Published: AUGUST 11, 2021 | Updated: JUNE 6, 2022 02:06:23
When it comes to comfortable, pleasurable anal sex, little adjustments can make a huge difference. Which is your favorite position for great anal sex?

Welcome to Anal August! You might be a seasoned anal enthusiast or yet to pop that backdoor cherry, but chances are you will find something to like here. Check out these great anal sex positions, then lube up and get busy. Which one will be your favorite?


When it comes to anal sex, it's impossible to over-emphasize the necessary components for a safe, pleasurable time: communication, relaxation and lubrication (lots of it!). That said, every attempt is different, so try not to put too much pressure on each session. It takes time to develop the comfort and experience necessary for dealing with the back door. Here are six anal sex positions that can help make the experience more fun - and provide some options for spicing things up. Add patience, communication and time, and you'll be on your way to enjoying the best butt sex your body can have.

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Missionary ... Served Extra Hot the Happy Baby Position

Did you know that when your back is curved, the rectum straightens out? Well, now you do, and it's good news for anal sex, because it makes penetration more comfortable. In this modified missionary position, the receiver's legs legs can be bent and held, or rested on the giver’s shoulders; they can even be curved around the giver’s waist. Having the receiver rest their feet flat against the giver's chest can give the receiver a way to control the depth and speed of penetration, which might be especially reassuring for backdoor newbies. If the receivers hold their knees to their chest in a Happy Baby Position, it can put extra pressure on their prostate/G-spot, which might feel really good, although that position might become uncomfortable rather quickly.

The Little Lift Position

Little Lift Position

Doggy-style is a classic anal sex position, but in this Little Lift Position variation, the receiver's head and upper body are lowered onto the bed. Lying on some pillows (or, better yet, a sex Wedge, like Liberator's) will help support the receiver during anal sex. At this angle, stimulation of the prostate and G-spot is enhanced, as these are closer to the surface in this position.

Not being face to face with your partner means they might not see if you are making a face if something hurts or if it feels extremely "so good, right there, keep doing THAT" so be sure to be vocal about what feels good and what doesn't.


Flat-Out Fun

Flat-Out Fun position

In this cozy position that we like to call the speed bump, prop the receiver’s ass up with a pillow. Cuddle up and ie flat on top to enter the receiver. This position allows for deeper penetration and the slower rocking strokes that some receivers find more comfortable. Having your bodies pressed together allows for nice gentle touches and kissing if you are feeling in a romantic mood.

Top Swap

seated ball position


Having the receiver on top in the seated ball position gives them full control of the speed and depth of penetration - a real bonus in anal sex. The top can either straddle and face the giver, or face away from the giver, as shown. Facing each other gives the benefits of face to face communicating as well as kissing. When the receiver faces away, they can stimulate their own genitals, but communication might be lessened when you don't see each other's face. However, facing away from each other might also provide better alignment depending on the curve of the dildo or penis being used.

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Simple, Sexy Spooning

Simple, Sexy Spooning position

This is a great position in that it is highly flexible, comfortable and accommodating to couples of varying sizes. Spooning is great for anal sex on a lazy day when you just want to take your time and enjoy each other. It doesn't require a lot of acrobatics or physical exertion. Laying side by side generally means penetration is a bit shallower than in other positions, but it leaves your hands free to touch each other or use a sex toy if you are so inclined.

Bend-Over Bliss

Bend-Over Bliss position

To get into the crouching tiger position, have the receiver stand, bent over, while pressing their palms into the floor. If bending this far is difficult or uncomfy, try holding onto furniture or the wall to be entered from behind. Do not fear using furniture to accommodate varying heights here (isn't that what bedroom furniture is for?) While this has a classic porn feel to it, being taken from behind while bending over has a tendency to make the receiver quite literally feel weak in the knees - but also in a good way.

Final Tip: Get Creative

As with any kind of sex, finding ways to be creative and adventurous go a long way. Using props and furniture, toys, hands, tongues and genitals in different combinations can be really fun and rewarding for both partners. Just remember that with anal sex, it's important to be patient and communicative. Real pleasure is worth the effort.

If you're into anal sex - or want to be - there are two standout resources that can help make it both as safe and pleasurable as possible. Check out "The Ultimate Guide to Prostate Pleasure" by Charlie Glickman & Aislinn Emirzian, and "The Ultimate Guide to Anal Sex for Women" by Tristan Taormino.

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