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Stella Harris

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Stella Harris is a certified intimacy educator, coach, and mediator, who uses a variety of tools to guide and empower her clients and she teaches everything from pleasure anatomy, to communication skills, to kink and BDSM. Stella has appeared at conferences across the US and Canada, and regularly provides workshops and guest lectures to colleges and universities. Stella’s writing has appeared widely, including a weekly sex advice column in her local paper. Highlights of her media appearances include speaking as an expert on Banana Slug sex and appearing on the evening news discussing the importance of sex education in schools.

Stella is the author of two books, "Tongue Tied: Untangling Communication in Sex, Kink, and Relationships" and and "The Ultimate Guide to Threesomes." Learn more at www.stellaharris.net or follow @stellaharriserotica on Instagram.

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ARTICLES BY STELLA HARRIS

In a masturbation rut? Here are some ideas for how to use various kinds of vibrators in new or less expected ways!

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Panty fetishes are one of the best known (and, unfortunately, joked about) fetishes. But what's the appeal in used underwear? Let's break it down.

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Ready to try prostate milking? Here's how to do it.

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The old saying: bad sex is still good sex. The truth: you can do these 10 things right now to have a better sex life.

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Predicament bondage. An activity that requires someone to make decisions and pay the price for them. Here's an introduction to predicament bondage.

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Anal sex makes people nervous but it's a lot more accessible than you might think. Here's what you need to know before your first time.

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Bondage is for everyone. Here's how bondage can be used for bodies of all sizes, genders, and abilities.

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For some people, the pleasure and intimacy of anal make working through some additional considerations worthwhile.

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Banish that wandering mind and those fears about smell, taste and the elusive orgasm. Stop worrying and start enjoying!

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The number of high quality resources for sex education is increasing online. You just need to know where - and how - to look for them.

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Just like any other sexual contact, analingus presents a few potential health risks - but there are ways to mitigate them.

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Even among the BDSM community, there's some confusion about tops, bottoms and switches. We clear things up.

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Recent news has made it easy to get mired in pessimism. But there are lots of good reasons to believe that the future of sex is bright.

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Involved in a long distance relationship? Spice it up using edging and orgasm control!

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Seeking a threesome experience? These terms will help you navigate one - and better understand what you're getting into.

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Oral sex with a strap-on may seem besides the point, but it can actually be a an intimate and exhilarating experience for both parties.

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Choosing a sex toy is kind of like dating; there are seemingly countless options and you can’t tell what you’re going to get based on just pictures. But unlike dating, many people won’t ask for recommendations from their friends.

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Many beginner kinksters jump into bondage. Here are some positions for everyone from newbies to experienced rope riggers.

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Anal sex is one of the most common fantasies people have, but getting it right involves some preparation - and practice. We provide everything you need to know to get started.

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Fisting is a fantasy for many, but most people don't really understand how it works. You're in luck: Here's your step-by-step guide to fisting.

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With multiple partners comes multiple desires and points of view. That can mean excitement and fun, but there's plenty of room for trouble too.

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Learn the fundamentals of safe and sexy rope bondage

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Think that you can't be intimate with your partner because you can't get an erection? Think again. Here are some ideas to boost intimacy without sex.

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Think you know about sexual activity? Think again! Learn why sexual activity includes more than you think it does.

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BDSM is more than just spankings and other naughty adventures. It's also about negotiation to meet needs. Here's how to make sure that happens.

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Forget about tools and tricks. We delve into the heart of what makes BDSM so hot.

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QUESTIONS BY STELLA HARRIS

Want to take 'playing doctor' to the next level? Kinkly asks the expert about medical play and safety.

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When experimenting with genital clamps, get familiar with your tool of choice before it touches any sensitive part of your body.

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Where do you look if you want a third for your threesome? Start by reading this!

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Kinkly asks the expert about the link between oral sex and cancer.

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After any kind of threesome or group play, it's really important to find a way to have a check-in with your partner. For some people, that...

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Well, this one comes up a lot. People want sex and threesomes to happen spontaneously and organically. And, well, I won't say that never in...

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For starters, I would say that you're on the right track already being in touch with yourself and knowing what you need. If you know that...

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Using fantasy and dirty talk is a great way to incorporate experiences into your sex life that may be either logistically impractical or...

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Thank you for reaching out with this question. I know it can be a vulnerable topic to talk about. You bring up a lot of points in your...

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These are two very big questions, and I’ll do my best to give them both complete answers. First, let me applaud you for being concerned...

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Why have more than one Dom(me)? For the same reasons anyone has more than one partner. Many people who are polyamorous or who engage in...

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“You’re a sex educator? That’s so cool! How can I do that?” I hear some variation of this question about once a week. And I get it. Sex...

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I’m so sorry you’ve gone through these awful experiences, and I’m very glad to hear that you’re already in therapy and that you’re...

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