Yes, Pleasure is Possible, Even With No Erection

Our bodies are mysterious things. This wild collection of tangible cells and bone and muscle combines with our non-tangible bits like feelings and emotions to somehow create amazing individuals who all vary in amazing ways. While we are all similar and share many common experiences, we are also all unique. And our bodies remind us of this every day.

Collectively speaking, many people have generally similar experiences and ideals, particularly within a shared culture or background. Is this nature or is it learned? That is certainly something up for discussion, but regardless of the reason, we’ve established some criteria for bodies that isn’t always reasonable—both sexually and generally. But our individual bodies don’t always want to conform to these expectations!

As with any body part, the penis doesn’t always behave as you want it to. Simply put, sometimes hoped-for erections just don’t happen. Every penis-haver finds themselves in this situation from time to time. Not being able to have an erection can be incidental, but it can also be a longer-term concern for some. Erectile dysfunction can happen for many different reasons and present in different ways. It can be the result of psychological reasons as well as many different physical causes. If you are experiencing erectile challenges, speak to your doctor about potential health concerns.

Unfortunately, lots of mainstream thought focuses on the idea that all penis pleasure is seated in getting an erection, maintaining that erection and then ejaculating. For too long, not being able to get or maintain a hard-on has been a source of ridicule and shame. Being the butt of jokes and not seeing your sexual reality reflected in society can add further stress and challenging feelings.

In reality, there are many different ways for a penis—and the people playing with it—to feel great regardless of its hardness. Let’s all repeat: an erection does not equal penis pleasure. The penis is a very versatile organ that offers many different pleasure potentials while flaccid, while erect and everywhere in between.

Arousing All Anatomy

In order to broaden our penis pleasure horizons to include both erect and non-erect possibilities, it is important to really get to know the various parts of the penis and surrounding anatomy, as well as the rest of the body. Let’s get a lay of the land before getting laid!

Glans

The glans is more commonly known as the head of the penis. It is the highly-sensitive squishy topper of the cock. For those who are not circumcised, the glans sits inside the foreskin when the penis is flaccid. If you are circumcised, the glans are predominantly exposed most of the time. The urethral opening sits near the top of the glans.

Frenulum

The frenulum is that little tuck of skin that sits directly under the urethral opening, on the underside of the penis. It can be extremely sensitive for some folks and may or may not be a choice spot for touch. Some people find it too sensitive to have attention concentrated there.

Shaft

The shaft is the "grower" part of the penis that expands in length and width during an erection. Shafts differ greatly among penis-havers—some are quite small when flaccid and others are larger. The size of a flaccid shaft does not necessarily reflect the final size of an erect penis.

Scrotum

Moving lower, the scrotum is the sack of skin that houses the vas deferens and the testicles. Watch it tense and loosen when the body is cold or hot, and also potentially as the haver approaches orgasm. Sensitivity of the scrotum depends on the person.

Perineum

Tucked in behind the scrotum is the perineum. This space of exposed skin varies in size, depending on the person. On the outside, it is plenty sensitive and responsive to touch. However, the perineum has an extra trick. Apply pressure externally and you can actually stimulate the prostate as well!

Anus

As the outermost ring of the digestive tract, the anus has a very important job. At the same time, it is a hotbed of pleasure that responds wonderfully to external touch and penetration.

Prostate

Dipping inside the body, most penis-havers also have a prostate. This walnut-sized gland that produces seminal fluid is also a hidden jewel of pleasure that responds very well to stroking and repeated penetrative caress.

The Rest of the Body

There are so many erogenous zones spread all over the body. Not everybody will enjoy touch in all of these areas, but be sure to explore the nipples, neck, armpits, buttocks, feet, chest, belly, fingers and many, many more!

Explore Your Pleasure Chest

We are living in the golden age of sex toys and folks with penises a truly reaping the pleasure potentials and orgasmic options now available. There are so many different pleasure playthings available these days, you’ll definitely find some that will appeal for when an erection is available and when it isn’t.

Vibrators

The touch of a vibrator is like a magic lightning bolt on a penis whether it is erect or not. Run a rumble number up and down the shaft, swirl it around the head or focus directly on the frenulum for amazing sensations. Any traditional vibrator can work for this, but cock-focused toys, such as the Hot Octopuss Pulse Solo Interactive Powered by KIIROO are shaped for the penis and hit all of the best spots effortlessly. Some are even hands-free! Another potential with the Pulse is that it’s specific vibration makes it possible for a flaccid penis to orgasm and ejaculate.