Molly Lazarus
Molly Lazarus is a kink and sexuality writer based in the Bay Area. She dreams of a world where consent-loving hedonists can explore the depths of their depravity without fear of persecution or sexual abuse.
Articles by Molly Lazarus
Quiz: Do You Know How to Pleasure a Butt?
Do you know how to pleasure a butt? Fancy yourself a bit of a backdoor bandit? Take the Satisfyer quiz and prove it!
Hot N Cold: Using Temperature Play During Sex
Temperature play can heat things up or make your sex life cooler than cool. Here's what you need to keep in mind.
The Temperature Play Quiz: How Hot Are You?
Take this quiz to find out how hot your are, test your temperature play prowess and pick up a few new ideas for future fun!
Quiz: How Well Do You Know Blended Orgasms?
Think you know what you need to do to achieve a blended orgasm? Test your knowledge of blended orgasms and how to make them happen with...
10 Sexy Ways to Celebrate Your Self-Love This Summer
In need of a hot summer? Try these 10 ways to celebrate your self-love from a sexual perspective!
QUIZ: How Well Do You Know Your Erogenous Zones?
Understanding erogenous zones is an excellent way to boost good times in the bedroom. How well do you know your erogenous zones? Take our...
How to Make Foreplay the Main Event
Foreplay is a comfy, delicious time to explore, enjoy, and find out what you and your partner REALLY like. Here are some tips for amping up...
How to Be There for Survivors of Sexual Trauma
Studies on sexual trauma and PTSD, in particular, have shown that social support or a lack thereof has a potent and direct impact on the...
Under 45? Time to Get the HPV Vaccine!
As a proud patriot of the sexual realm, it’s in your best interest to seek protection against HPV. Do yourself and your partners a favour...
8 Misconceptions About Sex Positivity
Sex positive is a very common buzzword, but what does it really mean? Here are 8 things that being sex positive definitely does not mean.
7 Tips to Help a Shy Partner Open Up Sexually
Having a bashful partner can be tough if you’re the sexually adventurous type. In a world that demonizes pleasure and writes it off as...
What to Do About Your Sexy Bruises
We've got strategies for handling those black-and-blue BDSM souvenirs.
Dirty Talk 101: The Art of Using Your Words
Great dirty talk can take even the most laid-back lover from neutral to frisky fast. Here's how to use your words to make the magic happen.
8 Fetish Gear Ideas for Kinksters Who Aren't into Leather or Latex
Express yourself! Whether you dig leather and latex or not, the world of kinky fashion is your oyster.
Yeah, Bob, We Get It. You Like BDSM. Why You Shouldn't Push Kink on Vanilla Folks.
Be a force of good by considering the greater 'us' while deciding when, where, and around whom you sprinkle your kinky pixie dust.
A Lil' Kink with Your Coffee? Meet Wicked Grounds, SF's Friendly Neighborhood BDSM Cafe
If you've ever dreamed of a place where you could be out about your kinks in a public way, that place exists at Wicked Grounds in San...
Why Unconditional Love Is Bullshit, Especially in Kinky Relationships
Society places a lot of emphasis on unconditional love in relationships. The fact is, the concept is dangerous.
Hypnokink: A Peek Inside the Sexy World of Erotic Hypnosis
Learn about how some kinksters incorporate consensual mind control into their playtime toolkits.
What Evolutionary Leadership Theory Tells Us about Dominance and Consent
What can evolutionary theory tell us about dominance and consent? The answer may surprise you!
First-Time Anal Too Painful for Your Partner? Here's How to Help Them Enjoy It Next Time
Giving great anal is an art. Here's how to approach it with a partner who's had a bad experience but is still interested in giving it a go.
10 Helpful Tips for Hosting a BDSM Munch
A BDSM munch can be a great way to meet new friends and connect with local kinksters. Here's how to start your own.
An Expat's Take on BDSM in Japan
Ten-year American expat and BDSM educator Molly Lazarus gives the lowdown on the good, the bad, and the ugly of kink in Japan.
Thrusting Vibrators: How Close Are They to the Real Thing?
Are thrusting vibrators the ultimate lazy-day sex toy? It depends on your preferences. Here's what to look for and some of our top...
