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Whichever camp you’re in, here are some ideas for how to use various kinds of vibrators in new or less expected ways! Using toys can be a great way to explore. Try using a bullet or a smaller wand to explore all around your genitals and take the time to discover what feels good.
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Try one that can Vibrators aren’t just for people with vulvas! Many people with penises also enjoy the sensation and there are a lot of options of ways to play. Some people like vibration right on the frenulum (the sensitive spot where the foreskin attaches, or where the circumcision scar is). Alternately, a vibrator can The perineum (or taint) is also a great place to press a deep, rumbly vibrator. From that spot it will You don’t even need to be naked for vibrator play. Try starting to tease yourself before clothes even come off. Use a vibrator on nipples over a bra and shirt and between the legs through pants. With a strong enough vibe, you might even If you prefer playing naked, try taking a waterproof vibrator into the bath or shower with you. A vibrator can be a lovely complement to the tease of a not-quite-strong-enough shower head and can also be part of a lengthily relaxation and self-care session. Try using more than one toy at a time to explore with more intense levels of stimulation. Use a butt plug and a vaginal insertable toy at the same time, and provide clit stimulation too. You can use a multi-tasking “rabbit” style toy or use three of your favorite toys at once. You may be amazed at the intense reaction you have to so much stimulation all at once. A curved rabbit vibrator, like If you always masturbate the same way, try changing things up with new positions - even if you’re using the same toys. Always lay on your back? Try doggy style, or humping a pillow. You can prop a toy on a pillow and press into it, either laying down or straddling it for entirely new sensations. Whatever toys and positions appeal to you, challenge yourself to try something new every week. It’s easy to get into a rut when we find something that works, but it’s incredibly valuable to explore a variety of ways to experience pleasure. Having a lot of tricks up your sleeve means you’re ready to roll with the punches as your body changes over time and things start to work differently. Trying new things also keeps you from getting bored, as one of the main things the human brain craves is novelty. So take yourself on a date, order food from a new restaurant, and try out a new toy or a new style of play!
Stella Harris is a certified intimacy educator, coach, and mediator, who uses a variety of tools to guide and empower her clients and she teaches everything from pleasure anatomy, to communication skills, to kink and BDSM. Stella has appeared at conferences across the US and Canada, and regularly provides workshops and guest lectures to colleges and universities. Stella’s writing has appeared widely, including a weekly sex advice column in her local paper. Highlights of her media appearances include speaking as an expert on Banana Slug sex and appearing on the evening news discussing the importance of sex education in schools.Stella is the author of two books, "Tongue Tied: Untangling Communication in Sex, Kink, and Relationships" and and "The Ultimate Guide to Threesomes." Learn more at www.stellaharris.net or follow @stellaharriserotica on Instagram.