However, using your own nail, a feather tickler, a Wartenberg Wheel, the tale end of a flogger, or any of the gizmos and gadgets in the KinkLab Agent Noir Electro Erotic Neon Wand Kit to explore teasing and tickling sensations is good place to start if your non-partnered.
“If you enjoy the Wartenberg wheel, you can upgrade to an electric one, which combines the classic sensation with electrostimulation” adds Saynt. “Or, experiment with an electric stimulator wand.”
If you have a partner, whether you want to be the Lee or the Ler you gotta talk to them about it! Ideally, when you’re fully and completely clothed.
This may not have been the case when you were a kid, but erotica tickling requires ongoing and enthusiastic consent from all parties involved.
Some ways you might bring it up:
- “I really love the way it feels when your tickle my back, and I think it could be really sexy to be tied down while you do that. Is that something you might enjoy?”
- “I recently read an article about erotic tickling and a sex toy called the Wartenberg wheel, and I think it’s something that could be fun to experiment with together. Would do you think?”
- “You know how we’ve been playing around with bondage? Well, I think it could be really hot to combine that with some sensation play, like tickling.”
Be prepared for your partner to have questions! You should be able to answer: What is it about tickling that turns you on? For instance, is it the laughter? Is it the losing control or “taking” control? Is it the physical sensation? Is the “torture” part?
Continue educating a partner about tickling if they aren’t sure what they’re into. But know that it should never feel like you’re trying to convince them to try it.
If your partner is interested in exploring this with you, start by negotiating what the scene is going to look (yes, even if bondage isn't going to be part of it!) like and create a safe word!
Decide: Are you going to use restraints and bondage? What body parts are on or off limits? Are they going to use their hands, a tool, or a toy to tickle you?
You might hire a Dominatrix to tickle you if you don’t have a partner, or your partner isn’t interested. Or, to teach your partner how to tickle you erotically.
Is Knismolagnia Safe?
It depends what you mean by safe. “Tickling does not require nudity, genital bashing, or bodily fluids, so there is a much much much reduced risk of STIs,” says Domme Kat.
However, “being tickled can trigger your fight or flight response, so many times someone being tickled is going to react unexpectedly,” says Saynt. “It's very common to experience surprise punches or uncontrollable kicks when tickling your partner,” he says. Prepare yourself for this by incorporating bondage into your tickle-play.
Also, make sure not to restrict airways when you're tickling, he says. “You want to make sure your partner can breathe and anything that prevents this should not be incorporated into this type of play.” Makes sense!
And as with any play: “Pay attention to your partner and listen for safe words,” says Saynt. “It's important to stop once your partner says stop in this type of play.”