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MFM Threesome

Updated: SEPTEMBER 28, 2021
Reviewed by Jen Mallia
on September 28, 2021

An MFM threesome is sexual activity between three people, two of whom identify as male and one who identifies as female. The arrangement of the letters in the acronym, MFM, is important in this context because it signifies that the male participants are not interested in sexual play with each other, that they are solely interested in engaging sexually with the female participant.

Threesomes can come together from a variety of circumstances and relationship configurations. All partners must enthusiastically consent and agree to what activities are on the table and what each person's limits are.

All three participants can be strangers or just casual friends. One male and one female can be in a relationship and invite a second male (stranger or friend) to join for specifically sexual reasons. Sometimes the female is in a Vee relationship with both of the male participants.

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Although MFM denotes that there is no sexual contact between the male participants, they must both be comfortable with another close male presence. Different opportunities for focus and pleasure are available when three people join together for sexual play. During MFM threesome sex, focus is often on the woman, with the woman focusing her attention on both of the men equally. It can also play out as a cuckolding scene where one of the men and the woman are the featured (or only) players, while the other man watches or has limited engagement with the woman.

Many different sexual positions and activities can be used with three people in an MFM configuration, involving manual, oral, vaginal and anal sex. Some popular positions include double oral connections (one man provides oral sex for the woman while she also provides oral sex for the other man), (the woman provides oral sex for one man and has vaginal or anal sex with the other) and double penetration (the woman is penetrated by the two men simultaneously, one vaginally, anally or orally). A safeword is important and if there will be oral sex, gagging, or any kind of activity where verbal communication will be impeded, agree also on a safe gesture.

There are also many opportunities to include different types of sex, including BDSM and fetish play into MFM threesome sex, always ensuring every act and every second is safe and consensual.

MFM threesome is short for male-female-male threesome.

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More About MFM Threesome

Introducing a third person into an established sexual relationship can be a fulfilling and exciting sexual enhancement that can greatly benefit both people — and be a lot of fun for the man they bring into the fold.

Whether bringing in another man just for sexual fun or establishing a new relationship between the second man and the woman, care, consideration and communication become paramount. Given how popular the idea of a threesome is, it seems some humans could be naturally inclined toward sex with more than one person, and that monogamous pair-binding is more of a societal construct for them.

Breaking free from that construct can be difficult, and introducing a third person — to whom one of the original partners does not have sexual or emotional attraction to — does require clear communication around feelings, desire and boundaries.

One of the most popular ways people use MFM threesomes is to engage in cuckold fantasies. A very popular sexual desire, the cuckold (a man in a relationship with a woman), wants to see “his” woman, have sex with another man, the “bull.” The cuckold may or may not participate; he might enjoy just watching. The main focus is the desire to share his female partner or to watch her experiencing pleasure. Some cuckold scenes also incorporate aspects of humiliation. The female and the bull may verbally degrade the cuckolded male while he is “forced” to watch the bull have sex with his partner.

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Another frequently desired aspect of MFM threesomes is the opportunity for Dominance and submission. One person can be physically dominated by the other two participants. In depictions of this scenario in mainstream and some kink porn, the submissive person is most often the woman. However, it really could be any of the participants.

Anyone can have a fantasy of being dominated by two sexual partners. These scenes can take the form of subtle dominance, wherein two partners control the sexual activity, or more overt acts of one dominant partner physically restraining the submissive for the other dominant. Open and honest communication is critical to ensure all partners are safe and happy in these scenes. Ensure you have established a safeword and safe gesture or action and that all the participants are committed to the idea that it will be respected and abided by.

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