PC: Talk to me about your own journey to discovering masturbation and that life-changing orgasm. What’s up with the Leader of Girl Boner Revolution making it to her 30s without ever having touched herself ‘down there’?
AM: That was a game changer for me and bee-lined me to all-things-Girl-Boner. I thought I’d fully embraced my sexuality by then. I loved sex and it was very pleasurable for me. But damaging messages we’ve internalized can be insidious and go unnoticed for years. Finally embracing solo play helped me view sexuality as our own first and foremost, and then something we can share with another/others, as desired.
PC: Let’s discuss your thoughtful and sensitive use of inclusive language welcoming trans and non-binary people into the mainstream conversation about sexual empowerment. Have you had any feedback from LGBTQIA+ members?
AM: Sex education needs to be accessible to everyone, not merely straight people who fit gender binaries. People in the LGBTQIA+ community are often the most marginalized and omitted from sex education, which sets up a very risky dynamic. It’s one reason that trans women of color are the most likely to be victimized by sexual violence and hate crimes. Inclusivity helps everyone. And we are all worthy of education, empowerment and pleasure. And yes, I hear from LGBTQIA+ folks frequently, which I love. They share with me just as much as others do and add so much to the whole Girl Boner community.
PC: How important would you say sexually empowering terms for the "good girls" reading "Girl Boner" are to guiding your growing audience to their own life-changing “O”? ‘Jilling off’ comes to mind...
AM: Sexually empowering terms are so important. When I first applied to trademark Girl Boner, there were zero terms in my hefty slang dictionary related to female sexual pleasure and many for male equivalents. Words reflect our culture, but they also have the power to shape and improve it.
PC: Any thoughts to share on starting the next generation off right? How can we shed the rest of the shame-filled baggage our well-meaning elders saddled us with so we can raise our cisgendered and trans daughters to grow into and fully celebrate their sexuality?
AM: Learning about sexuality and gaining empowerment ourselves can go far. We can also address kids’ curiosities with positive and encouraging responses. If a girl asks where babies come from or a question about genitals, for example, we can answer with basic facts rather than shun or try to silence her...
PC: Please tell me you’re going to write a Jr. Girl Boner book for tweens and teens, but with a way better title. Publisher? Make this happen, please?
AM: I love that you asked this! I can’t say anything for certain just yet, but there have been discussions. Girl Boner is definitely intended to be a series.
PC: Last question: Favorite or most meaningful reader feedback so far...and GO!
AM: Reviews have just started to roll in and I’m so grateful for them. One of the first readers to reach out to me said she felt I’d written "Girl Boner" to her specifically… I wanted to leap through the computer and say, “YES. I absolutely did write it to you.”
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