"Honey, you've earned a spanking tonight. You've been very naughty."

Do words like that cause your body to flush with arousal? Don't worry - you're not alone! Many couples engage in consensual and erotic spanking; many others are interested in giving it a try. Erotic spankings are called "impact play" in the BDSM world, and they're considered a cornerstone kink activity.

While any person's hand can act as the perfect spanking implement, some creative, kinky people have given us a world of toys to experiment with. The magic of impact toys is that they can each provide a unique sensation - and they look pretty badass in hand! Each impact toy also requires its own skill set to wield. Each provides an entirely different experience for the receiver too.

Spank Safe

Before we dive into all the fun toys you can use to spank your partner to your (and their) heart's delight, we have to talk safety. After all, hitting someone has risks. So, as with any kinky activity, don't forget to agree on a safeword before playing. Also consider testing out any new spanking implements on yourself before turning them on your partner, and start lightly with any implement to give your partner time to adjust and determine what they can handle.

OK, now onto the toys!

Read: Safe, Sexy Spanking Tips for Two

The Tool: A Spanking Paddle

What It Is

One of the easiest items to pick up and use, a paddle is something you've likely seen time and time again. A spanking paddle makes flat contact with the skin. These are very easy to wield and are available in multiple types of designs and materials (for different sensations). They're great for beginners, so paddles tend to be where most people start their impact play journeys.

How It Feels

Much like floggers and other types of impact toys, paddles vary widely in intensity depending on their material and construction. Rigid paddles will likely hurt less than many flexible paddles. Paddles made from faux fur are going to feel almost like a massage, while a paddle made from silicone, wood, or hard leather will provide an intense stinging sensation. A large paddle will likely feel like it hurts less than a paddle that only strikes a concentrated area. Experiment with various types of paddle materials and designs to find the ones that match your impact interests. Whether you are seeking pain or only seeking a nice massaging sensation, you can find a paddle that matches your interests!

How to Use It

Paddles are, by far, the simplest of all of the impact toys. It's easy - just hit your consenting partner with the flat side of a paddle! Just be sure to stick with the butt and thigh area to keep things nice and safe.

How to Take Things Further

If you want to intensify your experience with a spanking paddle, try a two-sided version. Each side of the paddle will be made of a different material (such as faux fur on one side and leather on the other) - just flip the paddle over to immediately switch sensations. I also recommend alternating hand spankings with paddle spankings. Your hand will get tired less quickly, and you'll still get to feel that skin-on-skin contact!

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Sportsheets Leather Heart Impression Paddle

The Sportsheets Leather Heart Impression Paddle is cute and oh so kinky. Try this one out for beginner-friendly fun.

The Tool: A Flogger

What It Is

One step past the paddles, you'll find the floggers. Once many beginners have tried out paddles, they're clamoring to enjoy the unique design of a flogger. Floggers consist of multiple strands of a long, string-like material attached to a handle. When swung, the tips of these strands should hit the designated target. While harder to use than paddles, learning the basics of soft flogging is still well-within 15 minutes of practice.

How It Feels

Floggers can feel like the best massage you've ever received - or the meanest spanking you can imagine. It all depends on the way the flogger is made and how it is used. Heavier (in weight) floggers are likely to create a massaging sensation, while lighter ones are likely to be a bit more painful. Soft materials such as suede or faux fur will offer a gentler feeling, while harsher materials like unsoftened leather or rubber will deliver a sharper strike with a lot more bite.

How to Use It

Floggers can take a bit of practice to use correctly. Unfortunately, it's also a bit hard to explain how to wield a flogger without a demonstration. Consider finding a course on how to do this at a local sex shop; there are also a number of educational videos on YouTube. The basics, however, include using various wrist motions to allow the tips of the flogger's tails to touch an intended point on the receiver's body. This can include rolling the wrist, a gentle back and forth motion, and many other motions. It's imperative that you practice these movements on inanimate objects before you move onto using them on a partner. While it may look easy at first, aiming a flogger can be difficult - and misplaced aim can easily be dangerous to your bottom during a scene. It's recommended that you start off with a gentle flogger – such as one made from faux fur – as you perfect your flogging technique.

How to Take Things Further

If you want to spice up your flogging a bit more, explore the different types and lengths of floggers. Start off with faux fur floggers (as they're the softest and lightest), and move onto suede floggers. From there, you may want to move onto leather (which may be more stingy) as well as other unique materials. There are even floggers made from chain or barbed wire!

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Sportsheets red and black stripe Flogger
Whip or caress your partner with the Sportsheets Sex & Mischief Red & Black Stripe Flogger. It's made of vinyl and is designed with longer strands for a more advanced user.

