Stella Harris
Articles by Stella Harris
Scared to Buy Your First Sex Toy? Here's What to Do
Choosing a sex toy is kind of like dating; there are seemingly countless options and you can’t tell what you’re going to get based on just...
8 Bondage Sex Positions from Simple to Extreme!
Many beginner kinksters jump into bondage. Here are some positions for everyone from newbies to experienced rope riggers
The Ultimate Guide to Having Anal Sex
Anal sex is one of the most common fantasies people have, but getting it right involves some preparation - and practice. We provide...
Your Step-by-Step Guide to Fisting
Fisting is a fantasy for many, but most people don't really understand how it works. You're in luck: Here's your step-by-step guide to...
Can't Get Hard? 8 Tips for a Steamy, Sexy Good Time Anyway
Think that you can't be intimate with your partner because you can't get an erection? Think again. Here are some ideas to boost intimacy...
Why Consent Is More Complicated Than a Cup of Tea
Consent is more than a one time occurrence. Learn how to make sure it becomes an ongoing exchange in your sexual relationships
Strap-On (Fore) Play
Oral sex with a strap-on may seem besides the point, but it can actually be a an intimate and exhilarating experience for both parties
Ladies, Here's How to Love Oral Sex
Banish that wandering mind and those fears about smell, taste and the elusive orgasm. Stop worrying and start
8 BDSM Tips - With a Twist
Forget about tools and tricks. We delve into the heart of what makes BDSM so hot
Power Play: The Differences Between Tops, Bottoms, and Switches
Even among the BDSM community, there's some confusion about tops, bottoms and switches. We clear things up
The Basics of BDSM Negotiation
BDSM is more than just spankings and other naughty adventures. It's also about negotiation to meet needs. Here's how to make sure that...
How Do You Define 'Sex'?
Think you know about sexual activity? Think again! Learn why sexual activity includes more than you think it does
The Right - and Wrong - Way to Have a Threesome
With multiple partners comes multiple desires and points of view. That can mean excitement and fun, but there's plenty of room for trouble...
Better Sex: 10 Things to Start Doing Right Now
The old saying: bad sex is still good sex. The truth: you can do these 10 things right now to have a better sex life
Q&A by Stella Harris
I'm a married man with a growing anal fetish. How can I satisfy it if my wife isn't interested?
Thank you for reaching out with this question. I know it can be a vulnerable topic to talk about. You bring up a lot of points in your...
My partner wants me to punch her and engage in other rough play. How can I do this for her without causing harm?
These are two very big questions, and I’ll do my best to give them both complete answers. First, let me applaud you for being concerned...
Why would you need more than one Dom(me)?
Why have more than one Dom(me)? For the same reasons anyone has more than one partner. Many people who are polyamorous or who engage in...
I'm considering a career in sex education. Where do I start?
“You’re a sex educator? That’s so cool! How can I do that?” I hear some variation of this question about once a week. And I get it. Sex...
I was sexually assaulted. Now sex with my boyfriend is triggering panic attacks. What can I do?
I’m so sorry you’ve gone through these awful experiences, and I’m very glad to hear that you’re already in therapy and that you’re...
