I'm Not Promiscuous Either
I’ve probably had more sex partners than the average person, but it doesn’t mean my sexual relationships are casual. Every so often, I’ll have a carefully vetted one-night stand or FWB scenario, but it’s definitely not the norm.
I'm Probably Not Going to Have a Threesome With You
When the stars align and the tide is right, threesomes can be a total blast. Sure, I’m attracted to men and women, but it doesn’t mean I’m always down for an all-you-can-eat buffet. I fully understand that in the world of swingers and open relationships, I’m a unicorn, aka the hard-to-find single female DTF. And as much as I appreciate a team approach to pleasure, me being your third is never a given.
Read: The Right - and Wrong - Way to Have a Threesome
There Are More of Us Than You Think
In Pew Research Center’s 2013 survey of LGBT Americans, 40 percent of respondents said they were bisexual. A few years prior, a 2011 analysis by UCLA’s Williams Institute found that bisexuals accounted for about 1.8 percent of the total U.S. adult population. We may not have widespread visibility, but we exist.
Bi-Erasure Is Alive and Well
Bisexuals have a complex identity and fall into a strange void. We’re mostly invisible or don’t fit into gay communities, much less the straight world at large. It doesn’t help that bisexuals are rarely represented in the media. I’ve been told to “pick a team," which is silly and unfair. I don’t need affirmation; I just don’t want my existence to be totally ignored. My identity is valid.
Sexuality can be confusing. It brings up endless questions and conflicting information. But it can also give way to beautiful conversations and self-discovery. Just because you like someone of the same sex doesn’t mean you’re gay. Ditto for liking the opposite sex; it doesn’t automatically make you straight. For me, bisexuality allows me to connect with a wide spectrum of people of all shades of queerness. And that’s pretty damn beautiful.