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Vaginal Dryness: What to Do When Natural Lubrication Isn't Enough

Vaginal dryness is not the end of the world. These products and practices can help make sex more enjoyable regardless of your level of natural lubrication:

7 Best Sex Toys for FTM Transgender People with Bottom Growth

There is a shortage of sex toys that make transmasculine people and trans males feel affirmed and supported -- but there are options. Here are seven:

Holiday Gift Guide: Top Sex-Positive Gifts (Not Just Sex Toys!)

We're big fans of sex toys, but they aren't the only sex-positive options. This 2022 holiday gift guide breaks down the best sex-positive gifts of the year:

Things People Use to Masturbate (and Why You Shouldn't)

Just because you can use something to get off, doesn’t mean you should. Here's some of the things people use to masturbate - and why it's a bad idea

Down to Cuck: What You Need to Know About Cuckolding

Think cuckolding is something you might like to explore? Here's what you need to know if you think you might be down to cuck.

10 Ways to be an LGBTQ+ Ally During Pride Month (And All Year)

Have you ever wondered how can you support LGBTQIA2S+ communities beyond Pride Month in a real and meaningful way? Here are 10 ways to start:

25 Hot and Healthy Benefits of Masturbation

There are few things hotter than enjoying self-love and solo pleasure. So, here are 25 benefits of masturbation that prove a hands-on habit is good for you:

The Importance of Aftercare

Aftercare means taking time for your partner and connecting after sex, kinky or not. Here's why and how to do it:

The Impact of Mastercard's Adult Content Policy on Content Creators

Mastercard's Adult Content Policy caused a huge disruption for online sex workers. This study showcases how and why.

How a Simple Wand Started a Sexual Revolution

As the Magic Wand Mini - the newest iteration of the Magic Wand - is released, here's the story of how the Magic Wand sparked a pleasure revolution.

Your Guide to The Most Eco-Friendly Sex Toys

When sourcing eco-friendly sex toys, you have to research a number of factors. So we did it for you! Here are our top eco-friendly sex toys:

Florida's New 'Don't Say Gay' Bill

The 'Don't Say Gay' bill in Florida is legislation cloaked as 'parental rights.' Here's why that just isn't good enough.

STI Testing: A Breakdown of Tests You Can Take at Home

Getting regularly tested for STIs is important for anyone who's sexually active. And these at-home tests can make getting it done easier:

Stealthing is a Sex Crime

Removing a condom without your partner's consent is literally a dick move. California recently joined the ranks of places recognizing it as the crime it is.

The Rise of TelAbortion

With reproductive rights being threatened and access to abortion being restricted, knowing your options, like telabortion, is important.

So, You Want to Try FWB (Friends With Benefits)?

Want to have sex with a pal and not make it weird? Here's how to be friends with benefits:

How Sex Workers are Providing Sex Education

Getting off is not the only service sex workers provide. It's time to acknowledge sex workers are providing sex education too!

Reproductive Health Care for Trans People

Reproductive health care for trans people can be complicated. Kinkly sits down with Dr. Lynae Brayboy, CMO at Clue, to learn more!

Cammers and Content Creators Share Top Tips for Success

Top cammers share their tips for succeeding online.

Pride Items For Keeping the Celebration Going All. Year. Long.

We need to scream from the rooftops that love and family come in all forms and let LGBTQ+ people know they’re supported. These fun products can help you do it all year long.

Masturbation Is the Real Hero of the Pandemic

The pandemic has been tough. Taking the time to masturbate makes it a bit better.

What You Need To Know About a Rainbow Kiss

Rainbow Kiss is trending all over Tik Tok. Spoiler alert: no actual rainbows are involved. Here's what it is, where it came from and what you need to know.

Quiz: How Well Do You Know Consent?

Of course you have heard about it, but how well do you know consent, really? Take this quiz and learn!

Gender Neutral Sex Toys: What They Are and Why They Matter

The move towards gender-neutral toys mirrors an important transformation in how society interacts with sex, gender and orientation.

