The road to mediocre sex is paved with repetition. Unless "mediocre" is the kind of sex you want to have, it's important to keep mixing things up, trying things out and approaching things from new angles (sometimes literally!).
When it comes to oral sex, you have so many different opportunities to explore your partner’s body. Why waste them on the same old, same old?
So, here are some oral sex positions designed to give you a new spin on mouth lovin’.
With three positions designed to please partners with penises (i.e., fellatio positions) and three positions designed to please partners with vaginas (i.e., cunnilingus positions), there’s a little something for everyone! Enjoy!
If You're Giving It: This is perhaps, logistically, the best position from which to achieve the elusive deepthroat. It puts the mouth and throat into one long line, enabling you to more easily take more of your partner's genitals or strap-on into your mouth.
Because your partner has so much freedom to move here, use your hands to steer the motion and keep things comfortable for you. Relax your throat and enjoy the sensation of balls on your eyelids! ;-)
If You're Getting It: If you are receiving in this position, be aware you might need to kneel, squat or otherwise adjust your height to line up with your partner’s mouth. Also, be sensitive and aware so as not to choke your partner. It’s a good idea to observe a "tap out" hand signal that indicates when your partner needs a break.
READ: How to Deep Throat
If You're Giving It:Here, your partner lays on one side and lifts their top leg. You place your head between their legs and the rest of your body behind theirs so your head rests on their thigh. Your partner lays back while you get to work. This position gives you unfettered access to the penis and testicles and great angles to really get into it. You can even wrap your arms around their legs for more leverage.
If You're Getting It: If you are receiving in this position, you can just lie back and enjoy it. Or, try reaching back with your top arm to touch your partner.
If You're Giving It: This one's fun, but a little more mellow. Your partner assumes the same position as in the Peepshow position above but, this time, when you place your head between their legs, you flip the whole thing around!
Your legs will end up near your partner’s face and you will, once again, rest your head on their lower thigh. This position is better for taking things a little slower.
If You're Getting It: If you are receiving in this position, your partner’s body is right there in front of you! That means you have great access for manual stimulation or using a body-safe sex toy. With all of that space, larger toys like wand massagers can also play a part here!
If You're Giving It: Get your lover to hop on and take this position for a ride. Lay back (perhaps with a pillow or sex prop supporting your head slightly) and have your partner kneel and straddle your face.
In this position, you can offer more stimulation by moving your head (not just your mouth) up and down and side to side as you use your tongue.
READ: How to Give Great Oral Sex.
If You're Getting It: If you are receiving in this position you can get into a "riding" motion if both you and your partner are comfortable. Be aware of your partner’s ability to breathe, though. This is another good time to employ a "tap-out" signal.
If You're Giving It: Just like in the Lady Godiva, you get to lay back with a pillow or blanket (in this case maybe two -- neck support will be important here), propping your head up while your partner lies face up on your belly with their legs on either side of your head.
If You're Getting It: If you are receiving in this position, make sure you bring yourself close enough to your partner’s mouth so they don't have to strain to reach you. Then, just lay back and enjoy.
If You're Giving It: Those who enjoy the doggy style sex position might also enjoy this one.
READ: Doggy Style Position: How to ACTUALLY Make it Feel Good.
The Up the Middle Position is an easy oral position with similar posturing to doggy style. Have your partner get on their hands and knees, facing away from you, with a slight arch in their back and their knees spread wide.
This position will allow you to easily access your partner’s entire genital region and play with angles and approaches to find what feels best. You can also reach forward and stimulate your partner’s nipples or breasts in this position.
If You're Getting It: If you are receiving in this position, you can lower your chest all the way to the bed/floor/counter/tarmac so as to create an even more accessible angle for your hips.
According to data from the National Survey of Family Growth, released in 2016, nearly nine in 10 people have given oral sex in their lifetime. The numbers make it all to clear: People like mouth stuff.
If you do too, don't hold yourself back from all the great sex positions out there for oral sex. These positions put a new spin on oral action. And that can make all the difference.
READ: How to Make Trying New Sex Positions Your Next Big Sex Adventure.
JoEllen is a writer, speaker, researcher and mental health advocate whose work explores the impact of depression on sex and relationships. Since 2012 she has written about sex, mental health, and how none of us are broken on her award-winning site The Redhead Bedhead.
JoEllen's book The Monster Under the Bed: Sex, Depression & The Conversation We Aren’t Having is now available in paperback, ebook, and audiobook.
