The Cowgirl Position

Last Updated: October 6, 2020

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Definition - What does The Cowgirl Position mean?

The cowgirl position is a vaginal sex position performed with the receiving partner on top. It gets its name because the receiving partner, often female, straddles the penetrating partner like a cowgirl riding a horse.

To get into the cowgirl position, the penetrating partner lies on their back on a bed or another flat surface. The receiving partner straddles their partner and sits in a kneeling position, with their legs on either side of their partner’s hips. From this position, the penetrating partner can penetrate the receiving partner. While both people can move in the cowgirl position, the receiving partner is in the more dominant position. They usually control the depth, angle, and speed of penetration by setting the rhythm. They might thrust, move their hips in circles, or grind their hips against their partner for pleasure. This position is excellent for clitoral stimulation.

Woman-on-top is another name for the cowgirl position, when the receiving partner is female. The cowboy position is another name that may work better for couples who have a male receiving partner. The rider position, the cowperson position, or person on top are three gender-neutral synonyms for the cowgirl position.





diagram of the cowgirl sex position

Kinkly explains The Cowgirl Position

Many couples enjoy the cowgirl position because it gives the receiving partner a great deal of control. By varying the depth, angle, and speed of penetration, they can experiment with what feels good to them and become more in tune with their bodies. This control is something many sex positions do not give receiving partners. Swapping the traditional power dynamics can be very erotic for couples.


Sex experts say receiving partners are more likely to orgasm in this position than any other. That’s because the position puts receiving partners in control and, for vulva-havers, stimulates the clitoris. On the flipside, many couples also find the penetrating partner does not climax as quickly in this position. By delaying the penetrating partner’s orgasm, the couple can enjoy sex together for longer.

As the cowgirl position puts couples face-to-face, it is a very intimate sex position. Many people enjoy being able to look their partner in the eyes while they’re having sex.

The cowgirl position also gives the penetrating partner a great view of their partner’s body moving on top of them. Receiving partners can give their partner an even better view by leaning back a little. The penetrating partner’s thighs can be a great support for the receiving partner in this small variation. The penetrating partner is also in a great position to caress their partner’s hips, chest, and nipples.

The reverse cowgirl position is a common variation on the cowgirl position. In this position, the receiving partner simply turns around so they are facing their penetrating partner’s feet.

The horizontal cowgirl position is another great alternative. In this alternative, the receiving partner straddles the penetrating partner, then lays down on their chest. This variation provides excellent G-spot stimulation.

The cowgirl position takes good physical fitness from receiving partners, who may not usually take such an active role in sex. Putting a pillow or two underneath the penetrating partner’s hips can make the position easier for receiving partners.

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