The History of FemTech: Where It Started and Where We Are Now

Femtech is a growing industry that has been around awhile, even if the word hasn't. What does it mean and what does it mean for you?

8 More Awesome Sex Positions for Big, Beautiful Bodies

Sometimes it feels like sex positions are created for a certain shape of body. Not all of them! Here's eight awesome sex positions for big, beautiful bodies!

The Lingerie of Our Lives: Why We're Fascinated With Underclothes

American women spend billions each year on lingerie - clothes they can rarely show off. Here's why.

Slow Sex: How to do Foreplay Right

Foreplay is an integral part of sex to get all the juices flowing in the right places. Here's how focusing on foreplay can lead to better orgasms!

Quiz: What Do You Know About Outercourse?

Think you know about external stimulation? Take our quiz to find out.

Pervertables: The Ultimate Guide to Using Household Items as Sex Toys

Get some play time on the cheap with pervertables — using these common household items as sex toys.

What We Learned from Self-Pleasure Guru Betty Dodson

Betty Dodson died on October 31, 2020, but the gifts of pleasure and education she gave to vulva owners are timeless. Here are some of the lessons she taught.

Ride On! What You Need to Know About Sex Machines

Ride-on-top sex machines come with a plethora of attachments and a ride that just won't quit. Here's what to look for when you're ready to saddle up!

6 Best Positions for Period Sex

The positions that work well with your menstrual cycle and make sweet, sweet, hormonally-fueled period sex possible.

10 Things You Learn in a Femdom Class That Work in Any Bedroom

Our writer took a femdom class. Here are the top 10 takeaways they learned that you can bring to your bedroom.

Why I Started Doing Online Sex Work During COVID

Sex Work During COVID may not be the first thing you think of when it comes to combating pandemic induced isolation, but our writer found fun and empowerment!

8 Tips to Step Up Your Self-Love Sessions

Self-love can be the best love! There's no one who knows you better than you, here's how to take the time to please yourself.

How to Orgasm from Anal Sex

Anal sex doesn't always have to lead to an orgasm, but if you want to give it a shot, these tips are a great way to get you going.

Anal Stimulation: Five Wonderful Ways You Can Work It

Interested in a little anal stimulation? Is the backdoor beckoning? Wanting to uncover the wonderful world of the anus? Read on for some tips and treats.

3 Easy Steps for Better Orgasms

Orgasming during sex can be tricky business if you have a vagina. Here are 3 easy steps you can take to help achieve bigger and better orgasms!

How to Flirt... With Consent!

Do you know how to flirt? Making sure you have the other person's enthusiastic consent is the first step.

10 Ways You Can Celebrate Pride Virtually

Pride parades may be cancelled this year, but you can celebrate Pride virtually! Here are 11 ways you can celebrate pride in 2020!

Solo Sex and Self-Isolation: Bodysex Goes Virtual

In a time when a lot of people’s regular routines and practices have been disrupted, masturbation is keeping a group of more than two dozen women calm, self-pleasured, and connected.

I Attended a G-Spotting and Squirting Workshop

I recently attended the Ohhh Em G! G-Spotting and Squirting Mini-Lesson at Babeland in Seattle. Here's what I learned.

January is National Stalking Awareness Month

January is National Stalking Awareness Month. Charyn Pfeuffer shares her impactful experience with a stalker and why we need to do more to advocate for victims.

15 Things I Plan to Do Differently About My Sex Life in 2020

There’s always room for improvement, right? In the spirit of being a better lover and partner in 2020, I pulled together 15 things I’d like to do a little differently this year.

11 Creative Ways to Have More Sex During the Holidays

If you’re visiting friends or family over the holidays, here are a few ideas on how to maintain intimacy without landing on the naughty list.

Top 14 Sex-Positive Holiday Gifts (That Aren’t All Sex Toys)

If pleasure is your passion, here are 14 gifts to give to your most sex-positive friends.

8 Masturbation Sex Positions for People With Vulvas

If you have a vulva and care to indulge in self-care, here are eight positions to inspire pleasure.

