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How to Deep Throat

by MISTRESS KAY
Published: JUNE 7, 2021
Presented by KINKLY SHOP
Going down? Knowing how to deep throat can be an exciting addition to your blowjob game when you want to go all the way down.

Have you heard of the term "deep throating"? I'd be surprised if you haven't (it's made it into everyday conversation in many areas!), but just in case you haven't, deep throating is the act of taking a penis into the very back of the throat during a blowjob. The penis goes deep - into the back of the throat - hence the term "deep throating".

Deep throating can feel very pleasurable for the blowjob receiver. Not only does the back of the throat tend to be tighter than the "open concept" design of the rest of the mouth (I mean, that's how food fits in there while you chew it!), but the tip of the penis also tends to be the most sensitive - and the tip of the penis tends to spend a lot of time during the open area of the mouth during a blowjob that isn't going deep into the throat.

In addition, deep throat blowjobs also provide a different visual. Depending on how long the penis is and how deep the blowjob is, giving this type of blowjob can result in the giver's mouth being wrapped around the very base of the penis where it meets the body; for a lot of blowjob recipients, the visual itself might even be more stimulating than the sensations.

Read: 8 Steps to GIving a Great Blowjob

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Do I Have to Give Deep Throat Blowjobs?

Just like every other sex activity out there, though, these things tend to have a way to make it into some "gold standard" of sexual activity - like multiple orgasms, squirting orgasms, tantric sex, and more. As soon as a new way to experience sex makes it into the mainstream, it somehow makes it onto this pedestal where it becomes this "end goal achievement" for the activities we were already participating in.

Gave a great blowjob? But...did you deep throat?

Enjoyed a powerful g-spot orgasm? But....did you squirt?

Had some amazing sex with a partner? Well....how many times did you orgasm?

All of these things compound in the same way that curated social media can be dangerous: it's easy to think our current activities - the ones we currently enjoy - are "missing something". It's easy to think that what we're doing isn't "good enough." I have some friends who aren't even comfortable giving any sort of blowjobs because they can't deep throat - and that makes them feel less-than. So they never even attempt oral sex in the first place.

So, short answer to whether you "have" to give deep throat blowjobs: No. HELL NO. If you don't want to give deep throat blowjobs for any reason, it isn't necessary. If you don't like receiving them for any reason, it isn't necessary either. Blowjobs can be pretty damn amazing all on their own - and if you do like the idea of adding more stimulation to the things you already enjoy, check out some of the tips at the bottom of this article.

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How to Deep Throat Without Throwing Up

The number one concern most avid oral sex'ers have about deep throating is the gag reflex. Turns out, if your goal is to get a penis as deep into your throat as possible, the gag reflex is a seriously, seriously pesky "built-in" human feature. While the gag reflex can help protect us from choking hazards, in this case, we want the choking hazard, so it's more nuisance than anything.

That being said, most people's gag reflexes can be ever-so-slowly changed. Just like most things about our bodies, if we continually push ourselves - bit by bit - the body can begin to respond accordingly.

This is exactly the case if you're looking for how to deep throat a penis. Nobody likes hearing "it takes time" and "you have to do it hundreds of times for practice" - but that's the reality of the situation.

Each time you take a penis a little bit further, most bodies will slowly adapt its gag reflex response. This won't be a quick practice - expect this to take a few months.

For your safety (and just for your own comfort), don't practice your deep throat skills directly after eating - or at any point where your stomach feels particularly full. Some people also have an extra-sensitive gag reflex first thing in the morning, so you might find more success by doing this at different times in the day.

You'll note that I mentioned most bodies. Some people's bodies just have a very sensitive gag reflex - to the point where they may even have difficulty eating and drinking. (a condition known as dysphagia). If that's the case, getting to the point where deep throating blowjobs are possible just may not be in the cards for your body.

Read: The Do's and Don'ts of Hot Oral Sex

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What Should I Use to Practice Deep Throat Blow Jobs?

If you don't have an available penis to practice on, dildos can also work for oral pleasure. I know the internet is always in awe of videos where people deep-throat bananas - but please, go with something that can't accidentally break-off mid deep throat. Assuming you don't choke on the broken-off banana (which can happen), it's going to be extremely, extremely uncomfortable.

A body safe dildo is your best choice. A high quality dildo makes it impossible for part of it to break off and become a choking hazard and it can have the same size and shape as a biological penis - so you're getting to practice on something that will better translate to the skill you're trying to improve.

Depending on the material of your dildo, you might prefer practicing your deep throat blowjob skills with a condom. Not only does this get you used to the taste for safer sex practices, but it can also reduce the taste of any sex toy material, make your sex toy safer for oral use, and reduce the drag of any sex toy material that might not necessarily feel realistic to you. It sounds backwards, but using a condom on your dildo during oral sex can actually make things feel even MORE realistic.

