Many people have said it, but in my opinion Salt-N-Pepa said it best: "Opinions are like assholes, everybody’s got one". Normally the focus of that bon mot is that everyone has an opinion. But seriously folks, everybody, regardless of gender, has a butt. That being the case, butt plugs are kind of the unsung hero of the sexual world. Everyone (health allowing) can use one, they can be used in a variety of scenarios, they can be used discreetly in public, and while many toys require you to adjust your activity to accommodate them (with the potential consequence of making it all about the toy) anal plugs are team players with the ability to enhance experiences that aren’t all about the butt. Seriously, if you’ve got a butt (and, as we’ve established, you probably do) adding a plug to your routine can be a fun way to add a little spice, take things to the next level, and explore a whole new world of sensation. Today we’re going to talk about times when it can be fun to use a butt plug.

Before we get started, remember that when engaging in any kind of anal play it’s important to go slow and use lots of lubricant. I prefer a thick water-based formula for anal play because the thickness offers a bit of a cushiony feeling and the water-based formula is safe for use with silicone toys. My lube of choice for anal play is Sliquid Organics Gel. Additionally, for safety's sake, you want any plug you use to have a flared base as that will prevent the toy from being pulled irretrievably into your body, resulting in an uncomfortable ER trip. Remember "without a base, without a trace."

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Date Night!

What?! OK, hear me out here. There are a couple of ways to play this: you could pop your plug in while you get ready for your date. This has the dual benefit of prepping your bum for any anal play that may happen later and giving you an extra sexy kick as you feel it inside you.

Or, if you are feeling adventurous, you can wear it out on the town during your date. Tell your partner about what you've got going on on your way out the door and watch them with you all evening. You’ll get to enjoy the sensation of the plug shifting and undulating whenever you move - and your partner will enjoy knowing you’re being stimulated when you’re out in public together! For extra fun, make it a vibrating plug with a remote control like the b-Vibe Novice and give the remote to your partner. You’ll never know when to expect the vibrations to kick in and the two of you can enjoy covert teasing all evening. By the time you get home, you’ll be (ahem) rearing to go! (sorry, I couldn’t resist!)

5 Times Butt Plugs Can take Your Sex To The Next Level
Try the b-Vibe Novice Plug for teasing your partner in public - or private!

Oral Sex

Whether you’re giving or receiving, a butt plug can take the oral experience to the next level!

When you’re on the giving side, the sensations provided by the plug will add a new level of sensuality to your experience. If you’re the one on the receiving end, the extra stimulation provided by a butt plug - especially as the pelvic muscles contract causing the plug to shift - can add a whole new dimension to the oral sex experience. For folks who find orgasm elusive, that added dimension and increased sensation may be just the thing to bring them over the edge!

The b-Vibe Rimming Plug is an awesome choice for use during oral sex due to its unique design. Rotating beads in the neck mimic the sensation of analingus - suddenly it’s like there’s another partner there, even if it’s just the two of you! (Learn more in Rimming: A Guide to Positions, Safety and Techniques.)

Sensation Play

I don’t know about you but sensation play (spanking, flogging, electrostimulation, temperature play, etc.) makes me wiggle around like a happy little worm. A plug can add a whole new dimension of pleasure to this type of play; as you wiggle and squirm, your plug wiggles and squirms with you. By adding a butt plug to your sensation play you add internal sensations that can intensify every time you experience an external sensation (i.e. with each thwack of a paddle). It’s a fun way to grow your sensation experience.

Vaginal Intercourse

This one is kind a classic and for good reason! For the partner on the receiving end, a butt plug can make everything a bit tighter, which some find can serve to shift what is being stimulated. Suddenly, the G-spot gets much more stimulation due to the new, smaller, tighter space. In addition, a vibrating plug can introduce a whole new world of sensation to penetration that, for some, can take sex from OK to OMG.

For someone with a prostate, a butt plug can enhance the vaginal intercourse experience by adding prostate stimulation to every single thrust. Some toys are actually designed to work with the muscular contractions of the body to provide hand-free prostate stimulation while others, Iike the b-Vibe Trio Plug, deliver vibration directly to the area. I like to say it’s "set it and forget it" stimulation because with a plug of the right size and shape, the prostate stimulation can end up feeling almost effortless.

5 Times Butt Plugs Can take Your Sex To The Next Level
The b-Vibe Trio's three separate motors can take sex from OK to OMG.

Power Play

If you already know you enjoy butt stuff and power play, putting the two together can be a recipe for success. If you are new to power play but into butt stuff, plugs can be a fun way to dip your toes into the submission waters. New to both and curious? That’s great too! Negotiate beforehand so both partners are on the same page (because, remember, power play is always consensual and negotiated). The partner who is in charge can select a plug and issue an instruction such as "You must wear this for two hours before I come home so you are nice and ready for me when I arrive." In this situation, the plug pulls double duty as it stimulates both body and mind! In addition to feeling great physical sensations, it will serve as a constant reminder of your partner and their plans for later.

So, there you go folks, five times a butt plug can take your sex to the next level - and that's just the beginning! If you're curious I recommend picking up a plug (and some lube, don't forget the lube!) and doing some exploring. You never know how a butt plug might enhance your favorite sexy time activity!