Cunnilingus is oral sex performed on a partner with a vulva. During cunnilingus, the giving partner stimulates the clitoris or vulva with their mouth. There are several informal terms for cunnilingus including eating pussy and muff-diving.
It’s a good idea to work up to oral sex with some kissing and caressing. Once both people feel ready, the receiving partner usually stands, sits, or lies down for cunnilingus. The giving partner positions their head between their partner’s legs and explores their vulva with their mouth. Alternatively, the giving partner may lie down and get the receiving partner to sit on their face. A 69 position, with both partners positioning their heads between their partner’s legs, also works well. The giving partner could also get on all fours. Couples may experiment to find which cunnilingus positions are most comfortable for them.
During cunnilingus, the giving partner may use their lips, tongue, or mouth to kiss, lick, or gently suck the receiving partner’s vulva. Sometimes the giving partner inserts their tongue into the vagina to increase the receiver’s sexual arousal. They may also use their fingers to part the labia and expose the clitoris or penetrate the vagina. Some giving and receiving partners like to close their eyes to focus on the sensations of cunnilingus. Others feel locking eyes is more intimate. Couples may also hold hands or touch themselves or one another during cunnilingus.
Cunnilingus feels best for some when the giving partner uses repetitive motions. Using long, soft licks and a swirling motion with the tongue, rather than short licks, may feel more sensual and arousing. Treating the vulva like a melting ice-cream cone can be a good tactic for giving partners. It’s a good idea to start soft and gentle, then build the intensity over time.
Cunnilingus may be part of foreplay, sex, or afterplay. A giving partner may use cunnilingus to arouse their partner, bring them to orgasm, or continue their pleasure after they’ve already had an orgasm.
