Financial Domination (FinDom)

Last Updated: May 11, 2021

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Definition - What does Financial Domination (FinDom) mean?

Financial domination is the power-exchange arrangement a submissive/slave consensually enters into with a financially dominant dom. In most cases, this kind of relationship does not involve sex as other power-exchange relationships do.

A financial dominant may humiliate, demean, or consensually blackmail their financial slave in exchange for money or gifts. The dom may demand money or items they feel they deserve or even become the slave’s money manager.

A financial slave is sometimes called a money pig or pay pig. Extorting money or gifts through financial domination is money slavery or wallet rape. Financial slaves become turned on by this kind of domination and may masturbate in their dom’s company, but only if they receive permission first.

The Dom dominates the financial slave emotionally, rather than physically as many doms do. In fact, many don’t even spend time in the same room as their slave. Instead, most financial dominants communicate with their slaves online via webcam, instant messaging, or email.

They may also exchange phone calls or SMS their slaves. However, some doms and financial slaves do spend time together. For example, they may have a shopping date, where the slave spends money on the dom. A chore date, where the financial slave pays to perform acts of servitude, is another option.

Financial dominants often advertise their services online. They accept a variety of payment methods, including PayPal, gift cards, credit cards, direct bank deposits, and gifts directly delivered to them. Some financial slaves give their dominants full access to their savings and encourage them to access these funds as required.

There is some confusion about who started financial domination. Some say the first financial dominant was Miss Marx, who saw how some men got an instant hard-on when handing a woman money. She exploited this reaction and eventually inspired a cult fetish, according to some. However, others believe Princess Sierra, another professional dominant working in the late 1990s, was the first financial dominant.

A financial domination arrangement is most commonly seen between a male financial slave and a female dominatrix. However, people of any gender or sexual orientation can participate in financial domination.

Financial domination is often shortened to the term FinDom. Although it is said the same, it is spelled differently from "fin-dom" which is short for the role of financial dominant.

Kinkly explains Financial Domination (FinDom)

People who are financial slaves typically feel their fin-dom is worth servitude and all the money and gifts they lavish on them. They also enjoy feeling vulnerable when their fin-dom humiliates, demeans, or blackmails them.

Although the power exchange is the crux of a findom relationship, it is important to remember that each aspect of the domination and the limits are negotiated and agreed to by all the parties involved. The terms can be renegotiated at any time and consent can be revoked at any point, for any reason.

As some financial slaves are wealthy, high-powered professionals they also get a thrill knowing they could damage their reputation if anyone ever discovered their involvement in financial domination. Many also have partners and families who they could also lose if their interest in financial domination was ever uncovered.

As they are often in control in their professional and personal lives, slaves find giving up control during financial domination can be freeing. Being a financial slave can also feed a person’s ego, as they know that their wealth and success let them participate in financial domination. Fin-doms typically enjoy the power they have over their financial slaves. They also enjoy the attention and financial gain their arrangement brings them.

Financial domination can be a healthy fetish for people with the cash to spare to fulfill it. However, a financial domination relationship could potentially financially impair the financial slave. Financial slaves should reconsider the arrangement if it jeopardizes their financial security. A financial slave should always be able to meet their financial obligations, such as paying their bills. Some fin-doms operate on a sliding scale, which always even those who are not wealthy to indulge in their fetish.

Responsible fin-doms understand this and avoid putting their slaves under real financial duress. As with other dominants, they have a responsibility to never harm their submissives in any real way.

While elements of financial domination may seem non-consensual, the arrangement between fin-dom and financial slave should be consensual and built on trust. Fin-doms consider what will turn their financial slaves on without exploiting them. A fin-dom and financial slave should discuss their boundaries before beginning financial domination and agree to a safe word which the slave can use if they want the arrangement to stop.

However, it can be difficult for fin-doms to fully appreciate a financial slave’s financial status. If a financial slave feels their interest in financial domination is putting them under financial strain, they may find speaking to a therapist useful. A therapist can help them understand more about what they are getting from financial domination and reduce their dependence on this fetish.

Reviewed by Dr. Laura McGuire
on May 11, 2021

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