Updated: JULY 27, 2022
Reviewed by Kinkly Staff
on July 27, 2022

Milking is the act of massaging the prostate gland through the anus to encourage ejaculation. This gland is sometimes called the male G-spot because milking the prostate can trigger intense orgasmic response for some people. This act may be done for sexual pleasure or medical reasons. Although the studies supporting prostate massage are fairly small, it has been used as a treatment for painful ejaculation, erectile dysfunction, prostatis and urine flow issues. Prostate massage has also been touted as a way to prevent prostate cancer, although there currently isn't a lot of research to support this.

Because the prostate is part of the sexual response cycle, massaging it can be very pleasurable and lead to powerful orgasms. For most people massing their own prostates, they do so for sexual enjoyment, although the potential health benefits are an added bonus.

Milking is also sometimes called a prostate massage. However, it's important to note that prostate milking refers specifically to internal massage of the area on the rectum's anterior wall. The more general term, prostate massage, can also refer to external massage of the perineum, which can indirectly put pressure on the prostate.

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To milk your partner’s prostate, insert a finger or more inside the anus. Feel for the prostate, a raised area at least one inch inside the anus which is about the size of a large walnut. Massage it gently but firmly, starting slowly before increasing the intensity. Some people with penises also enjoy milking their own prostates during solo or couples' play. Commercial prostate massagers - including vibrators, dildos and anal plugs - are available. However, some people prefer to use one or two fingers to stimulate the prostate. This can work well, although in some instances a finger may be too short to reach the prostate gland.

The orgasm achieved through milking is commonly known as a prostate orgasm. This orgasm is said to be more intense and more pleasurable. There may be a sensation of the need to urinate before this orgasm, even with an empty bladder.

It can be difficult for cis-men in particular to accept something entering their anuses. Starting with a genital massage of the penis, testicles and perineum can help these men relax and make the process feel less clinical. Milking may also be incorporated with a hand job.

While milking can be pleasurable and beneficial for the prostate, it’s important for the person milking to remember the organs and tissues being massaged are very sensitive. Never milk your partner’s prostate when your nails are long to ensure you don’t damage the skin inside the rectum. Hands should also be kept clean. Sterile latex gloves may be worn. Some water-based lubricant can make milking easier and more pleasurable. Alternatively, a prostate massager can be used to milk the prostate.

In BDSM, milking tables may be used for prostate milking because of their potential for role play, group sex and power play scenarios.

While prostate milking is generously safe, injuries can occur if the massage is too vigorous. A generous amount of lubricant will reduce the risks of damage to the rectal lining.

Many people also prefer to use condoms with anal play. Latex gloves are also commonly worn for prostate milking. If you don't wear gloves, it’s important to wash your hands thoroughly and keep your nails short, clean and smooth. Massagers and fingers should also be cleaned thoroughly with a mild soap before being used in other orifices.


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