It's Only for Gay Men
The most visible evidence that anal pleasure is experiencing a major upswing is its prevalence in porn. Currently, that prevalence predominantly features folks with vulvas receiving anal penetration. As a result, there is still some stigma floating around that bum fun is not supposed to be enjoyed by heterosexual, cis men. Despite the long-known pleasure other men receive from sex, some straight dudes are still hesitant to try anal exploration - despite the promise of outstanding orgasms and superb sensation.
Here’s some straight talk for straight, ass-fearing guys: this thinking is ridiculous! And, in fact, you’re denying yourself a tremendous source of pleasure. The truth? How you enjoy your body is not a reflection of your sexuality. It's time to get over this antiquated idea!
Women Aren’t Into It?
So, you’re a hetero fella who enjoys sex with your straight female partner and you want to try prostate massage. But you don’t think she’d have any interest in slipping a finger or toy up your butt ... because ... why would she? You figure, why would a straight woman want to touch a dude’s ass - there’s nothing in that for her!
Here’s the (prostate) rub: many, many women enjoy and get off on touching their partner’s anus (and seeing the pleasure it delivers!), and that definitely includes giving prostate pleasure. Sure, the main focus in the rise of bum fun porn has been on women receiving anal play, but take a look around the porn world: pegging is also very popular - and not just in porn! Hetero women penetrating their hetero partners anally has been all the rage for decades now and it makes perfect sense that that desire also extends to coupled prostate play.
If you're a straight guy who's assuming his female partner isn't into prostate play, the real problem might be a classic lack of communication. If you want your prostate tickled, try asking! Of course, not everyone will be interested in providing internal massage, but you’ll never know unless you get the idea out of your head and past your lips.
A remotely controlled prostate toy can be a great way for couples to dip their toes into anal play. The Vice 2 by Aneros is a classic choice. It's powerful, pleasurable and can be controlled from across the room.
All Orgasms Are the Same
In fact, they’re not. To begin with, it’s important to understand that while orgasm and ejaculation seem like the same thing, they are actually two different events. Ejaculation occurs as a result of orgasm, not the other way around. Why is this significant? Because it’s possible to separate them and have orgasms without ejaculation.
As it turns out, prostate massage is one of the best ways of achieving it! So why would you want to do this? For starters, prostate orgasms can be far more intense than traditional ejaculatory orgasms. Sometimes referred to as Male G-spot or Super Orgasms many people describe them as whole-body experiences that can last minutes instead of the all too brief seconds at a time. And if that’s not enough, because there is no ejaculation, there’s no loss of arousal that follows, meaning it’s possible to have multiple orgasms of this kind.
While it’s true that some people will not be able to score this right out of the gate, there are other experiences that lie in store for those who do the deep dive. Prostate massage combined with penis stimulation can produce a hybrid orgasm that is much more powerful and more satisfying than that achieved with penis stimulation alone. And on the flip side, some people have reported having hands-free ejaculations (with orgasm) without any penis stimulation at all.
Orgasms come in all colors, shapes and sizes, and while most people believe they know everything their bodies have to offer, the truth is, in most cases, they haven’t even scratched the surface.
Self-discovery and having new experiences are about finding a new path, in this case it’s a path that leads you in through the out-door. Don’t be deterred… check it out!