Spit Roasting

Traditionally the penetrating partners do not touch one another during spit roasting. They may touch the receiving partner, to steady themselves or show affection, but usually not each other. However, sometimes penetrating partners high-five one another or touch hands over the receiving partner’s back. In this configuration, the spit roasting becomes an Eiffel Tower. That’s because the penetrating partner’s arms form a tower shape.

Spit roasting usually happens with three people. However, there are some variations that allow a fourth person to take part. The receiving partner could get penetrated anally, orally, and vaginally by three partners at the same time. This variation is double-adaptor spit roasting. If someone masturbates over the receiving partner receiving a spit roasting, the sex act gets called a lathe.

Some people feel spit roasting is degrading for receiving partners. However, many people enjoy spit roasting. Receiving partners may feel more pleasure when they get sexual attention from more than one person. Penetrating partners can also feel more intense pleasure having sex with someone at the same time as someone else. The shared experience of spit roasting can help people feel closer to one another. The taboo nature of group sex can also make spit roasting feel sexier.

Keeping communication open and honest makes sure no one feels coerced into this sex act. If a couple wants to try spit roasting with someone, they should chat with this person beforehand. Discussing the possibility of spit roasting and how it might play out can help everyone feel comfortable. Participants should also determine what they want to happen and if they have any hard limits. With good communication, spit roasting can be pleasurable for all participants.

It is a good idea to establish a check-in process, particularly for the receiver. If their mouth is busy giving oral sex, they may not be able to easily say that they would like to change things up or stop. The experience may be very intense and lead them to get lost in "sub-space" (a dreamy, almost dissociative state,) necessitating a pause, check-in, and affirmation of enthusiastic consent.

As with all group sex, using condoms for spit roasting reduces the risk of unwanted pregnancies and sexually transmitted infections. Penetrating partners should change condoms before moving from anal sex to oral sex for the receiving partner’s health.