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What It Is That We Do (WIITWD)

Definition - What does What It Is That We Do (WIITWD) mean?

What it is that we do (WIITWD) is a phrase most often used as a way to distinguish between vanilla lifestyles and alternative lifestyles, particularly BDSM. This very broad, all-inclusive phrase used to refer to sexual activities that many people would consider to be kinky.

Although it is most commonly used to refer to the BDSM lifestyle or scene, WIITWD is also used to refer to other kinky activities and fetishes, including infantilism, polygamy, daddy and little relationships, and sometimes even homosexual relationships.

Kinkly explains What It Is That We Do (WIITWD)

This phrase and acronym are thought to have first originated on the popular Usenet group,, in the '90s. It was created to be very broad in an effort to include all fetish lifestyles. It quickly caught on and many individuals living alternative lifestyles still use WIITWD as a way to differentiate themselves from the mainstream vanilla community.

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