So many questions...so many answers. This is our space to share those burning thoughts and queer queries. This week's Sex Stories We Love is all about the different questions and facts about sex that are floating around out there. Maybe you'll find some answers you've been looking for in this week's edition.
Sex Stories We Love: Ask and You Shall Receive, Bisexual Blossoming, & Sex Fact Fun
Sex has to start somewhere. There are many different interpretations to what "losing virginity" actually is; this makes perfect sense considering there are many different variations of what sex is. So, then it really is impossible to deem any age the "right" age to cross this personal threshold. What do you consider the most important factor in moving into being a sexual person? Was it actual physical contact? Perhaps it was a psychological connection? Maybe we need to redefine this whole idea. Is the concept of virginity at all important in our current sexual culture?
How Much for Whom?
Now, once you start having sex, the big question becomes: how often are we supposed to have sex in a relationship? This is no small consideration. Ranking right up there with penis size and your "number," our culture has an obsession with how often people are fucking...or not fucking. Sure, when people are young and in a new relationship, the expectation is that they're on the mattress all the time. And then, there's the opposite: older folks aren't supposed to have sex. You reach an age and you're supposed to shut down from a sexual standpoint. Can we consider that neither is necessarily true?
Ask and You Shall Receive
One of the great things about our current sexual age is that we are starting to embrace and cherish the wise and helpful words of people who are both trained and compassionate about our sex life. Sex therapists emerged as both helpful and needed. They are true resources we can count on to help us through physical, emotional, and psychological trauma and issues related to sex. Have you ever consulted a sex therapist, whether this mean reading their blog, following them on Twitter, listening to their podcast, or booking a session? Sex therapy is offered in many different ways to reach the many people who want and need help. If you're curious to learn more about how sex therapy can help you, check out these common questions others are asking.
Coming of Age
Much has been made in recent months about millennials and sex. Even, occasionally, in this space. There is some controversy surrounding the sex lives of our current young people...or the lack thereof. There are many different voices weighing in on the state of their sex game, but let's remember that the most important voices are those of the millennials. So, just as it is great that sex therapists gained status in our lives, it is key that millennials also have their voice heard in sex therapy. Check out some peer-to-peer millennial sex talk.
There is still much to be learned about the many sexualities we share this sexual world with, and every day, we're engaging more and more. The emergence of a sexual community allows us all to share and speak, to learn and love. One group who is benefiting, over time, from better and greater exposure in recent times is the bisexual community. Over the past few years, there have been more articles and discussions about a sexuality that has been maligned by myths and stereotypes. While there is still much work to be done to bring bisexuality up, understanding these myths, including relationship confusion, will go a long way.
Sex Fact Fun
Finally, it is always good to have as much info in your back pocket, and these sex facts just might come in handy. Were any surprising?
Jon Pressick is a sex-related media gadabout. For more than 20 years, Jon has been putting sex into our daily conversations at his long-running site SexInWords—as a writer, editor, publisher, sex toy reviewer, radio host, workshop facilitator, event producer and more. These days, he focuses on writing for Kinkly, GetMeGiddy, The Buzz and PinkPlayMags and editing Jason Armstrong's series of Solosexual books. You can find him on Twitter at @Sexinwords.