Ryn Pfeuffer
Ryn Pfeuffer is a versatile print and digital writer specializing in sex, lifestyle, and relationship topics. She got her start in the mid-90s at the Philadelphia Weekly, managing a 10-page section of the newspaper and more than 500 lonely hearts.
Her professional stock skyrocketed when she started writing a saucy (and pre-Carrie-Bradshaw-era) dating advice column called “Ask Me Anything.” She appeared regularly on local radio stations and late-night TV as an expert on everything from grooming habits to threesomes.
Over the past two decades, her work has appeared in more than 100 media outlets including Marie Claire, Playboy, Refinery29, The Globe and Mail, The Washington Post, WIRED, and Thrillist. She adopted a pseudonym and was AVN’s (Adult Video Network) first female porn reviewer – while penning children’s books at the same time.
More recently, she is the author of 101 Ways to Rock Online Dating (2019). She lives in Seattle with her rescue dog, Mimi. You can find her on Twitter @rynpfeuffer or IG @ryn_says
Articles by Ryn Pfeuffer
Quiz: How Well Do You Know Consent?
Of course you have heard about it, but how well do you know consent, really? Take this quiz and learn!
The History of FemTech: Where It Started and Where We Are Now
Femtech is a growing industry that has been around awhile, even if the word hasn't. What does it mean and what does it mean for you?
What We Learned from Self-Pleasure Guru Betty Dodson
Betty Dodson died on October 31, 2020, but the gifts of pleasure and education she gave to vulva owners are timeless. Here are some of the...
Slow Sex: How to do Foreplay Right
Foreplay is an integral part of sex to get all the juices flowing in the right places. Here's how focusing on foreplay can lead to better...
8 More Awesome Sex Positions for Big, Beautiful Bodies
Sometimes it feels like sex positions are created for a certain shape of body. Not all of them! Here's eight awesome sex positions for big,...
6 Best Positions for Period Sex
The positions that work well with your menstrual cycle and make sweet, sweet, hormonally-fueled period sex possible.
Top Sex-Positive Holiday Gifts (That Aren’t Sex Toys)
Sex-positive holiday gifts? Yes please! It's no secret, we're big fans of sex toys, but when it comes to gift-giving, they aren't the only...
Ride On! What You Need to Know About Sex Machines
Ride-on-top sex machines come with a plethora of attachments and a ride that just won't quit. Here's what to look for when you're ready to...
10 Things You Learn in a Femdom Class That Work in Any Bedroom
Our writer took a femdom class. Here are the top 10 takeaways they learned that you can bring to your bedroom.
Why I Started Doing Online Sex Work During COVID
Sex Work During COVID may not be the first thing you think of when it comes to combating pandemic induced isolation, but our writer found...
8 Tips to Step Up Your Self-Love Sessions
Self-love can be the best love! There's no one who knows you better than you, here's how to take the time to please yourself.
3 Easy Steps for Better Orgasms
Orgasming during sex can be tricky business if you have a vagina. Here are 3 easy steps you can take to help achieve bigger and better...
Anal Stimulation: Five Wonderful Ways You Can Work it
Interested in a little anal stimulation? Is the backdoor beckoning? Wanting to uncover the wonderful world of the anus? Read on for some...
11 Ways You Can Celebrate Pride Virtually
Pride parades may be cancelled this year, but you can celebrate Pride virtually! Here are 11 ways you can celebrate pride in 2020!
Solo Sex and Self-Isolation: Bodysex Goes Virtual
In a time when a lot of people’s regular routines and practices have been disrupted, masturbation is keeping a group of more than two dozen...
How to Flirt... With Consent!
Do you know how to flirt? Making sure you have the other person's enthusiastic consent is the first step.
I Attended a G-Spotting and Squirting Workshop
I recently attended the Ohhh Em G! G-Spotting and Squirting Mini-Lesson at Babeland in Seattle. Here's what I learned.
15 Things I Plan to Do Differently About My Sex Life in 2020
There’s always room for improvement, right? In the spirit of being a better lover and partner in 2020, I pulled together 15 things I’d like...
January is National Stalking Awareness Month
January is National Stalking Awareness Month. Charyn Pfeuffer shares her impactful experience with a stalker and why we need to do more to...
Top 14 Sex-Positive Holiday Gifts (That Aren’t All Sex Toys)
If pleasure is your passion, here are 14 gifts to give to your most sex-positive friends.
11 Creative Ways to Have More Sex During the Holidays
If you’re visiting friends or family over the holidays, here are a few ideas on how to maintain intimacy without landing on the naughty...
