How to Deep Throat

Have you heard of the term "deep throating"? I'd be surprised if you haven't (it's made it into everyday conversation in many areas!), but just in case you haven't, deep throating is the act of taking a penis into the very back of the throat during a blowjob. The penis goes deep - into the back of the throat - hence the term "deep throating".

Deep throating can feel very pleasurable for the blowjob receiver. Not only does the back of the throat tend to be tighter than the "open concept" design of the rest of the mouth (I mean, that's how food fits in there while you chew it!), but the tip of the penis also tends to be the most sensitive - and the tip of the penis tends to spend a lot of time during the open area of the mouth during a blowjob that isn't going deep into the throat.

In addition, deep throat blowjobs also provide a different visual. Depending on how long the penis is and how deep the blowjob is, giving this type of blowjob can result in the giver's mouth being wrapped around the very base of the penis where it meets the body; for a lot of blowjob recipients, the visual itself might even be more stimulating than the sensations.

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Do I Have to Give Deep Throat Blowjobs?

Just like every other sex activity out there, though, these things tend to have a way to make it into some "gold standard" of sexual activity - like multiple orgasms, squirting orgasms, tantric sex, and more. As soon as a new way to experience sex makes it into the mainstream, it somehow makes it onto this pedestal where it becomes this "end goal achievement" for the activities we were already participating in.

Gave a great blowjob? But...did you deep throat?

Enjoyed a powerful g-spot orgasm? But....did you squirt?

Had some amazing sex with a partner? Well....how many times did you orgasm?

All of these things compound in the same way that curated social media can be dangerous: it's easy to think our current activities - the ones we currently enjoy - are "missing something". It's easy to think that what we're doing isn't "good enough." I have some friends who aren't even comfortable giving any sort of blowjobs because they can't deep throat - and that makes them feel less-than. So they never even attempt oral sex in the first place.

So, short answer to whether you "have" to give deep throat blowjobs: No. HELL NO. If you don't want to give deep throat blowjobs for any reason, it isn't necessary. If you don't like receiving them for any reason, it isn't necessary either. Blowjobs can be pretty damn amazing all on their own - and if you do like the idea of adding more stimulation to the things you already enjoy, check out some of the tips at the bottom of this article.

How to Deep Throat Without Throwing Up

The number one concern most avid oral sex'ers have about deep throating is the gag reflex. Turns out, if your goal is to get a penis as deep into your throat as possible, the gag reflex is a seriously, seriously pesky "built-in" human feature. While the gag reflex can help protect us from choking hazards, in this case, we want the choking hazard, so it's more nuisance than anything.

That being said, most people's gag reflexes can be ever-so-slowly changed. Just like most things about our bodies, if we continually push ourselves - bit by bit - the body can begin to respond accordingly.

This is exactly the case if you're looking for how to deep throat a penis. Nobody likes hearing "it takes time" and "you have to do it hundreds of times for practice" - but that's the reality of the situation.

Each time you take a penis a little bit further, most bodies will slowly adapt its gag reflex response. This won't be a quick practice - expect this to take a few months.

For your safety (and just for your own comfort), don't practice your deep throat skills directly after eating - or at any point where your stomach feels particularly full. Some people also have an extra-sensitive gag reflex first thing in the morning, so you might find more success by doing this at different times in the day.

You'll note that I mentioned most bodies. Some people's bodies just have a very sensitive gag reflex - to the point where they may even have difficulty eating and drinking. (a condition known as dysphagia). If that's the case, getting to the point where deep throating blowjobs are possible just may not be in the cards for your body.

Read: The Do's and Don'ts of Hot Oral Sex

What Should I Use to Practice Deep Throat Blow Jobs?

If you don't have an available penis to practice on, dildos can also work for oral pleasure. I know the internet is always in awe of videos where people deep-throat bananas - but please, go with something that can't accidentally break-off mid deep throat. Assuming you don't choke on the broken-off banana (which can happen), it's going to be extremely, extremely uncomfortable.

A body safe dildo is your best choice. A high quality dildo makes it impossible for part of it to break off and become a choking hazard and it can have the same size and shape as a biological penis - so you're getting to practice on something that will better translate to the skill you're trying to improve.

Depending on the material of your dildo, you might prefer practicing your deep throat blowjob skills with a condom. Not only does this get you used to the taste for safer sex practices, but it can also reduce the taste of any sex toy material, make your sex toy safer for oral use, and reduce the drag of any sex toy material that might not necessarily feel realistic to you. It sounds backwards, but using a condom on your dildo during oral sex can actually make things feel even MORE realistic.

When shopping for your deep throat practice dildo, I'd recommend looking for toys made from soft, non-porous materials. Softness matters because a rigid, firm glass dildo isn't going to feel particularly pleasant - or realistic. Non-porous matters because you're going to be inserting this dildo in your mouth; that means you should be able to fully sterilize it between uses. (Or pop that condom on top of it!)

You can also look for bonus features like suction cups dildos or realistically-shaped toys. While a suction cup may not effortlessly keep it on the wall, it will definitely help with keeping it there (though you may need a hand to support it). A realistically-shaped toy might play into your erotic enjoyment - though it's certainly not necessary if you just want to practice oral sex.