Welcome to the world of anal pleasure! As more and more people can testify, the anal area can be an intensely pleasurable zone to play around. While many people are more-than-happy to just play around the entrance without any penetration, adding penetration to your sexual playlist can add even more sensations into your bedroom play.
One of the most-common ways that people begin their anal penetration journey is with the purchase of an anal training kit.
What's an Anal Training Kit?
For most people, when they decide to penetrate the backdoor, they go straight for an anal training kit. It seems like the easiest option. After all, anal training kits are specifically designed for beginners to "train" themselves in anal sensations. It's even in the name!
So what, exactly, is an anal training kit? Each kit will vary by manufacturer, but in general, an anal training kit is a kit of visually-similar and design-similar anal toys that only vary in size. The particular toy's shape, color, material, and sizes will vary between each individual set, but most sets are comprised of three different toys the look the same and are just different sizes.
Most manufacturers offer a discount for buying all three toys at once, so most anal training kits are well-within the "affordable" price tag of someone looking to try a sensation for the first time.
Why Buy an Anal Training Kit Instead of One Butt Plug?
An anal training kit is particularly ideal for a beginner who's interested in taking larger toys relatively soon. If you're a beginner who plans on sticking with smaller plugs for the foreseeable future, you might not find much use with an anal training kit.
However, if you're new to anal sensations and want to enjoy anal sex with a partner or play with a full-sized anal dildo, an anal training kit might be the easiest solution for you. You (usually) get three toys: small, medium, and large.
The small will be the smallest while the medium will be slightly larger. The large will be the largest of the kit (obviously). This allows you to have a set of toys that are already pre-measured and ready for you to "graduate" between the three of them.
Anything I Should Keep in Mind While Buying an Anal Training Kit?
Like mentioned above, most anal training kits will vary in size, color, material, and design depending on the individual kit and who makes it. Most of these kits are targeted towards the "beginner."
However, you'll want to pay particular attention to the material.
A lot of companies try to use some of the cheapest materials offered when it comes to people who may not know better - including ones that are full of phthalates or have terrible scents. Other companies use metals or other very-stiff materials - which can be frustrating and hard to insert for a beginner.
While there's no "right" answer to what material is the best fit for you, you should be knowledgeable about body-safe options and what phthalates are.
When in doubt, try to choose a kit made from silicone. Luckily for everyone, a lot of manufacturers have started making very-affordable silicone options.
In addition to the material, most people who buy an anal training kit want to able to take toys the size of the largest item of the set. This means, when purchasing your anal training kit, you should pay particularly close attention to both the smallest and the largest toy in the kit.
The largest toy is important because it will be the "ideal size." If you're hoping to use the kit to experience anal sex with a partner, make sure to choose a kit who's largest size is about the width of your partner's penis.
If you're hoping to use the kit to experience a particular dildo, choose a kit who's largest toy's diameter matches your ideal dildo. You get the idea.
The smallest toy matters because it builds upon your current experience. You don't want to buy one where the smallest plug is already smaller than what you can take - and a kit where the smallest plug is well beyond your abilities is also frustrating.
This means it's a good idea of have an idea of what your body can already take. Using fingers (and then measuring the diameter of your fingers!) makes this a somewhat-easy way to figure out what kits will work for you.
As a general guideline, for most people without any anal experience, sticking with a diameter between 0.5" and 0.75" on the smallest toy is a good idea.
If you already own the kit and find that the smallest toy is too large for you, don't fret. You have two options: you can either use your fingers to expand your body's abilities, or you can purchase another plug that's within your abilities in order to work yourself up to the kit's smallest plug.
Then you can continue with the kit's offerings.
How Do I Use Anal Toys?
Kinkly has lots of beginner anal play guides that are worth reading, but to give you a basic overview, here's what you'll want to do when using anal toys for the first time:
Carve out alone time
Sure, you can do anal play with a partner, but most people tend to find that they take things more slowly, practice more patience, and generally don't stress when they're alone. No one is there to watch. No one is there to push. No one is there to judge.
Even when your partner is the best person in the world, you can still get self-conscious that they're bored watching the twentieth minute of you trying to insert a plug.
That being said, whatever time you want to carve out, whether solo or coupled, make sure it's a good time for relaxing - and a decent chunk of time. When you're first starting, I'd recommend carving out at least two hours for anal playtime. You can shorten this time as you learn your body and how much time you want.
Once you've found the right time for your session, you want to find the right mindset, too. While the butt isn't like the vagina or penis, your entire body better enjoys various sensations when you're relaxed and turned on.
Since we want this to be pleasurable (in addition to being successful!), it's worth making sure you're turned on and want to play before you start.
Gather your supplies
Before you start inserting, this is your final step. You're going to want to gather all of your stuff. Sure, you could interrupt your session to walk across the house when you remember that you forgot to grab a towel, but why not get everything in place to start with?
Everyone's "needs" will be different, but the usuals include gloves, lube, the toys, disposable pads, towels, paper towels, and condoms.
Use so much lube
The biggest "secret" (and please, let's stop making this a 'secret'!) to pleasurable anal play is lubrication.
