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Big Love: Sex on the Plus Side

by Kinkly
Published: SEPTEMBER 24, 2015 | Updated: JUNE 1, 2022
Sex isn't always easy for plus-sized people, but it can still be fun! Sex furniture can help.

I’m an unapologetic and sexy woman who weighs 300 pounds, with 60 inch hips, large voluptuous breasts, and a deliciously curvy apple-shaped ass. My body is healthy, beautiful, and strong. To celebrate it, I have copious amounts of sex with the man who loves every single inch of me. Our sex life is ahhh-mazing (especially the foreplay). Due to my larger stature, we’re limited to a few position options. For instance, laying flat on my back for oral and my left side for any penetration. You see, when you’re big like me, exploring new positions isn’t as easy as it sounds, and that can really erode a girl’s arousal and confidence. (Worried about your weight? Maybe you should just be getting it on. Read How to Have Spectacular Sex - at Any Size.)


Dealing With Sexual Limitations

Here are a few highlights of the sexual limits that I face every time I want to have sex. First, positions such as doggy style and cowgirl (by the way, my all time favorites) put a lot of pressure on my joints such as my knees and wrists. The downward angle of doggy does not support 300 pounds moving and thrusting action, especially when I’m attempting a balancing act on my hands and knees. Cowgirl poses a similar problem - there is never enough leverage to ride my lover. When we try, it usually results in my knees getting rug burn.

Another position limit occurs while I’m receiving oral sex. Because of my shapely thighs and lack of hip flexibility, my legs can’t spread beyond a certain point, and my lower back gets strained. This is not conducive to opening my buffet of heavenly delights for him to feast upon. Then there’s my belly. It overlaps my pelvis and makes it difficult for even me to reach my vagina. Solo play is a two-part task that requires the use of two hands: one to lift the fat, and the other to take care of the pleasure.

If those issues aren’t challenging enough, I have (what some might consider) a “plus sized pussy.” This is because fat women, in general, have more padding that surrounds the mons pubis and labia. This creates a potentially tricky situation of trying to navigate toward the clit. Watching my partner and his delightfully gorgeous penis is blocked from my view as well.


All of these obstacles and more leave me frustrated and disappointed. Now, don’t get me wrong, I’m not whining about my size. Sometimes, though, the joy of sex is dampened by the ton of pillow rigging to prop my ass up. Once, I’m comfortably positioned, the thrill is gone, baby. Is it so wrong for me to ask for more creative positions? Geez! Just because I’m voluptuous, does not mean that I want to skimp on my fantasies. I think it’s fair to want to experience sex the way the “porn side” of my brain sees it - moving from position to position, without taking a break. How to do that? The answer turned out to be sex furniture.

Spicing Up My Sex Life

So, to spice things up and boost my sexual confidence, my partner and I got a Liberator Wedge/Ramp Combo. Although the original size Wedge/Ramp Combo probably would have worked for the two of us, I’m glad we opted for the “plus size” version because what girl doesn’t enjoy an extra six inches? It also gives us the extra space to play without me feeling like I’m going to roll off the edge. We looked at the Liberator Position Guide, and decided to select a conservative position. Something that could enhance oral sex and not involve too much maneuvering. The result? Freakin’ incredible!

Because introducing the Ramp and Wedge is an entirely new experience for some, I highly recommend getting to know the product before using it during sex. My initial response to lying back on the Ramp made me feel like my body was on display. It took a little time to get used to the height and angle, but the width of the Ramp gave me enough of a landscape that I felt secure. Once we positioned the Wedge beneath my lower back, it tilted my hips upward and created a more level playing field. Both pieces combined created a cushioned, yet firm, platform for my weight and alleviated the pressure on my lower back and hips. Feeling comfortable and confident, we just went for it. It was our first ever off-the-bed oral sex encounter (him, off of the bed and standing, and me, supremely propped upon on my stage).

Liberator Wedge/Ramp Combo Plus-Size sex furniture
Wedge/Ramp Combo, Plus Size, available here.

The Ramp creates just the right elevation and gives me the option to vary the position. I can bend my knees and spread, or pull them toward my chest. With the Wedge supporting my lower back, I have a lot more hip flexibility and can get my thighs farther apart. The added flex and mobility has some amazing effects. Also, the angled pitch of my upper and lower half gives me a longer arm reach. I’m so excited to stretch directly between my legs and guide him toward the pleasure zone - or watch, if I feel so inclined. (Check out JoEllen Notte's Liberator review, Playing 'Tetris Sex' With the Liberator Lift, Ramp and Wedge.)


After a few successful attempts, our once typical oral sex experiences have quickly evolved into something extraordinary - all because of the Wedge/Ramp Combo. How “liberating” it is to fully engage in the rhythm of sex and no longer play a passive role in our lovemaking. The best part is that he shows off his amazing repertoire of oral skills, and I show off my moving, thrusting, and grinding body. Thanks to Liberator, we no longer limp to the finish line; instead we finish with more energy and vitality.

Fully engaged, we are now ready to master the art of the Doggy!

This article was originally published by Liberator Unzipped. It is reprinted with permission.



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