I Learned How to Have Blended Orgasms with My Fiance and It Rocked My Whole World

It was during intercourse. Missionary, which is my favorite because I’m lazy AF (don’t judge me). My partner reached down to include clitoral stimulation, giving me space, both physically and emotionally, to just lie back and feel what was happening. Now, we’d done this before and while it felt awesome, it didn’t lead to orgasm.

Um. Until now.

Current life situation: I’m finally having blended orgasms and it is blowing my freakin’ mind.

This wasn’t even something I realized I was missing until I experienced it. I wouldn’t say my orgasmic life was lacking in any way. I’ve had million (billions?) of amazing, mind-bending orgasms in my life. I’ve had them alone, with partners, with a few partners etc. etc.

But I’ve always had a routine, a reliable routine from which I never really strayed: A partner would give me oral sex, focusing entirely on the clitoral glans, I’d have an orgasm and then we’d move on to other sex stuff. I would occasionally have an orgasm with long-term partners during intercourse, but not with any regularity. And certainly not where it would be an “expected” thing to happen.

So, what is going on that blended orgasms are suddenly on the menu, in so many different forms and combinations that I can barely wrap my head around it? Let’s explore.

First of all, what is a blended orgasm?

Let’s start with the boring part: Definitions.

Blended orgasms are where a combination of different kinds of sexual stimulation are used, the culmination of which lead to orgasm. For the vast majority of people with vulvas, orgasm is experienced through touching, licking, etc. of the glans clitoris, either directly on the clitoral shaft or with the clitoral hood as a buffer.

Read: How to Charm a Clitoris

While a blended orgasm doesn’t always include the glans clitoris, for the most part, it will. A blended orgasm usually combines external stimulation of the clitoris along with some combination of internal, G-spot stimulation, stimulation of the nipples, or other erogenous zones.

So, in short, it’s basically a delicious crescendo of a bunch of sexy stuff happening to your body. And trust me when I say that it can yield screaming orgasms.

This doesn’t mean a blended orgasm is better than a straight clitoral orgasm or G-spot orgasm, or A-spot orgasm. No orgasm is any better than any other orgasm. A blended orgasm is simply another way in which we experience the Big O and it deserves to be recognized.

Little, Inhibited Me

I’m an over-thinker by nature. I also research the hell out of pretty much everything I do.

Since I’m a sexologist and the study and exploration of human sexuality is my trade, I think about it a lot. I know very well that embodiment and relaxation are necessary for proper sexual arousal. I’m aware that breathing into the diaphragm and focusing on the sensations I’m feeling are required for orgasm. I get all of this, trust me.