Anal Gape

Updated: NOVEMBER 2, 2023
Reviewed by Dr. Sunny Rodgers
on November 1, 2023

Anal gape refers to the visual appearance of the anus following anal penetration. Anal sex, the use of anal sex toys, and anal training can all stretch the anal sphincter and create an anal gape. The practice of deliberately achieving an anal gape is referred to as anal gaping. Individuals of any gender who partake in anal play may experience the development of an anal gape.

Anal gaping is the process of deliberately stretching the anus to create the distinctive appearance associated with an anal gape. This process involves the gradual widening of the anus, yielding a visual effect that some individuals find arousing compared to the conventional closed sphincter. This effect is achieved by introducing objects into the anus that promote gentle stretching. Anal gaping can manifest as a result of extended sessions of anal sex or through the exploration of anal toys like dildos and butt plugs. The process of anal gaping is prompted by the body's response to a perceived need to facilitate waste passage.

Anal gaping is commonly misspelled as "anal gapping."

Why are people into anal gaping?

People are drawn to anal gaping for a variety of reasons, as it can encompass both physical sensations and psychological factors. Here are some potential reasons why individuals might find anal gaping appealing:

Physical Sensation

Engaging in anal play, including anal gaping, can stimulate nerve endings around the anal region, leading to pleasurable sensations. The process of stretching the anal sphincter and experiencing the sensation of fullness is arousing for some individuals.

Variety and Exploration

Like any form of sexual exploration, anal gaping offers a new experience that can add variety to one's sexual repertoire. Exploring different sensations and visual aspects of the body can be exciting and satisfying.

Visual Stimulation

For some, the visual appearance of an anal gape can be aesthetically arousing. The contrast between a traditionally closed sphincter and a more open appearance can evoke fascination and arousal. It can also boost one’s ego, serving as reaffirmation to the penetrating partner’s belief that their penis is large enough to create a gaping hole.


Anal play, including anal gaping, remains somewhat taboo in many societies. Some people find the forbidden nature of the activity intriguing and exciting, contributing to their interest.

Body Empowerment

Engaging in anal play and exploring the body's capacity for stretching and sensation can foster a sense of empowerment and ownership over one's body.

Visually Erotic

Just as people are drawn to various body shapes, sizes and appearances, some individuals find the appearance of an anal gape to be aesthetically pleasing and erotic.

Anal Gaping and BDSM

All BDSM activities require clear communication, consent, and mutual respect. BDSM dynamics vary, as they are widely based on personal preferences, individual boundaries, and specific relationship dynamics. This applies to all activities listed below.

In BDSM contexts, anal gaping can serve various roles and fulfil specific dynamics within the context of power exchange and kink activities. Here are some reasons why anal gaping could be incorporated into BDSM practices:

Dominance and Submission Dynamics

Anal gaping can play into power dynamics commonly found in D/s relationships. The act of creating an anal gape might be used as a form of submission, where the submissive partner submits to the dominant partner's desires and directives.

Control and Surrender

Anal gaping can represent an act of surrender and submission. The submissive partner may relinquish control over their body and its sensations, allowing the dominant partner to dictate the extent of the stretching and exploration.

Humiliation and Degradation

In certain BDSM scenarios, anal gaping can be used as a form of psychological play, involving humiliation or degradation. The submissive partner might feel exposed, vulnerable, or degraded by having their body presented in a visually open and intimate manner.

Visual Stimulation

For dominant partners, the visual aspect of an anal gape can be stimulating and arousing. The submissive partner's willingness to engage in anal gaping may symbolize their commitment to the dynamic and their desire to please the dominant partner.

Controlled Discomfort

Anal play, including gaping, can introduce controlled discomfort. This can be used to push boundaries, test limits, and create a sensation of discomfort within a controlled and consensual environment.

Communication and Trust

Incorporating anal gaping into BDSM allows for communication, negotiation and explicit consent between partners. The act of discussing and agreeing upon such activities enhances trust and understanding within the relationship.

Customized Pleasure

In some cases, anal gaping can be pleasurable for the submissive partner, who derives enjoyment from fulfilling their dominant partner's desires and experiencing intense sensations.