When shopping for your deep throat practice dildo, I'd recommend looking for toys made from soft, non-porous materials. Softness matters because a rigid, firm glass dildo isn't going to feel particularly pleasant - or realistic. Non-porous matters because you're going to be inserting this dildo in your mouth; that means you should be able to fully sterilize it between uses. (Or pop that condom on top of it!)

You can also look for bonus features like suction cups dildos or realistically-shaped toys. While a suction cup may not effortlessly keep it on the wall, it will definitely help with keeping it there (though you may need a hand to support it). A realistically-shaped toy might play into your erotic enjoyment - though it's certainly not necessary if you just want to practice oral sex.

Some of the toys I'd recommend would be:

Pick Good Deep Throat Positions

The position you use for your blowjob can make a big difference in your ability to relax the gag reflex. This can be somewhat of a personal preference (every body is different!), but in general, any position that straightens out the 90-degree angle that your mouth-to-throat usually sits at will help make deep throating easier for a lot of people. You're essentially aiming to reduce the compression at the back of the throat by straightening it - and hopefully help reduce your body's expected cues for gagging.

Read: 6 Super Fun (and Super Easy!) Oral Sex Positions

deep throat oral sex positionOne of the biggest positions people swear by is the Deepthroat Position. This position helps a lot of blowjob givers be able to experience deep throat sensations - but you should only do this with someone you really, really trust. Since there's no real way to back-off or easily move during this position, you have to trust that your blowjob recipient will respect a "tap-out" motion on your thighs. I wouldn't recommend this for your first foray into deep throating (because, if done wrong, it can really leave some mental scars), but I do want to mention it as a very-common success story for those looking to deep throat.

Head rest oral sex position

You might also find some success in the Head Rest position. It provides a similar angle to the Deepthroat Position - but also allows a lot more moveability for the person giving the blowjob - you can easily back away and control depth. It doesn't quite open up the throat as much as the Deepthroat position, but the control it provides can make up for it.

middle stump oral sex position

You might also find some success with the Middle Stump position. As the blowjob giver is able to kneel at the recipient's feet, the giver can easily control depth by pulling or pushing the receiver's hips away. You can try giving a blowjob with your head placed vertically, but attempting the sideways tilt shown in the Middle Stump can also help you get deeper into the throat - and may help keep your gag reflex from triggering.


How Else Can I Give a Better Blowjob?

Deep throating isn't the be-all, end-all of oral sex. While some people may enjoy the sensation, there are lots and lots of ways to add pleasurable sensations to oral sex that don't require slipping the penis into the back of the throat. In fact, if you've ever read an article with the "best blowjob tips", you know that there are lots and lots of ways to make a blowjob better - though some of those suggestions are definitely better than others.

Read: 8 Sex Toys That Simulate Oral Sex (or Try To!)

So don't stress if deep throating blowjobs don't feel comfortable to you - or even if you're not interested in doing them.

Some other ideas for enhancing the oral pleasure you're giving include:

  • Add some extra sensation at the base. You can do this with your hand if you like - but there are some cool sex toys like the bSwish B Handy that make this really easy to do (and help prevent your hand from fatigue). The B Handy can pleasure the base of the penis while your mouth pleasures the tip. Consider moving them in tandum for an "all-encompassing" sensation like deep throating can provide.
  • Slicken up with flavored lube like the Wicked Aqua Flavored. While the blowjob recipient may not notice this one very much, the blowjob giver definitely will. Instead of choosing no lube or an unflavored lube, consider squirting on a flavored lube. Not only will this make things slide better, but it'll add some really fun and different tastes for you too - which can make it more fun.
  • Experimenting with temperature. A chilly mouth can provide some interesting sensations during oral sex. Straight-up "cold" is probably too cold, but a different temperature than expected (which can be achieved through holding ice in your mouth or drinking cold water right before sliding onto the penis) can be a fun change of pace.
  • Switch places with a penis stroker. You can easily use a penis stroker to jump into a threesome fantasy - two people pleasuring the one penis owner. A realistic penis stroker might help make the visual more immersive, but you can use any penis stroker you own. Provide some oral pleasure for a bit - then swap things out with the penis stroker. Not only do you get a bit of a chance to rest your mouth, but you can ensure a tight/looser squeeze with the penis stroker to help control your partner's ascent to orgasm.
  • Get creative with oral sex toys! There are lots of ways to add sex toys to your blowjob - including wrapping a toy like the Crescendo around the base or using the Fun Factory Manta along the shaft!

Giving a better blowjob is an admirable goal - honestly! Going out of your way to ensure your partner receives more pleasure is A+. Just know that it doesn't have to be through deep throating.

There are lots and lots of ways to pleasure your partner - one involving the back of your throat and hundreds that don't. Explore the world of deep throating if you want (and I hope these tips help you do so!), but if this deep mouth adventure isn't for you, there's nothing wrong with that either.

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Mistress Kay

Mistress Kay has a fondness for all things sexual. With a house that's quickly running out of room for all of her reading and vibrating pleasures, she spends her free time reading, writing, and learning about the sexual universe with her partners. She can be reached at Kinky World.


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