Lots and lots and lots of lubrication.
The butt doesn't provide any amount of slickness. When you're inserting a toy, you need to provide all of the slickness for it. This means lots and lots of sexual-specific lube. Before you insert the toy, slather the toy in lube.
Rub lube in and gently around the entrance to your butt, too. If you think you've used enough lube, it probably isn't enough. Throw more on there. If you'd describe your toy as "caked in lube," you're probably at the right level.
Take it slow
No matter what type of anal toy you're using, you still need to take it slow. Gently press the toy up against your entrance and allow yourself to feel the gentle stretch as the toy slowly stretches your body open. Don't "shove" - gently apply pressure until you've reached a spot where it feels pretty intense.
Let your body rest there before proceeding. In fact, if it never stops being "intense," you've just reached your limit for the day. Don't try to go past that. You may not insert the entire toy your first time, and that's a-okay. It's a fun challenge that you get to conquer over time!
There should be no sharp pain at any part in this process. If there is, back off from going as deep as you are or add more lubricant. If the pain continues, call it a day and give it a try some other time.
You can continue playing with your toy in a way that is pleasurable for you. Consider wiggling or jiggling it. Do small, tiny thrusts. Pull out entirely and insert back to the same depth that you were before.
Experiment with various movements and see what feels best for you with this particular toy. The sensations and enjoyment with vary with every individual toy, but you can get to know this toy and learn more about your body and your pleasure potential in the process.
Clean up and put away
Once you've achieved your desired "end" (whether that's orgasm, moving onto something else, or just being done for the day), it's time to clean up. I know it can be easy to put this off or forget about it, but this really has to be done within a half-hour of finishing up your playtime.
Cleaning the toy as soon as you're done with it will help prevent the toy from retaining any scent. Not only that, but warm water and anti-bacterial soap will remove any gunk and bacteria from the surface of the toy - getting ready for your next play! If, after your wash, you find the toy is still retaining any scent, let it sit in a bath of soapy water for as long as humanly possible.
You can even get a bowl just for filling with water for this purpose. I've let mine soak for three days before. Clean it thoroughly again after you've let it soak. The scent will gradually fade the longer the toy stays in the water. I don't have a scientific reason for this - it's just always what has worked for us.
Are There Ways to Make This Go Quicker?
Hold on, cowboys and cowgirls! Part of the fun (and safety!) of anal training is going at your body's own speed. This isn't something that's supposed to happen overnight. Trying to "force" it to happen overnight can cause tears and potential health issues.
That being said, there are some ways to make it move along a bit faster. The easiest one is simply frequency. If you use your anal training kit toys more often, your body will more-quickly acclimate to the stretching and size of the toys.
I'm not saying you should try playing four times a day, but if you increase your play sessions from once a week to three times a week, you'll move more-quickly through the various sizes in your anal training kit.
The other way to help it move along faster is to use toys that "stay" in place for longer sessions. While you might get tired of holding a dildo in place for a couple hours while you play a video game, keeping a toy inserted becomes a whole lot easier when it's a butt plug and it stays in by itself.
By stretching your butt for longer periods of time, you'll help your body adjust to the size of the toys more quickly. Don't overdo it, but if you want to stretch out to your ideal size more quickly, using plugs can help.
How Do I Know When It's Time to Move to the Next Toy?
If this is your first anal training kit, you're probably still new to the feeling of anal sensations. So how do you know when it's time to pick the next-largest toy in your kit?
Well, there are a couple of signs. First, you should find your body simply and easily taking the entirety of your current toy. While you may still need to pause to take little breaks during the insertion, you'll notice the entire process has become a lot more smooth - and it may only take a minute or less to get the entire toy in.
Another sign of being ready for a larger toy is the lack of the "intense stretch" that you used to feel. When your body doesn't feel stretched out as far as it used to when you started, that means that it's getting used to the stretch of the size of the current plug. That's not a bad thing! It just means that it's time to consider changing to the toy of the next-largest size.
Finally, the last "sign" of changing to a new toy is the feeling of boredom. If you're not particularly excited by the toy, even if you haven't "mastered" it, there's no reason to keep playing with it. Maybe your body just doesn't like the shape of it.
Maybe it just aesthetically isn't a turn-on for you. Whatever the reason, as long as you're not injuring your body by playing with a different toy in your anal training kit, there's no reason to stay on a smaller toy when you aren't enjoying it.
When Should I Buy New Toys?
When should you think about "upgrading" past your anal training kit? The honest answer is: "whenever you want."
Has your anal play piqued your interest in another toy? Have your experimentations led you to think that another toy might hit your pleasure points better? Do you just want to upgrade to a different type of materials or color scheme?
Whatever the reason, you can really stop using your anal training kit whenever you want. Who cares if you're half-way through the middle size and can't take the large one yet? As long as you find a toy that's smaller than the large size, you'll be fine.
We have a lot of guides here on Kinkly to help you select a great anal toy for your toy box once you've settled on adding to your collection.
Just remember that you own the anal training kit in case you ever want to stretch yourself for larger toys in the future. That way you don't accidentally buy another one!