Celebrate Bisexuality Day

Bisexuals frequently face discrimination from both sides of the spectrum. Here's a how we can help validate bisexuality and stop the judgements.

Why I Post Sexy Selfies

Sharing sexy photos on social media isn't necessarily about attention or approval - it can about embracing your sexual self.

Vacation Sex! TSA Tips, Tricks and the Best Toys for Travel

Vacations can be a great time to live sexier. Here are some tips on how to pack your favorite toys and ensure a great trip.

Why I Wish My Mother Had Given Me a Vibrator at a Young Age

Masturbation is normal and healthy and empowering. Here's one writer who wishes she'd be encouraged to do it - instead of shamed for it - at a young age.

STI Testing Stories (and Why At-Home Testing Is a Great Idea)

Since so many STIs are asymptomatic, it's essential to get tested regularly. Here's why at-home STI testing kits maybe the perfect tool for you to stay safe and healthy.

It's OK to Have Casual Sex on Your Summer Vacation - Here's How to Do It Safely

There’s really no good reason for casual sex to be fraught with such a stigma. Here's how to hit the road and have safe, casual sex.

Why Is Female Masturbation Still Taboo?

Why aren't women masturbating as much as men? Maybe because our culture often teaches us not to.

The Best Kind of Lube for Every Sexual Scenario

Wetter sex is better sex - but only if you pick the right lube for the job. We provide the details on which lube is best for every sexual scenario.

31 Fascinating Facts About Orgasm

Orgasms are fun to have - and fascinating to read about! Here are 31 facts you may not know.

What Going to a Play Party With HSV-2 Taught Me About STIs

It's important to discuss STI status with each and every partner but the setting of a sex party can make having those discussion a little more difficult.

How a Sex Positive, Savvy Person Can Still Get Assaulted

Even the savviest most sex-positive people can be victims of sexual assault. And it's never their fault.

6 Girl-on-Girl Sex Positions That Will Rock Your Vulva-Centered Sex Life

Here are six vulva-on-vulva sex positions of varying difficulties that you need to try.

Can Watching More Porn Make You Bisexual? No. But It Might Make You More Open About It.

If bisexuals watch more porn does that mean watching porn causes bisexuality? Nope.

The Top 5 Sex Toys for Size Queens

Sex toys come in all sizes. If you're into big ones, here are a few to consider.

Got an STI? Here's How, When and Why You Should Disclose That

STI stigma makes disclosure difficult, but you have to do it anyway.

Quiz: Assess Your Smarts About Squirting

Test your knowledge about a fascinating - and hotly contested topic - squirting!

An Intro to E-Stim - and Toys!

A little electricity can add a sex spark to play - not to mention the possibility of hands-free orgasms. These toys can help get you there.

How to Plan a Gang Bang

Like most sex acts, group sex can be a thrilling experience with proper planning and safety measures in place.

It's Metamour Day! Here's a Metamour Bill of Rights

Want to be a decent metamour in your polyamorous relationship? Here are some things you should do.

Couples' Privilege Is a Thing and It's a Toxic Experience for Poly Practitioners

Couples' privilege is the acceptance of certain polyamorous relationships over others. And it can be toxic.

A Beginner’s Guide to Nipple Play

Nipples can often be overlooked. And they absolutely shouldn't be! Here's a beginner's guide to nipple play to help boost your foreplay game and get your partner closer to that elusive nipplegasm.

10 Sex Trends You Can Expect to See in 2019

The New Year is here. Are these trends right around the corner?

What It's Like to Be Polyamorous Around the Holidays

You might assume that having multiple partners would mean having more people to spend the festive season with. That isn't always the case.

Why a Don't Ask Don't Tell Relationship Is a Terrible Idea (From Someone Who's Been There)

Honesty is the key to ethical non-monogamy, which is why DADT arrangements often just don't work.

The Ultimate Sex-Positive Gift Guide

These 24 sex-positive presents are fun, fresh and offer a little something different.

The Key to Good Sex Isn’t Spontaneity - It’s Proper Planning

When it comes to sex, those with the best-laid plans finish first.

