What do you think of when you think about Tantra? Sting and his 12-hour sexual marathons? Travelling to remote parts of India to learn secrets passed down by gurus? The idea of Tantra can seem a little mystical and out of reach to the average person, but that isn’t actually the case.
In fact, becoming Tantric can be as easy as picking up a book on the subject and trying out a few exercises. There are some great books out there for learning the basics of Tantra, and you don’t even need a partner to get started.
Here are six books that demystify Tantra for a Western audience and bring infinite orgasmic bliss well within your reach.
"The Art of Sexual Ecstasy" by Margot Anand
Margot Anand has spent decades learning about the connection between sex and spirit from leading experts such as Osho. She is the founder of Skydancing Tantra, which weaves together sexology, yoga, music and metaphysics together in her own unique form.
This book has really easy-to-follow, step-by-step instructions for beginning Tantra. It also includes a chapter on learning to truly love yourself before loving others, and how Tantra can help us to heal from difficult sexual experiences. There’s plenty useful tips here for those not in relationships as well.
"Tantra: Sex For The Soul" by Niyaso Carter
Niyaso Carter was studying Tantra in India when most of her peers had gone off to college. In this audiobook, she presents practical exercises that can allow you to begin using Tantra right away. One of the most inspiring messages is that really Tantra isn’t about anything "fancy;" it's the natural, instinctive way we were born to have sex. It’s full of great tips if you want to communicate with a long-term partner or turn a stale relationship Tantric. If you feel like there’s something missing when it comes to sex in a long-term relationship then this audio recording is for you. On the downside, this recording may come across as heterocentric, as the main focus is on heterosexual couples.
"Urban Tantra" by Barbara Carellas
This is a book to help city dwellers stay spiritual amidst the hustle and bustle of city life. Carrellas is a true storyteller, describing how she could feel the spiritual energy of Tantra even as a lap dancer. It’s a great book for demystifying some of the myths about Tantra, going beyond the assumption that it is practiced only by white, middle-class heterosexual couples.
This is a Tantra book for everyone, and shows how it can be practiced by real people, living real urban lives. There is a section on 20-minute Tantra and one on Tantric BDSM. There are also some simple instructions for pleasuring those with a penis, or a clitoris, that are very easy to incorporate into everyday sex, whatever your Tantric experience. If you want a book that moves beyond the male-female-masculine-feminine binary then this is it.
"The Ipsalu Formula: A Method for Tantric Bliss" by Bodhi Avinasha
Ipsalu Tantra is a philosophy deeply rooted in the lineage of ancient yogic masters. While this book will transform your sex life it also goes beyond sex and shows how Tantra is a way of life that can allow you to become more loving, compassionate, creative, vital and authentic in all areas of your life. Prepare for powerful practices that will allow you to awaken Kundalini (your cosmic consciousness), and transform not just your sex life, but life itself.
"Liberation Into Orgasm" by Sofia Sundari
This is a beautifully written book that will take you on an orgasmic journey. Whether you’ve never had an orgasm, or have had plenty but have always felt there was something more to sex, then Sofia Sundari’s compassionate voice will guide you there.
"Liberation into Orgasm" teaches how to reunite sex with spirit, how orgasm can be a full-body experience. There’s also an illuminating chapter on anal orgasms, and how these can bring blissful release to people who feel heavy or tired and tend to like to be in control of everything. Seems like there’s some truth to the phrase "anal retentive!"
The book also eloquently describes how pleasure is everywhere, and not just confined to sex itself. It's the perfect guide to making every moment orgasmic!
"Sensation" by Isabel Losada
This is not a how-to Tantra book but the memoir of a woman diving into sacred sexuality for the first time. Isabel Losada is an open-minded, yet slightly reserved, Brit who decides it’s time to reignite her sex life.
Through Losada's hilarious accounts, you can learn about orgasmic meditation, Shakti Tantra and why we are actually capable of having 11 types of orgasms. Tantra books are a great way to begin, but real-life workshops are the way to go if you want to deepen your practice and learn from experts. If that makes you feel a little nervous, then Losada's adventures will help you feel brave enough to dip your toe in too.