Do-Me Queen

Updated: JANUARY 21, 2019

A do-me queen is a submissive person in the BDSM scene who is more intent on receiving attention and pleasure than giving it. For example, a do-me queen will often try to persuade a dominant to perform certain sexual acts that they enjoy with blatant disregard to what the dominant wants. Do-me queens are usually considered to be topping from the bottom when doing this. The term do-me queen is usually used to refer to a female submissive who behaves like this, but it can also be used to refer to a man in some cases

The terms do-me king and do-me sub may also be used to describe submissives who frequently top from the bottom.

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Do-me queens are often very frustrating and draining for most dominants. In fact, this is usually used as a derogatory term. Although the sub may think it's cute or funny to try to control a BDSM scene, most dominants (and even other subs) typically see it as a sign of inexperience or selfishness. Remember, nobody likes a selfish sub. To make sure you continue to have someone to play with in the future, squelch the control issues and play along like a good little sub. Otherwise, you may want to consider becoming a dominant or a switch instead.