Anatomy's a Bitch
Where the G-spot is located is different for every woman; so is its location, size and sensitivity. Researchers say that in general, the G-spot is located on the front of the vaginal wall at the opening. That said, vaginal length, pelvis length and the size of the G-spot within a specific woman all vary. In one vagina the G-spot may be higher up, lower, larger, more receptive to stimulation, easily irritated, etc. What that means is that while an instructed method of G-spot stimulation may send one woman over the moon, it might only create discomfort in another. (Get some tips in G-Spot Hunting: How to Find It ... and Its Elusive Orgasm.)
There's also a huge disbelief that all women enjoy having their G-spots stimulated. Many do, but many don’t. If it's not your cup of tea, that's fine.
Finally, the liquid that is released during true female ejaculation is prostatic fluid. Scientifically speaking, there's still some debate about whether all women can even produce this liquid.
The best way to stimulate your G-spot is to discover a way that works for you. The books are great for general tips, but after that some self-exploration or some help from a partner is the best way to find what rocks your body.
You Just Have to Relax
There's a bit of irony in all the instructional articles and videos on how to achieve female ejaculation. That's because the best way to make it happen is to let it happen naturally. Trying all the new G-spot toys, creams, gels and other products on the market may be a waste of time and money if you don't know your body. I’ve seen full on kits with gels, creams, a toy and a map (yes, a map). The truth is that they won't help if you don't learn to let your body naturally find its rhythm. Pay attention to how your body reacts to different types of stimulation and keep mental notes of what works and what doesn’t. Pay attention to your body and listen to its cues. Finally, stop being so focused on squirting. I guarantee the results will include more pleasure. Consider squirting a bonus.
Also remember that it’s also completely fine if you don’t squirt. As long as you’re happy, healthy and sexually connected with yourself and your partner you are well on your way to having better sex. And really, isn't that what the fascination with squirting is all about?