Set Up a Social Network
Speaking of social networks, they can be a wonderful tool in helping rekindle your inspiration. On the basic end, you can use your social network (especially Twitter or other adult-friendly networks!) to follow people into the same things you are. Once you do, your feed will be full of people doing awesome things with the kinks you're into.
Want to extend your network even further? Consider searching by hashtags to find more people who are into the same things you are. Add those people to your feed, and over time, you'll slowly craft a network full of people who are doing kinky things that spark your creativity!
A note of caution on social networks, though: let's all remember that most of us (myself included!) tend to post our most brag-worthy and impressive accomplishments. This can lead to a pretty inflated feed of over-the-top scenes while the everyday, normal ones get left out.
Try to remember that you're looking a curated list of someone's best-foot-forward. While social networks can be amazing to getting inspiration (purely because most people post their "above and beyond" scenes!), it can also quickly lead to feeling more frustrated about your current creative block. Make sure to keep a healthy mentality in check - or else some people end up feeling worse now that they've added social media into their lives.
Read Erotica
While taking photos to post on social media networks presents a few roadblocks (like anonymity, reality, physics, and a photo-taking device), writing words doesn't have the same entrance fee. A lot of people prefer to write out their experiences - or their fantasies! Luckily for you, this can be a perfect way to gain some insight into a kink - especially if the kink you're looking to scene with isn't a kink that you, yourself, are particularly into. Reading fantasies can help you understand what someone loves about a kink and what the most effective ways will be to add that kink into your scene.
As a bonus, erotica is everywhere! If you want particularly well-edited and polished erotica, consider purchasing print books. If you're looking for a bit of polish, some e-books can be a fantastic (and lower price point!) choice. If you're willing to take your chances for some of the kinkiest stuff you can find, there are a lot of erotica websites out there chock full of hundreds of thousands of stories. You'll get some bad apples - but you'll get some good ones too!
For our top Erotica Bloggers check out our Top 100 Sex Blogging Superheroes of 2019!
Converse with Partners
Have a regular play partner or a romantic partner? Consider getting their input! As always, their consent matters throughout this entire process (no matter what kink you're brainstorming), but asking a play partner what kinks they've been craving lately might be all you need to start your brain formulating a plan to turn their fantasies turn into reality.
Your conversation buddy might stir some creativity in your brain - or maybe just come up with an entire scene for the two of you to do together. Either way, you'll likely end the conversation with a couple of different things you might not have thought of yet!
Pick at Random
If you're the type of person who doesn't freeze up at the idea of jumping into a random scene, consider picking a kink at random and rolling with it. You and your partner can go over what kinks are on the "okay" list from a full list of kinks. (Look up one of the "kink checklists" online!)
Once you both have an "okay" column, just select a kink at random from that list and try out a scene with it on-the-fly! You'll want to have permission from your play partner so they know this is an experiment, but who knows? You both might find this kink is a lot hotter than you ever thought!
Read: How to Ensure Consent in High-Emotion BDSM Scenes
Exercise Your Creativity in the Shower
This one is particularly fun - though maybe not always applicable to your current kink desires. Before you hop into the shower, give yourself some food for thought. Pick a random kink (either from your brain or a list you've previously made) or a random household object or kinky sex toy, and think about how you could involve that thing in a scene. Suitcase? Today's newspaper? Foot fetish? Washing machine? While a lot of those things are just mundane, everyday objects, the act of figuring out how to put them into a scene sparks some creativity and inspiration in your brain.
Read: 6 Things That'll Take Shower Sex from Awkward to Super-Sexy
Have Patience With Yourself
Above all, just live your life as best as possible and make room for creativity where possible. Sometimes, it's easy to get frustrated about a lack of energy and creativity about our bedroom pursuits. Unfortunately, that's part of life! Sometimes the day-to-day errands overrun our ability to feel particularly refreshed and creative all of the time - and that's okay!
Try to make space for it where you can (or use the above tips to fit it into a busy lifestyle!) and be patient with yourself. While not having the time to be creative or energetic sucks, it certainly sucks, even more, when you beat yourself up about it!
Have patience, find the time where you can, and above all: have a good time!