Anal Gape in Porn

When consuming pornography featuring anal gaping, it's crucial to approach it through a critical lens. Pornographic content often exaggerates and dramatizes experiences for visual impact. After all, pornography is entertainment - not real life!

For example, anal gaping in pornography may be more extreme than is realistic (or safe) for most people, and scenes may lack the portrayal of consent and intimacy that are so important in real relationships. In addition, attempting to recreate pornographic scenes showing anal gaping could lead to injury as this dynamic emphasizes a goal rather than following a partner's lead and comfort level.

Therefore, if you're seeking accurate information, we advise turning to credible sources and opting for ethical pornography.

More About Anal Gape

Anal gaping can make anal sex easier and less painful for the recipient. Practicing anal training to create an anal gape can also be a conducive process to reach an anal gape.

A Step-by-Step Guide to Anal Gaping

Prior to practicing anal gaping, couples should clean the receiving partner’s anus. It’s a good idea to empty the bowels first, and use an enema if you so desire. If you have a physical disability, this may require more assistance from a partner.

As the anus does not have natural lubrication as the vagina does, using a commercial lubricant makes insertion easier. Since anal gaping is one of the more extreme forms of anal play, it requires much more lubricant than anal sex. The receiving partner should also get into a comfortable position that presents their anus to the giving partner, such as on their hands and knees. If this position is not possible for the receiving partner, they can explore other comfortable sex positions, such as lying on their side.

Creating an anal gape shouldn’t be rushed. It is possible to tear the anus or colon. Prolonged anal penetration helps minimize pain.

Here are some general guidelines for those interested in exploring anal gaping:

Research and Educate Yourself

Before you start any kind of training, educate yourself on the anatomy of the anal region, potential risks and proper techniques. Additionally, research proper hygiene, how to properly sanitize insertables before and after use, as well as safety practices.

Maintain Hygiene and Tidiness

Prioritize hygiene both before and after engaging in anal gaping. Thoroughly clean your hands and toys before and after each use. Use appropriate products designed to promote safe anal play, and ensure meticulous sanitization of objects to uphold a healthy and enjoyable experience.

Gather Supplies

Prepare essential supplies you’ll need, such as a suitable anal lubricant, cleaning products, sex toys designed for anal use, condoms, and gloves if you prefer to use them. Lastly, have a towel or mat on hand for comfort and easy cleanup during the process.

Set the Right Environment

Choose a comfortable, private and relaxing space where you feel at ease.

Prepare and Unwind

Commence by embracing relaxation techniques, such as taking deep, calming breaths and have your partner gently massage around the anal region. Inviting them to tenderly massage your body can aid in releasing any tension and further enhance your comfort.

Apply Lubrication

Generously apply lubricant to both the anal opening and the object you intend to insert. If you’re new to anal play, starting with fingers can be a gentle introduction. Ample lubrication is essential for reducing friction and discomfort. Remember to reapply as needed.

Start with Small Objects

Begin with either a small sex toy or a finger, gently introducing it at your preferred pace. Take moments to pause and relax whenever necessary, allowing you to address any sensations of discomfort and make adjustments accordingly.

Explore Anal Gaping Gradually

As you become comfortable with the initial insertion, have your partner gently move the object in circular motions (rather than moving in and out), slowly opening the anus more. During this time, focus on relaxation and breathing. The giving partner should be prepared to speak with the receiving partner to ensure they are comfortable.

Mind Your Body’s Signals

As you progress, it’s imperative you listen to your body. If you experience pain, discomfort or resistance, pause to assess the situation. Communicating with your partner is essential to ensure alignment and understanding. If you wish to conclude the process, ensure a gradual and gentle removal of the object.

Practice Patience and Mindfulness

As you advance, maintain a keen awareness of your body's responses at various stages and your overall sensations. Recognize that this journey is about progress, not haste. Infusing patience and mindfulness nurtures a harmonious connection between your emotions, bodily sensations, and the evolving experience. If you're engaging with a partner, communicate these insights openly and collaboratively throughout the process.

