Gentle FemDom (GFD) is shorthand for gentle female domination. This is consensual domination by a female or femme-identifying partner that doesn’t involve physical or mental pain, including harsh punishments and humiliation. It was developed as a counterpoint to the male-centered, often violent and unemotional kind of FemDom popularized by mainstream pornography.
Many people consider gentle FemDom a more loving and affectionate form of domination than traditional domination. Some people even describe the way a woman practicing gentle FemDom behaves as maternal, because mothers take charge while attempting to spare their children harm. Further to this, a gentle FemDom relationship may not involve sex. Mutual and ongoing consent to any activity must be agreed on by all parties in any D/s or interpersonal play/scene, regardless of if it seems “gentle” or not.
A gentle Dominant may collar her submissive, tie them up, blindfold them, or delay their orgasms. She may encourage her partner to perform acts of servitude and please her sexually through submissive acts, like body worship or household cleaning chores for her.
Gentle FemDom may also involve role-playing.The Dominant could play the role of a teacher and her student. Even simple acts of dominance, such as a Dominant picking their partner’s clothes for a date or telling them to strip, may fall under gentle FemDom. Couples may also engage in sensation play, with the Dominant teasing her partner with hot wax and chilled metal dildos, for example.
While a woman who practices Gentle FemDom takes charge, she does not physically hurt, emasculate, or otherwise humiliate her submissive partner. She is likely to reward his attempts to please her through praise and physical affection. However, she is unlikely to punish him if he does not measure up, as a regular dominatrix would.
Gentle FemDom has a large online following. Fans of gentle FemDom can find many images, gifs, stories, and fan-art depicting gentle FemDom scenarios on websites like Tumblr, 4chan, and Reddit. Some submissives may use these images and stories to supplement their real-life experiences of gentle FemDom. Others may be content simply viewing the online materials and fantasizing about a gentle FemDom relationship.
Gentle FemDom is sometimes shortened further to the acronym GFD.