The Tool: A Tickler

What It Is

You won't catch these fun sensation toys in too many hardcore impact scenes, but ticklers have earned their place in many toy bags. Primarily used for the unique feelings they can provide, ticklers are sensation-inducing items, and are usually attached to the top of long rods so they can be used from a distance. Sensation-inducing items include soft suede strands, feathers, metal beads, rubber strands, and more.

How It Feels

Ticklers can run the gamut from "naughty" to "nice". When used for their initial purpose, ticklers feel soft and gentle on the skin - and usually lead to tickling and laughing. (Which might be sadistic in itself if you hate being tickled!) When used a bit more roughly, ticklers can leave a stinging sensation and leave marks on the skin.

How to Use It

To use a tickler for tickling, use a light hand and run the tickler softly across your partner's skin. Try to choose areas that are more sensitive for better results.

While ticklers are primarily used for tickling, these small, portable items can be used for impact play as well. Instead of using the tickler in a dragging motion, use it in more of a spanking fashion. However, be gentle with these toys for impact! While a feather doesn't do much damage for a spanking, the plastic rod that it's attached to will. Remember to mind the topper of the tickler. The rubber tip at the top many ticklers can add unintended pain when they contact your partner's skin!

How to Take Things Further

Don't be afraid to mix things up in a single scene. Start softly with gentle tickles with your tickler - and then mix in a light tap with the plastic of the tickler rod. There's no reason you have to be only naughty - or only nice.

If you love ticklers, consider amassing a collection. With your partner blindfolded, gently touch their skin with the different ticklers - and ask them to identify exactly what item they're currently feeling. If they don't get it right - well, you can come up with a playful punishment for that, can't you?

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The Ultimate Guide to Impact Play Toys and Spanking Implements
The Sportsheets Midnight Feather Tickler is cute as can be - and designed to fulfill all your tickling fantasies.

The Tool: A Slapper

What It Is

Slap, slap, slap! What if you enjoy the sound of a good spanking - but not so much the pain that tends to come with it? That's what a slapper is for! Made from multiple pieces of material, when the slapper is spanked against the skin, the two pieces of material come together for a loud "slap" noise. It sounds a whole lot more painful than it is - which is why it can be fun to play with.

How It Feels

Slappers sound more painful than they actually feel. While a hard hit from a slapper can definitely feel painful, the sensation will pale in comparison to a regular paddle made from the same material. Since a slapper can produce that pleasant "slapping" noise without much force behind the strike, slappers can be used relatively lightly while still offering the fun noise of a heavy spanking session.

How to Use It

Slappers are just as simple to use as a paddle. Holding the handle, spank the slapper onto the skin where you'd like to spank. That's it! Experiment with the angle and the intensity to find the exact strike that will make the most noise.

How to Take Things Further

If you're the Top, don't be afraid to use a slapper on yourself too! You know that it doesn't hurt that much - but your partner won't. When they're coming into the bedroom, feel free to tap the slapper on your thigh to let them know what they're in for. It won't hurt much - but it'll sound pretty scary.

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Sportsheets Edge Classic Slapper
The Sportsheets Edge Classic Leather Slapper is, well, a classic! Its long handle makes for an easy, ergonomic grip, while the two leather pieces of the slapper make for a very satisfying sound.

The Tool: A Riding Crop

What It Is

A mixture between a cane and a paddle, riding crops are known for their versatile use. Also used in equine sports as an encouragement tool, riding crops are long, flexible (usually plastic) rods with a unique tip at the end of the rod. The flexibility and the material of this tip will drastically affect the sensation of the crop. Riding crops can be used gently or not-so-gently. It's up to you and your partner!

How It Feels

The tip of a riding crop has a much more centralized sensation. Depending on how much force is put behind the strike, it can feel particularly painful - or it can feel closer to a gentle tap. The amount of force behind the strike makes a huge difference. Using the rod of the riding crop, however, feels much like a gentler cane – that is: pretty stingy and painful.

How to Use It

To produce the two different sensations, you'll need to strike the skin with the corresponding area of the riding crop.

To offer a softer (but still noticeable) tap, use the very tip of the riding crop. You may need to practice to learn the exact flexibility and length of the tool you are using. A sharp hit with only the very tip of the riding crop tip will offer a very painful sensation while a softer strike with the full tip of the crop offers a less-intense feeling – closer to a prodding sensation.

Alternatively, you can use the flexible rod of the riding crop much like you'd use a cane. Be aware that many riding crops can feel as intense as a cane when used in this manner - and they aren't designed for it either. As such, keep the intensity light when using a riding crop for caning to avoid breaking your riding crop in half.