Progress Gradually

Understand that anal gaping is likely to unfold over several sessions. As you experience comfort and confidence at various stages, progressively increase the girth (or circular motion) of the inserted object during each session. Prioritize attentiveness to your body's cues, ensuring it’s prepared before advancing to the next stage.

Reflect and Adjust

Consistently evaluate your comfort and advancement throughout the process. Should you find pleasure in anal gaping, proceed with exploration while maintaining respect for your current stage and established boundaries.

Remember, if you have concerns or questions about anal play or your body's response, consider seeking advice from a healthcare professional or a sex educator.

Toys or Products for Anal Gaping

When it comes to anal play, it's important to use objects that are specifically designed for this purpose.

Anal toys come in various shapes and sizes, including anal beads, butt plugs, anal speculums and anal dildos. Look for toys with a flared base or handle to prevent them from getting lost inside the body. Do not use pointy or sharp objects.

Here are some safe objects that can be used for anal play, specifically anal gaping:

Fingers: For beginners, using clean fingers with trimmed nails can be a safe way to explore anal play. Be sure to wash your hands thoroughly before and after.

Latex or Nitrile Gloves: Using gloves can enhance hygiene and reduce the risk of infections. Gloves are a good option when using fingers for anal play.

Silicone Plugs: Silicone is a popular material for anal toys due to its flexibility, smoothness, and body-safe properties. Silicone plugs are comfortable and easy to clean.

Glass Toys: Glass toys are non-porous and can be heated or cooled for temperature play. They are also easy to clean and provide a smooth surface for comfortable insertion.

Metal Plugs: Metal plugs are firm and can provide a sense of weight and fullness. They are also easy to clean and can be used with temperature play.

Inflatable Toys: Some anal toys have inflatable features that allow you to gradually increase their size. These should be used with caution and care, especially by those with experience.

Anal Beads: Anal beads are a series of gradually increasing beads on a string or flexible material. They can provide a unique sensation when inserted and removed.

Water-Based Lubricant: While not an object itself, water-based lubricant is an essential accessory for anal play. It reduces friction, making the experience smoother and more comfortable.

Extreme Anal Gaping: Is It Safe?

Extreme anal gaping is a niche activity that some individuals may find visually appealing or arousing, but it is essential to approach it with caution, consent and an understanding of the potential risks involved. If you're interested in exploring extreme anal play, consider consulting a certified sex educator or healthcare professional for guidance to ensure your safety and comfort.

"Extreme anal gaping" refers to a practice within the realm of anal play where the anal sphincter is stretched to a significant degree, resulting in a visually noticeable opening of the anus. This can be achieved through the insertion of larger objects, such as very large anal toys or multiple objects, or through prolonged stretching over time. The goal of extreme anal gaping is to achieve a substantial and often exaggerated widening of the anal opening.

It's important to note that extreme anal gaping goes beyond typical or comfortable anal play and may involve activities that carry a higher risk of discomfort, pain and potential injury. This practice should only be pursued by individuals who have extensive experience with anal play, are knowledgeable about their own body's limits, and prioritize safety and well-being.

Can anal gape be permanent?

The effects of anal gaping typically last for three to six hours. After this time, the anus contracts and returns to its usual state.

The concept of permanent anal gaping is a topic that requires careful consideration and accurate information. While it is possible for the anal sphincter to experience temporary stretching during anal play or certain activities, the anus itself is a muscular structure designed to contract and expand. It is not designed to remain in a permanently stretched state.

It's important to differentiate between temporary anal gaping that may occur during or immediately after certain activities and a permanent change in the anatomy of the anus.

Engaging in activities that involve extreme or forceful stretching of the anal sphincter can potentially lead to discomfort, pain and even injury. However, these effects are generally reversible with time, proper care, and avoiding further activities that may exacerbate the discomfort.

For individuals who are interested in anal gaping, the goal should be to enjoy the experience while respecting the body's natural limits and boundaries.

If you have concerns about the impact of anal play on your body, it's advisable to consult a certified sex educator, therapist, or healthcare professional who can provide accurate information and guidance tailored to your situation.


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