Forced Orgasm

Updated: FEBRUARY 16, 2021
Reviewed by Dr. Laura McGuire
on February 10, 2021

A forced orgasm is a climax experienced by someone who gives up control during sexual play. A submissive person may have a forced orgasm after focused stimulation from a dominant person. As the name of this climax suggests, a forced orgasm occurs even when a person is trying not to come. This is a common element during BDSM and kink play, particularly dominant/submissive scenes.

A forced orgasm occurs when a submissive partner attempts to delay their orgasm. The dominant partner stimulates their genitals and other erogenous zones to try to trigger an orgasm. This stimulation can occur through vaginal, oral, or anal sex, but it usually occurs with fingers or sex toys. The dominant partner often uses a rope or other bondage tools to restrain their submissive partner while trying to make them come. The restrained submissive partner loses control of their body, so they can't influence when they orgasm and how intensely.

A forced orgasm may involve a dominant person triggering a single orgasm or several orgasms. Multiple forced orgasms are more common with submissive people with vaginas, who have shorter refractory periods than people with penises. When submissives have multiple forced orgasms, overstimulation can change the sensations in their bodies from straight pleasure to a kind of pleasure-pain. The feel-good endorphins released during orgasm should ensure pleasure dominates, though.

While they are both called forced orgasms, the term in a BDSM or kink context differs from an orgasm a victim has during a sexual assault. In a BDSM or kink context, the person receiving a forced orgasm is always a willing participant granting their full consent. As forced orgasms can occur with consent, people who have non-consensual forced orgasms may feel confused or ashamed. This is why it’s so important that people understand a forced orgasm in a BDSM or kink context is very different from one that occurs without consent.


Latest Sex Positions

View More Positions More Icon