How to Orgasm from Anal Sex
Anal sex doesn't always have to lead to an orgasm, but if you want to give it a shot, these tips are a great way to get you going.
Gender Neutral Sex Toys: What They Are and Why They Matter
The move towards gender-neutral toys mirrors an important transformation in how society interacts with sex, gender and orientation.
8 Masturbation Sex Positions for People With Vulvas
If you have a vulva and care to indulge in self-care, here are eight positions to inspire pleasure.
Why I Post Sexy Selfies
Sharing sexy photos on social media isn't necessarily about attention or approval - it can about embracing your sexual self.
Celebrate Bisexuality Day
Bisexuals frequently face discrimination from both sides of the spectrum. Here's a how we can help validate bisexuality and stop the...
Why I Wish My Mother Had Given Me a Vibrator at a Young Age
Masturbation is normal and healthy and empowering. Here's one writer who wishes she'd be encouraged to do it - instead of shamed for it -...
STI Testing Stories (and Why At-Home Testing Is a Great Idea)
Since so many STIs are asymptomatic, it's essential to get tested regularly. Here's why at-home STI testing kits maybe the perfect tool for...
12 Pride Items For Keeping the Celebration Going All. Year. Long.
We need to scream from the rooftops that love and family come in all forms and let LGBTQ+ people know they’re supported. These fun products...
It's OK to Have Casual Sex on Your Summer Vacation - Here's How to Do It Safely
There’s really no good reason for casual sex to be fraught with such a stigma. Here's how to hit the road and have safe, casual sex.
Vacation Sex! TSA Tips, Tricks and the Best Toys for Travel
Vacations can be a great time to live sexier. Here are some tips on how to pack your favorite toys and ensure a great trip.
31 Fascinating Facts About Orgasm
Orgasms are fun to have - and fascinating to read about! Here are 31 facts you may not know.
The Best Kind of Lube for Every Sexual Scenario
Wetter sex is better sex - but only if you pick the right lube for the job. We provide the details on which lube is best for every sexual...
Why Is Female Masturbation Still Taboo?
Why aren't women masturbating as much as men? Maybe because our culture often teaches us not to.
6 Girl-on-Girl Sex Positions That Will Rock Your Vulva-Centered Sex Life
Here are six vulva-on-vulva sex positions of varying difficulties that you need to try.
Quiz: Assess Your Smarts About Squirting
Test your knowledge about a fascinating - and hotly contested topic - squirting!
Got an STI? Here's How, When and Why You Should Disclose That
STI stigma makes disclosure difficult, but you have to do it anyway.
How a Sex Positive, Savvy Person Can Still Get Assaulted
Even the savviest most sex-positive people can be victims of sexual assault. And it's never their fault.
Can Watching More Porn Make You Bisexual? No. But It Might Make You More Open About It.
If bisexuals watch more porn does that mean watching porn causes bisexuality? Nope.
Quiz: What Do You Know About Outercourse?
Think you know about external stimulation? Take our quiz to find out.
It's Metamour Day! Here's a Metamour Bill of Rights
Want to be a decent metamour in your polyamorous relationship? Here are some things you should do.
What Going to a Play Party With HSV-2 Taught Me About STIs
It's important to discuss STI status with each and every partner but the setting of a sex party can make having those discussion a little...
A Beginner’s Guide to Nipple Play
Nipples can often be overlooked. And they absolutely shouldn't be! Here's a beginner's guide to nipple play to help boost your foreplay...
10 Sex Trends You Can Expect to See in 2019
The New Year is here. Are these trends right around the corner?
What It's Like to Be Polyamorous Around the Holidays
You might assume that having multiple partners would mean having more people to spend the festive season with. That isn't always the case.
Couples' Privilege Is a Thing and It's a Toxic Experience for Poly Practitioners
Couples' privilege is the acceptance of certain polyamorous relationships over others. And it can be toxic.
The Ultimate Sex-Positive Gift Guide
These 24 sex-positive presents are fun, fresh and offer a little something different.
How to Plan a Gang Bang
Like most sex acts, group sex can be a thrilling experience with proper planning and safety measures in place.
Behold! A Comfy Menstrual Cup You Can Wear During Intercourse
Menstrual cups have loads of benefits - and fans - but this one boasts an extra perk: comfortable, leak-free period sex.
The Key to Good Sex Isn’t Spontaneity - It’s Proper Planning
When it comes to sex, those with the best-laid plans finish first.
So, You're Having an STI Scare? Here's What to Do
A positive diagnosis can invoke shame, fear and concern about what to do. Here's how to handle it.
