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Water Bondage 101

Published: MARCH 21, 2023
However quickly idea of combining bondage with water gets you rushing towards the nearest bathroom, pool, or hot tub, make sure to do it with an eye toward reducing risk and increasing safety.

We all know how luxuriously fun a warm bath or a steamy shower can be. Likewise, we know how arousing bondage scenes often are.


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READ: How to Tie Bondage Knots: A Guide for Beginners.

So why not merge these two equally exciting experiences into a single, extra-fun, additional-arousing experience?

That's precisely what water bondage is all about. Effectively, water bondage is when water is used for BDSM play in combination with bondage restraints. It typically involves restraining the submissive and either spraying them or dunking them into a body of water.


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But before you take the plunge (ha), especially with your hands and/or ankles restrained, it's crucial to know how to engage in water bondage safely.

Water Bondage Safety

Arousing though it most definitely is, it's important to know and accept that bondage is also inherently risky. From injuring the restrained person's joints, including the possibility of permanent nerve damage, to much worse, its potential hazards should never be ignored or dismissed. Those hazards are intensified when you add water.

So, first and foremost, learn as much as you can about water play and bondage, and then the two of them combined. Pay particular attention to how to play smart, be careful, and what to do in an emergency.


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While there's no way to make water bondage completely safe, you can make it far safer by following a few simple rules:

1. Don't Ever Fully Submerge Someone's Head

Even for an instant. In addition to them potentially aspirating water, harming their lungs or throat, they may panic, which might cause them to injure themselves or others.

2. Don't Ever Restrict or Interfere With Breathing

The bound person's airways should never be restricted or in interfered with in any way. That means gags are out -- including any you think might be safe, like bit gags.


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3. Don't Ever Leave Someone Unattended

Not for a minute; not for a second. That's because a second is all it takes for something -- anything -- to go disastrously wrong.

4. Don't Ever Play in an Unsafe Space

Unsafe spaces spaces are where you can't quickly or easily turn off the water or get someone out of a tub or shower. They are also places where the utmost precaution has not been taken to protect everyone involved. We recommend checking the water temperature by testing it on your wrist beforehand and keeping a thermometer nearby.

Those are the very, very basics. More than anything, remember your top priority isn't to make a scene hot but to do what's necessary to ensure everyone will live to play another day -- or at least not get hurt.


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READ: BDSM 101.

Before twisting a faucet or getting out your waterproof restraints, talk to each other.

Not only about how exciting you want your water bondage to be, but about everything:


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  • Medications you and/or your partner(s) are on.
  • Worries/concerns surrounding play.
  • Aftercare needs.
  • What to do in an emergency.
  • Your turn-ons and turn-offs.
  • Establishing safewords.

The list can (and should!) go on and on.

The goal here is to understand one another and get a sense of whether or not you should go ahead with a scene or amicably go your separate ways.

After everyone agrees on the whats, hows, and wheres of your water bondage scene, it's time for everyone involved to give and receive unequivocal consent to proceed.

And consent isn't a one-time thing! Don't forget that you and/or your partner(s) can, and should, be able to halt, slow down or completely stop whatever's happening at any time for any reason. You also cannot consent to anything if you're worried something bad might happen if you don't.

READ: The Basics of BDSM Negotiation.

The Best Water Bondage Sex Toys

Once you've put safety precautions in place and thoroughly discussed the scene with everyone who's to be involved, you can start exploring the tools you'll need to make water bondage happen.

I'm not talking toy boats or squirt guns -- although, if you're looking to add a dash of age play to your water bondage scene, they'd be perfect.

Whichever toys you end up using, make sure they're not only water-resistant but waterproof. For restraints, avoid overly complicated ones, as you should be able to get someone out of them in less than a second. Also, steer clear of anything fur-lined or made from leather, as they and water don't exactly mix.

Here are some recommendations for water bondage sex toys:

1. Waterslyde Bathtub Water Diverter

The Waterslyde Bathtub Water DiverterThe Waterslyde Bathtub Water Diverter.

Get your partner wetter-than-wet or harder-than-hard with the Waterslyde Bathtub Water Diverter.

It can get water precisely where you want, or need, it to go and it fits easily onto most bathtub faucets. TBH, it feels like it was made with water bondage in mind!

2. Bathmate HydroMax Penis Pump

The Bathmate HydroMax Penis Pump.The Bathmate HydroMax Penis Pump.

If you or the person you're playing with has one, there's Bathmate's HydroMax Penis Pump.

Specifically engineered to be used in the tub or shower, it sucks in all the right ways and, aside from whoever is operating it, has no moving parts.

READ: 6 Tips for Purchasing a Penis Pump.

3. Quickie Cuffs

Quickie Cuffs.Quickie Cuffs.

To ensure your playmates keep their hands to themselves, place them in some silicone Quickie Cuffs. Available in medium or large and black or red, they're as safe as they are immobilizing—a perfect combination for any water bondage scene.

4. Nuru Inflatable Vinyl Massage Sheet

Nuru Vinyl Inflatable Massage Sheet.Nuru Inflatable Vinyl Massage Sheet.

You don't need a tub or shower to relish in the sensual and sexual pleasures of water bondage play -- particularly if you're into using a lot less water.

Lay down and inflate a Nuru Inflatable Vinyl Massage Sheet on any flat surface, and lo and behold, you'll have your very own kinky wading pool.

5. Sportsheets Nipple Suckers

Sportsheets Nipple Suckers.Sportsheets Nipple Suckers.

To make you or your partner's nipples snap to attention (and not only because the water could be a bit warmer) try Sportsheets' Nipple Suckers.

Give them a good squeeze, put them where you want, let go and hang on tight while they work their nipple-tastic magic. They're also a rarity among sex toys in that they're better and suck-ier -- in a good way -- when wet.

READ: How to Use Nipple Clamps.

Conclusion

A slick, slippery, sultry and sexually steamy experience for novice and experienced kinksters alike, water bondage can be a truly transcendent experience.

However, no matter how quickly idea of combining the restrained excitement of bondage with the warmth and sensuality of water gets you rushing towards the nearest bathroom, pool, or hot tub, make sure to do it with an eye toward reducing risk and increasing safety.

Besides, taking it slow also means you'll have as much time as you need to find out why water bondage can be the best of two extremely exciting and arousing worlds.

READ: Bondage 201: What to Do After You Tie Up Your Partner.

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M. Christian

M.Christian is an author who has been published in science fiction, fantasy, horror, thrillers, and even nonfiction, but it is in erotica that M.Christian has become an acknowledged master, with stories in such anthologies as Best American Erotica, Best Gay Erotica, Best Lesbian Erotica, Best Bisexual Erotica, Best Fetish Erotica, and in fact too many anthologies, magazines, and sites to name. M.Christian's short fiction has been collected in many bestselling books in a wide variety...

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