Some people like to talk through what they’re experiencing and verbalize it as a play-by-play. Others may use words like “F*ck,” “HELL YES” or “I’m coming!” to denote their orgasm. If you’re using words at the moment of climax, you’re simply expressing yourself with more than guttural moans and that is just fine.
Crying
Crying upon orgasm may seem, um, awkward. You may be embarrassed if you suddenly burst into tears when you’re not sad, you’re just feeling amazing.
Listen, you’re not alone. Crying is cathartic. “Crying is a completely natural release of emotion. Often, sex can be an intensely emotional experience that puts us in touch with the deep vulnerability and intimacy of being so connected to another person,” Bradbury says.
The same thing happens when we orgasm. We give into our emotions and let them flood over us. If you really think about it, it makes sense that crying would sometimes come along with orgasm.
Moaning
Moaning is our body's natural response to pleasure. It’s a primal urge and no-frills expression that something feels CRAZY GOOD. Have you ever had a really good massage and felt so amazing that you suddenly moaned? We’ve all been there.
Moaning is likely the most common sound we make when we’re orgasming. It is the release of emotion, the giving in to the pleasure we’re experiencing. Each person’s moans are unique to them and no matter how you sound, you’re normal.
Enjoy yourself! Let your partner feed off of your erotic energy. Moaning lets them know they’re doing a good job.
One toy that'll have you moaning in minutes flat? LELO's SONA Cruise. Read the review here.
Laughing
Do you laugh when you’re coming? Don’t worry! It’s a good thing. It doesn’t mean your partner is doing anything particularly silly or strange. You’re not really laughing because it’s just so damn wonderful! “Laughing denotes freedom and joy,” says Mckenzie.
You’re like a kid swinging freely on a swing. You’re laughing because you feel safe and wonderful. It’s totally fine to laugh when you orgasm. It’s a release.
No Sound at All
“This is particularly common among people who have a long history of needing to keep their orgasms quiet, so as not to attract the attention of parents or housemates. With enough time, it can become a habit,” says Sarah Martin, MA, a certified sex coach.
If you make no noise when you’re orgasming, it’s likely because you have some roots in the “shame” area of sex. Many of us were brought up without great sex education or with religious beliefs that made sex a “bad thing.”
That being said, there is nothing wrong with this as long as you’re experiencing pleasure. As we’ve said, all orgasms are different and what is truly important is that you’re having fun and enjoying your sex life. “For some people, a big exhale is as noisy as it gets, and that's ok!” Martin says.
If you're quiet, maybe a quiet vibrator is a must for you too. Check out the LELO Soraya, which emits a quiet hum even at high speeds.
If you don’t make noise, but want to … simply practice! Grab yourself a toy and try something simple like a moan or scream when you’re getting close to climax. It may even intensify the whole experience!
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