Behold! A Comfy Menstrual Cup You Can Wear During Intercourse

Menstrual cups have loads of benefits - and fans - but this one boasts an extra perk: comfortable, leak-free period sex.

So, You're Having an STI Scare? Here's What to Do

A positive diagnosis can invoke shame, fear and concern about what to do. Here's how to handle it.

Research Busts the Age-Old Idea That Monogamy Is the More Satisfying Relationship Style

Not all fulfilling relationships are monogamous. Here's what the research has to say about it.

I’m 45 and Sleep with Younger Men, but Please Don’t Call Me a Cougar

Unapologetically enjoying the company of younger partners doesn't warrant criticism, controversy or labels.

Do Swingers Have Better Sex? I Went on a Swingers' Retreat to Find Out

Do swingers have better sex? Hard to say ... but they have a lot of very hot encounters.

Here's What Happened When I Exercised My Vagina Every Day for a Month

Getting next-level strong can mean better sexual control - and better orgasms.

3 Porn Stars Share Their Best Advice for Anal Sex

When done right, anal can be glorious. We get some pro tips from people who've done it all kinds of ways.

Sex Toy Review: Fleshlight Launch and OhMiBod Fuse Couples' Set

These high-tech sex toys can interact with each other - but they're tons of fun on their own too.

Got a Vagina? Here Are 12 Things Your Medical Practitioner Wishes You Knew About Your Sexual Health

People are often embarrassed about any problems they experience 'down there.' Here are some things your healthcare provider wishes you knew.

Words From a Bisexual on LGBTQ Pride Month

When it comes to bisexuality though, there are a lot of myths and stereotypes that need busting.

'Personal Responsibility' Sex Ed - and Why It's a Terrible Idea

The best way to promote personal responsibility is to provide data-backed and science-based facts about sex. The current administration has other ideas.

Sex Toy Review: The Womanizer Starlet

Our reviewer checks out the Starlet, one of the latest versions in Womanizer's line of suction-based sex toys.

Nipplegasms Are a Thing. Here’s How To Have One

This highly under-rated erogenous zone pushes the same brain buttons as your genitals do. Here's how to stimulate them to orgasm.

People Share the Hottest Fantasies They Masturbate To

Need a little fodder for the spank bank? We got a few people to open up about the steamy fantasies they use to get themselves worked up.

How Squirting Gets Tied to Self-Worth (and Why It Shouldn't)

Squirting and not squirting are both normal. So let's all just chill out about it, OK?

A Step-by-Step Guide to Negotiating Consent

You know consent's important ... but how to approach it? Here's a step-by-step guide.

Women's History Month: 17 Women Who've Helped Us Have Better Sex

These badass activists, feminists and all-around sex-positive people are the vanguard for sexual freedom.

7 Kinky Sex Acts You Might Be Into (+ Expert Tips on How to Try Them)

A recent survey found that nearly half of people were interested in a kink, even if they haven't tried it. Here are 7 common kinky acts, along with everything you need to give them a try.

Statistics Suggest Our Porn Tastes Are Getting Less Kinky

Is it collective shame? More new porn viewers? Or are people using porn as sex ed? We dig into the what might be behind this shift.

Polyamory Was the 4th Most Search Relationship Term on Google in 2017 - Here's Why

In 2017, the idea of a relationship model beyond mating for life sparked the interest of Google users. We examine why - and what it means for poly relationships.

Sex Experts Share Their Top Sex Resolutions for 2018

Want to start the new year off with a bang? Here are 17 expert tips to inspire your sex life.

A (Brief) History of Sex on the Internet

With realistic, interactive virtual reality sex and porn on the horizon, it's hard to imagine the low-tech chat rooms where cyber sex began.

How I'd Rewrite the Narrative About Masturbation and Pleasure for Young Women

The narrative around sex and self-pleasure for young women is totally messed up. Here's how I'd rewrite it.

How the Magic Wand Helped Shape My Orgasmic Pleasure

The Magic Wand isn't small or discreet or even particularly quiet. It puts pleasure front and center. And that's a good thing.