How to Take It Further

Riding crops can be fantastic for keeping submissive partners in line. Consider setting up an exercise plan. If your partner's form starts suffering, a light tap from the riding crop should be all you need to get them back in line.

Not much for erotic exercise? OK. How about some fun, playful tasks around the house? Ask your partner to roll a can of soup across the living room using only their nose while crawling on their hands and knees. A light tap of the riding crop will make sure they know this isn't a laughing matter.

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Sportsheets Sex & Mischief Slender Impulse Crop
The Sportsheets Sex & Mischief Slender Impulse Crop is long, sleek and includes a curved grip and wrist strap for better precision and control.

The Tool: A Whip

What It Is

Not for the beginner, whips are long, hard-to-control strands of material. When used correctly, they can barely graze the skin in a small area - and leave their mark.

How It Feels

When used as intended, whips are going to hurt - a lot. They're designed to leave a trail of intense, painful sensation - along with the marks that come with it. However, when held by a trained player, whips can be used just for show (without ever making contact with the skin) or just barely making soft contact with the skin. Whips are not usually the tool of choice for those who don't enjoy pain.

How to Use It

Whips should not be used on human skin without training - preferably training in person. However, whips can make a fantastic visual - and a perfect prop to that dominatrix outfit you've been planning.

How to Take Things Further

Consider planning an outfit and a scene entirely around the existence of the whip. Dress yourself in erotic, dominating clothing and show off the evil, mean whip before blindfolding your partner. Once they're blindfolded, gently run the whip over some of their most sensitive areas - and tease them about how you might be forced to use it if they don't behave.

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Sportsheets Rubber Whip

This Sportsheets Rubber Whip includes durable, flexible latex strands. It looks super hot and is spankingly delicious!

The Tool: A Cane

What It Is

When it comes to impact play, canes are the holy grail of "ouch!", and they aren't for the faint of heart. Their unassuming, rod-like shape makes them relatively easy for beginners to wield, but these cylindrical toys can hurt - and cause bruising and bleeding - relatively easily. More flexible, thinner canes tend to produce a sharper, harsher pain while more rigid, thicker canes are less painful (though still more intense than most other items on this list).

How It Feels

Canes do not feel soft, sensually pleasant, or thuddy. Expect a sharp stinging sensation upon striking. The pain can seem to radiate to the skin around the original strike as well. Canes are often used for those who are seeking marks, seeking pain, seeking a high from endorphins, or for discipline.

How to Use It

If you're a beginner, I'd recommend staying away from canes as you introduce yourself to impact toys and spankings. You need a basic understanding of nerve placement and impact play safety before picking up one of these toys.

However, once you feel you're ready to play with canes, utmost care should be taken. Once you pick out your cane (more rigid, thicker ones will hurt less), you should try using it on the tops of your own thighs. You really need to understand exactly how much these toys can hurt. With an understanding of how much power you're putting behind each swing, you can then take it to a partner. Start very, very softly, and make sure you and your partner are both ready for the sharp pain canes can cause.

How to Take Things Further

Consider using a cane for a stand-alone scene. Tell your partner you're going to hit them 10 times, and that you expect them to count out loud. Start (and stay!) extremely gentle throughout all 10 strikes. Don't worry - you'll still get a good reaction!

The Tool: Household Pervertables

What It Is

Who said every impact toy you have has to come from the sex shop? No one! "Pervertables" are what we call the everyday household items that we "pervert" into sex toys. In this case, we're turning things into spanking implements! Consider kitchen utensils or even basic cardboard boxes! Just be willing to kiss your pervertable good-bye. As it turns out, a lot of common household objects will break when used outside of their intended purpose – such as for spanking an unruly partner. Common pervertables include hair brushes, spatulas, wooden spoons, rolled up newspapers and more.

How It Feels

How your pervertable feels will depend largely on what item it is. Because most of these household items were never designed to be spanked against the skin, it's likely that most of the sensations will fall on the "ouchy" side of the spectrum. Make sure to take things lightly until the two of you have figured out how the particular item feels.

How to Use It

Since every pervertable's sensation varies based on the item itself, you'll want to start off slowly. I recommend spanking yourself on the tops of your thighs to get a good idea of how the implement feels at various intensity levels. Once you know that, you can take it to your partner. Make sure to start softly and gradually increase the intensity as you and your partner figure out just how much pain your plaything can produce.

How to Take Things Further

Consider finding an easily-breakable item around the house that you don't mind destroying. It can be great fun to break a tool over your partner! (Again, just be really careful in terms of increasing intensity gradually to ensure you don't push your partner too far.)

Now that you understand all the basic impact play tools out there, you can go forth and spank your partners in any way you like!