What if the love of your life was a sex god? Hey, it happens. Take it from Marie Franklin, blogger-in-chief at I Married a Sex God. It's a straight-up, honest blog about kinky, sexy, fun sex in a committed relationship. As part of our Sex Blogger Directory project we profile a sex blogger each and every month. Here's this month's interview with Marie Franklin. Enjoy!

Kinkly: Give us three words that describe your blog.


Marie Franklin: Educational, fun and sexy.


Kinkly: What inspired you to start the blog?

Marie Franklin: I'm in a kinky monogamous marriage and I just love sex. I used to look for blogs and websites that had edgy information about committed but extremely kinky sex and I really couldn't find any. So I started my own. I have a lot of sexual knowledge and fun information to share and I'm not a half bad writer, either. My blog has turned out to be something I'm really proud of.


Kinkly: What’s behind the name?


Marie Franklin: I really did marry a Sex God so I figured, why not "I Married a Sex God"? I like the title because it makes people curious.


Kinkly: Who’s your target reader?


Marie Franklin: I want to reach readers who are interested in sexuality in general. I write about a wide variety of sexual topics. I'm also pretty funny, so many of my posts are just outright goofy and are meant to make the reader laugh. I want readers who like to intellectually explore different ideas about sex and who are sex positive (or becoming sex positive). My blog also appeals to people who are in monogamous relationships, but I cover a lot of other topics that have nothing to do with monogamy.


Kinkly: What’s unique about your blog?


Marie Franklin: There are so many great sex blogs, but most of them are not about committed, monogamous sex. In fact, people rarely consider "married or monogamous sex" to be "good sex". I want to change this perception. I know that there is a lot of research and evidence showing that monogamy kills our sex drive, and this is especially so for women. But I believe this doesn't need to be the case. By just changing our perception of what is possible in monogamy we can find ways to sustain and renew our desire for our long term partners. In my blog I talk about ways to to do this. I want people to know it is possible to have a crazy-good sex life within monogamy and/or marriage.

I'm not trying to promote monogamy itself, nor marriage. I am truly sex positive, I have a poly past, and I stand behind all lifestyle choices, orientations and types of sex and relationships. But while there are already a lot of great blogs that explore non-monogamy, casual sex, kink, swinging, group sex, sex clubs, sex work, porn, erotic, etc...there isn't much out there about great kinky and monogamous sex. The words "kink and monogamy" are frequent searches used by people who find my blog.

But again ... I love and accept all lifestyles. I'm not a hater on non-monogamy or anyone's choices and I do know that all types of sex and sex partners can be excellent. I just want to put monogamy back into the mix as one of many sexy lifestyle choices we could make.


Kinkly: What is the topic you find yourself covering most often and why?


Marie Franklin: I have developed something I call the Sexual Proclivity Scale and I've used it in several blog posts. The scale itself is a discussion tool. The discussion I'm beginning has to do with how sexual we are, as individuals, and how this very important information about you plays out in your life and in the world at large. For a simple example, if you are gray sexual, you most likely will not be happy in a relationship if you have a sex partner who is highly sexual. The highly sexual partner most likely won't be happy either.

The more sexually self-aware you are, the more you can deliberately strive toward your most fulfilling sex life. Ultimately, this is the point of the discussion I've begun, but there is a lot more to it. This post covers the topic and has links to other posts I've written about it. (The post is called How Sexual Are You?)


Kinkly: What was your most popular post ever? Why do you think it drew so many readers?


Marie Franklin: This one is easy to answer, and also easy to figure out why it drew so many readers. My most popular post BY FAR, was the one called simply: Boobs.


Kinkly: What’s the best thing about writing a sex blog?


Marie Franklin: I really love all the wonderful feedback I'm getting. You never really know what will happen when you put yourself and your ideas out there. You can be slammed to pieces by mean comments, or you may get legit feedback but it might be negative. I really didn't know if what I was about to share would be interesting to others when I started. But everyone I know personally who I've shared it with has told me they really love my blog. And the feedback from other sex bloggers and writers has been so flattering and encouraging. It feels great that people seem to be getting what I'm saying. I feel I have valuable information I can share, and a lot of people have written to me and thanked me for sharing it.


Kinkly: What’s the worst thing about it?


Marie Franklin: I haven't encountered anything bad about having a sex blog, thus far, which is very cool. (Knocks wood). (He he, I said wood).


Kinkly: OK, now for the good stuff: Give us your best tip for great sex.


Marie Franklin: Get physically fit! The stronger you are and the more stamina you have, the better sex you are capable of. And don't forget to stretch regularly. Being flexible, strong and having endurance makes you a Sexual Athlete. And take dance lessons! Everyone who wants to have good sex should learn to lead or follow, or even learn both. There is an energy that is transferable to your sex life that you develop when you take dance lessons, and then you perfect it with another person (or multiple people) with practice. You have to learn to lead or follow to find out what this energy is, but once you do, you can never lose it.