How do I use Ben Wa balls?

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My girlfriend is into some kinky things. I would like to get involved by starting with using Ben Wa balls with her. How do I use Ben Wa balls on my girlfriend?


First, you should make sure that she is in to the idea of using Ben Wa balls. Some people do have a fear that things, such as Ben Wa balls, might get stuck inside of them. Even if they don't openly admit to the fear, a subconscious fear could tighten the pelvic muscles enough that it will make it hard to remove the balls.

Once you and your girlfriend discuss it and if she is OK with it, then you pick out a set of Ben Wa balls. Many have retrieval strings which should help relieve any fears about them becoming stuck inside. The short answer on how to use them is that you simply put them in. She uses her pelvic muscles to keep them inside. If, for whatever reason, you all do have a hard time removing the Ben Wa balls, you can try the following proven methods to get them out:

  1. She can do jumping jacks. This takes the focus of her brain off of the balls and the muscles that are holding them in. The Ben Wa balls will drop out.
  2. She can take a hot bath to relax her muscles and the Ben Wa balls will come out more easily.
  3. Make her orgasm. When she orgasms, all of her muscles will tighten and then relax. When her muscles relax, the ben wa balls will come right out. Be careful with this one, though! The Ben Wa balls could actually be pushed out with quite a bit of force.

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