Why a Don't Ask Don't Tell Relationship Is a Terrible Idea (From Someone Who's Been There)
Honesty is the key to ethical non-monogamy, which is why DADT arrangements often just don't work.
3 Porn Stars Share Their Best Advice for Anal Sex
When done right, anal can be glorious. We get some pro tips from people who've done it all kinds of ways.
Here's What Happened When I Exercised My Vagina Every Day for a Month
Getting next-level strong can mean better sexual control - and better orgasms.
Research Busts the Age-Old Idea That Monogamy Is the More Satisfying Relationship Style
Not all fulfilling relationships are monogamous. Here's what the research has to say about it.
Sex Toy Review: Fleshlight Launch and OhMiBod Fuse Couples' Set
These high-tech sex toys can interact with each other - but they're tons of fun on their own too.
I’m 45 and Sleep with Younger Men, but Please Don’t Call Me a Cougar
Unapologetically enjoying the company of younger partners doesn't warrant criticism, controversy or labels.
Words From a Bisexual on LGBTQ Pride Month
When it comes to bisexuality though, there are a lot of myths and stereotypes that need busting.
Got a Vagina? Here Are 12 Things Your Medical Practitioner Wishes You Knew About Your Sexual Health
People are often embarrassed about any problems they experience 'down there.' Here are some things your healthcare provider wishes you knew.
Things People Use to Masturbate (and Why You Shouldn't)
Just because you can use random, everyday items to get off, doesn’t mean you should. Here's what people tend to use - and why it's a bad...
Nipplegasms Are a Thing. Here’s How To Have One
This highly under-rated erogenous zone pushes the same brain buttons as your genitals do. Here's how to stimulate them to orgasm.
Sex Toy Review: The Womanizer Starlet
Our reviewer checks out the Starlet, one of the latest versions in Womanizer's line of suction-based sex toys.
People Share the Hottest Fantasies They Masturbate To
Need a little fodder for the spank bank? We got a few people to open up about the steamy fantasies they use to get themselves worked up.
STI Testing: A Breakdown of Tests You Can Take at Home
Getting tested for STIs regularly is important for anyone who's sexually active. At-home tests can make getting it done easier.
Women's History Month: 17 Women Who've Helped Us Have Better Sex
These badass activists, feminists and all-around sex-positive people are the vanguard for sexual freedom.
'Personal Responsibility' Sex Ed - and Why It's a Terrible Idea
The best way to promote personal responsibility is to provide data-backed and science-based facts about sex. The current administration has...
How Squirting Gets Tied to Self-Worth (and Why It Shouldn't)
Squirting and not squirting are both normal. So let's all just chill out about it, OK?
A Step-by-Step Guide to Negotiating Consent
You know consent's important ... but how to approach it? Here's a step-by-step guide.
7 Kinky Sex Acts You Might Be Into (+ Expert Tips on How to Try Them)
A recent survey found that nearly half of people were interested in a kink, even if they haven't tried it. Here are 7 common kinky acts,...
Statistics Suggest Our Porn Tastes Are Getting Less Kinky
Is it collective shame? More new porn viewers? Or are people using porn as sex ed? We dig into the what might be behind this shift.
Polyamory Was the 4th Most Search Relationship Term on Google in 2017 - Here's Why
In 2017, the idea of a relationship model beyond mating for life sparked the interest of Google users. We examine why - and what it means...
Sex Experts Share Their Top Sex Resolutions for 2018
Want to start the new year off with a bang? Here are 17 expert tips to inspire your sex life.
A (Brief) History of Sex on the Internet
With realistic, interactive virtual reality sex and porn on the horizon, it's hard to imagine the low-tech chat rooms where cyber sex began.
Do Swingers Have Better Sex? I Went on a Swingers' Retreat to Find Out
Do swingers have better sex? Hard to say ... but they have a lot of very hot encounters.
How I'd Rewrite the Narrative About Masturbation and Pleasure for Young Women
The narrative around sex and self-pleasure for young women is totally messed up. Here's how I'd rewrite it.
How the Magic Wand Helped Shape My Orgasmic Pleasure
The Magic Wand isn't small or discreet or even particularly quiet. It puts pleasure front and center. And that's a good thing.
Pervertables: The Ultimate Guide to Using Household Items as Sex Toys
Get some play time on the cheap with pervertables — using these common household items as sex toys.
The Lingerie of Our Lives: Why We're Fascinated With Underclothes
American women spend billions each year on lingerie - clothes they can rarely show off. Here's why.
