5 Ways to Add Heat to Long-Distance Love Affairs

The term "long-distance" can be daunting in the context of an intimate relationship. Whether you and your lover are apart due to quarantine, travel restrictions, a business trip, or some other reason, you may worry it will negatively impact or even kill the relationship. This is an understandable concern. There really is no replacement for being in the same room with someone you fancy, able to reach out and share sensual touch.

The good news is twofold:

• We have an incredible ability to adapt to challenging situations, particularly temporary ones. If you’re both committed to the task and willing to put in the effort to keep the spark alive while you’re apart, no one can stop you.

• At the end of the day, the seed of emotional and physical intimacy lives in the mind. By tickling and teasing each other’s brains in the right way, it’s certainly possible to keep your connection passionate from afar. And thankfully these days, with sexy technology on our side, we have more ways than ever to stay in touch.

Rather than diving into a long-distance situation with worry at the forefront of your mind, you might take it as an opportunity to learn more about one another and work on your non-physical communication skills. When you can finally see each other once more, you’ll both be equipped with an arsenal of new information and ideas to try. Check out these five methods for keeping your long-distance love affair intimate and fun.

1. App-enabled Sex Toys

App-enabled sex toys like air suction vibrators and vibrating cock rings can be used from short and long-distance locations around the world. All you and your partner need is the toy itself, a smartphone with the product’s corresponding app, and a stable internet connection. The app works like a remote control, allowing whoever holds the phone to turn the toy on or off and adjust its settings. Imagine getting your partner off from an entirely different continent. Pretty magical!

Satisfyer (with the Satisfyer Connect app) is one of the companies offering high tech toys to help add some spice to pleasure-from-a-distance. Features include being able to remote control yours or your partner's toy while you video chat, the ability to create your own vibrations, to experience your favourite song in vibrational rhythm or to even turn ambient sounds into vibrational patterns. If your partner is open to using toys, these can make great gifts. Who wouldn’t want to be surprised with a vibrator delivered to their door?

2. Phone Sex

Phone sex is a fun option that falls between sexting and video sex, which is great if you’re not up for playing on camera. Simply have a nice sensual chat and let your imagination run wild. The sound of a lover’s voice can be a powerful aphrodisiac.

Read: 11 Expert Tips for Phone Sex Beginners

The art of phone sex needn’t be limited to discussing what you wish you could do to each other. There are playful ways to make voice calls far naughtier and more creative. You might, for instance, give your partner step-by-step instructions on how to edge and please themselves, read them erotica as a bedtime story, or roleplay a conversation between kinky personas you’ve always wanted to play.

To make these conversations satisfying, you’ve got to get inside your partner’s mind and figure out what makes them tick. What kinds of ideas, images, and dynamics arouse them? What are some sexual activities they’d like to try? Do they have any particularly interesting stories that might give you insight into what they like to experience? Ask questions and share your own answers as well.

3. Video Sex

Add video to your audio calls via Zoom, Skype, FaceTime, or another platform and your options for sexy fun expand considerably. You can watch one another masturbate, do a sexy striptease, cook naked together in your respective kitchens, or simply stare into each other’s eyes while you talk about intimate topics.