It can support the hips during oral sex to reduce neck strain for a partner, and it can place one of you at the perfect angle to help make for effortless g-spot/p-spot sensations during your usual intercourse. It can help make space (or reduce space!) between the two of you to add in sex toys. If you're a bit kinky, it can add bondage anywhere and everywhere the sex furniture can go.

And of course, it simply opens up hundreds of sex positions that weren't previously possible!

Honestly, the word "furniture" conjures up prices that look like shopping at your local furniture store, but prices for a piece of sex furniture start at $95 -- and average around $140 to $190.

My suggestions for this Valentine's Day would include:

A Sex Toy Mount

Three Sex Toy mounts.

I have yet to find anyone who isn't amazed by sex toy mounts. They take the toys you already know, love, and use and turn them into hands-free contraptions. Simply slide your sex toy into the super-firm shape, and it keeps it held tight for hands-free use.

For Vibrators and Dildos, Try The:

For Wand Massagers, Try The:

For Penis Strokers, Try The:

A Wedge-Shaped Option

The Liberator Wedge.

There are lots of fancy shapes in the world of sex furniture, but a simple wedge will make the biggest impact if you're only going to pick up one. The angle can elevate the hips for intercourse, oral sex, or even self-play! (No more friction on the base of your bed with the base of your dildo!)

It can function as a supportive "shelf" for the receiver during doggy style positions to reduce knee and back strain while making the position more comfortable, and it can also be used underneath the penetrating partner's legs in partner-on-top positions to get a penetration angle that better hits the g-spot and p-spot.

And really, that's just the start of your sex position options! There are hundreds more including the Bind and Bang, Hamstring Stretch, Bound Love Triangle, Pitch Perfect, Little Lift, the Over-the-Wedge position and more.

Liberator Black Label Wedge | Kinkly Shop

If you'd like the option to explore bondage with your Wedge in the future, go with the Liberator Black Label Wedge. It includes two bonus bondage points where you can attach the included cuffs. Simply ignore the bondage points when you're looking for your sex to be a bit more streamlined. It includes a blindfold too!

If you'd like extra width to support your bodies, consider the Liberator Wedge in Plus. (And Liberator shapes have no weight limit!)

4. Explore a New Erogenous Zone

Let's be real: most of us have our pathways to pleasure and orgasm, and we may not mix it up all that often. And y'know what? That's OK!

If you want to orgasm the way that feels best to your body until the day you die -- and never change it up -- you do you!

But if you're looking for a bit of adventure in your sex life this Valentine's Day, don't just experiment with new flavors of chocolate -- pick a new erogenous zone to explore! If you're usually into clitoral stimulation, consider experimenting with the g-spot. For you penis-loving pals, the prostate isn't far away. Anyone can enjoy the world of nipple stimulation or anal play too!

Luckily, companies know that exploring a new zone can be a bit scary, so there are toys and kits designed to make it all as seamless as possible, such as:

The b-Vibe Anal Training Set

Everything that's included within the b-Vibe Anal Training Kit against a white background. The image shows the small plug, the medium plug, the large plug, the enema bulb, the lube shooter, and the full-color educational booklet. Plus the packaging! | Kinkly Shop

If your end goal of exploring your butt is to engage with anal sex with a partner (or standard-sized dildo), the b-Vibe Anal Training Set is your go-to kit. Including three butt plugs in various sizes, the largest plug warms the body up to be about ready for anal intercourse. Not only does this help you explore your anal region for the first time, it also functions as a warm-up toy for years down the line when you want to engage in that anal intercourse.

Did I mention that each one of the plugs comes with different features to help you explore whether you like weighted plugs, vibrating plugs and more? Or that the kit also comes with an illustrated color booklet with everything you need to know about anal play and how to use the exact items in the kit?

Go on. You know you want to.

Fun Factory Limba Flex

Limba Flex dildos

Want to find your prostate or g-spot this Valentine's Day? The Limba Flex is a great option. Its claim to fame is its bendable design. Simply bend it into an angle you think might work, give it a try, and recalibrate for your next attempt. You can create the perfect angle for your needs to find out exactly where your pleasure spot is. Once you have that information, you can make informed choices about future toy purchases too!

Nexus Beginner Anal Kit

Everything included in the Nexus Beginner Anal Kit. It shows the enema bulb, anal beads, and small anal plug. | Kinkly Shop

If you want to explore anal sensations with no end goal in mind, I'd highly recommend the Nexus Beginner Anal Kit. Including an enema bulb and two toys, the kit helps you explore some of the basic styles of anal toys.

Blush Temptasia Twist Kit

Blush Temptasia Twist Kit | Kinkly Shop

If you rarely explore penetration, things might be uncomfortably tight when you try.

A kit with incremental toy sizes, like the Blush Temptasia Twist Kit, can be exactly what the sex expert ordered. Start with the slimmest dildo for easier penetration while also cataloguing what spots feel best. Work up to the larger toys (if you want!) while simultaneously figuring out what toy diameters and lengths feel best for your body for future dildo and vibrator purchases.

Neon Wand

Kinklab Neon Wand - Red Handle - Kinkly Shop

As my final suggestion, I offer the Kinklab Neon Wand. If you've never explored the world of electro-sex, you're in for a treat. On the lower settings, the tip of the Neon Wand feels like the most erotic fingernails that have ever touched your skin. Designed for beginners to e-stimulation, the Neon Wand is literally a plug-and-play device (well, after your read the instructions!).

Down the line, you can add elec-terrific paddles, floggers, and more -- or you can simply make every touch electrified with the Power Tripper that turns your fingers into a Neon Wand. The Neon Wand encourages you to explore those often-neglected erogenous zones like the back of the knees or the inner elbows, and boy, does it feel delicious while you're doing it!


However you're celebrating this Valentine's Day, you deserve to feel good -- and sex toys can help.

Mistress Kay

Mistress Kay has a fondness for all things sexual. With a house that's quickly running out of room for all of her reading and vibrating pleasures, she spends her free time reading, writing, and learning about the sexual universe with her partners. She can be reached at Kinky World.

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