Sex should be electrifying, right? Well, with the addition of electricity-friendly sex toys into your bedroom, you can take that phrase to an all-new, literal level. While a variety of electro-sex friendly sex toys exist including TENS units, electrified insertable sex toys, and violet wands, there's really a whole world here to explore. Many electro-sex toys are extremely easy and versatile to use. That makes them a bedroom and BDSM favorite. But when it comes to the every popular - and ever-accessible - violet wand, we have a few tips. Here are a few sensations to try.

Safety First!

Designed as, quite literally, a wand that you hold it in your hand, the tip of a violet wand allows the user to plug in electrodes made of glass or other-materials. While the handle of the wand makes the electricity underneath the hand-friendly grip, the electricity will flow through the electrode that's attached - and the wand holder can touch the electrode to the skin of the receiver to transmit some pleasurable electric sensations! Many newbies to this pleasure compare lower settings to the erotic feeling of someone's fingernails gently scratching your skin. The higher power levels on certain wands are intense enough to brand the skin. So, of course, safety and knowledge of what you're doing is of the utmost importance.

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Kinklab's Neon Wand is one of the most popular wands available for wand play.

When starting to play with a violet wand, you need to ensure that you know a bit about how it works and how to play. Violet wands transmit electricity when there is space between the wand itself and your recipient's skin. They don't transmit electricity when the wand is actually touching the skin. This means you'll need to lightly move the wand along the skin - but not touch the skin. You can even watch the spark “jump” between the wand the receiver.

When starting any sort of violet wand scene, ensure that you start on some of the gentlest settings that the wand offers. Go back to the gentlest settings anytime you switch electrodes, sensations, or move to a new area. As your partner seems comfortable with that sensation, you can gradually increase the intensity. Make sure to regularly check-in with your partner, of course, but listening to their moans and shivers of happiness should be a good indicator that they're enjoying the power setting you're currently using.

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As thrilling and erotic as playing with electro-sex can be, you need to ensure both you and your partner are up for it. Have a lengthy health conversation before touching any type of electro-sex. Does your partner have piercings? Do they have any health issues - especially concerning the heart? Do they have an IUD or any other metal parts inside of their body? If they're dressed, do they currently have any electronics on them? Are they sensitive to electricity? Have they had any bad experiences with any type of electricity before? Pacemaker? Possible pregnancy? Make sure to consult an electro-sex safety guide and be familiar with all of the safety concerns before you even think about playing with electricity. Electricity is rewarding and can be orgasmic, but never forget that it can also be dangerous.

Have a first aid kit handy as well. It's unlikely that you'll need it, but it's best to be safe. Just remember, anytime you switch to a new electrode or sensation, make sure you reduce intensity and gradually increase it all over again.

Now that you know the basics of an electric wand, isn't it better that you know all of the unique ways you could have fun with it? While a standard violet wand and its glass electrodes can offer hours of entertainment on their own, kinksters are a creative bunch. There are a whole lot more ways you can use your electrified toy! If you're looking to try something new, consider some of these interesting sensations.

Hands-On Touch

Easily the most versatile tool on this list and required for many other toys, adding "hands-on" touch is one of the most enjoyable ways to play with an electric wand. By using a body attachment (called the "Power Tripper" on the Neon Wand line), it allows an entire person's body to become the wand! Connect the cable to the wand and slide the probe fully against someone's skin (against underclothing or a pant's waistband works well), and there's no reason to hold onto the wand istself anymore - every time the person touches something, their touch will be electrified! You can use this for foreplay, for spanking, for sensual teasing, and more!

Take care with this type of play. While you normally need to know the receiver's health history for electro-sex play, this attachment will require knowledge about both partner's health. Ensure that the giver doesn't have any particular concerns that would make them unsuitable for electro-sex play. Be aware that you may need to have a shorter electro-sex session than when using a wand by itself as well. All of the electric sensations will also be felt by the giver too. Depending on their tolerance for the sensation, it may require taking a break a bit earlier.

When using a body contact probe, anyone and anything can be electrified! Try this fun party trick that almost every electric wand owner has tried by making a human chain. Have the person wearing the body contact probe grip firmly onto another person. Now this next person will also have an electrified touch. They can touch other people for an electrified sensation - or they can grip firmly onto another person to continue the "chain." Be aware that the resulting electrified sensation will start to weaken as every new person is added to the chain.

Electro-Friendly Floggers

You already love flogging. Now you can add sensational, electrified enjoyment every time the flogger is swung! While you won't be able to experience hide materials like suede or leather, electro-sex floggers may be made out of metal bead chains, mylar, or other conductive materials. While the flogger tails themselves won't make sensation when resting against the skin, it's that small gap between the tail and the skin that makes the sensation electric! Of course, you get that sensation, multiplied by how many tails the flogger has, every time the flogger is swung. It's certainly much more interesting than using an electric wand by itself.

Most electro-sex friendly floggers will require the body contact probe, or Power Tripper, as mentioned above. Those types of floggers tend to be the most durable. However, some suppliers offer a flogger electrode that plugs straight into the wand itself. You'll want to be very, very careful with an electrode flogger to avoid damaging your wand during play.

Wartenburg Wheel

If you have a limited budget, the Wartenburg Wheel offers a brand new type of sensation while requiring very little money. While this tool requires a body contact probe (mentioned above) in order to electrify the toy by holding it, the toy itself is relatively cheap and can also be used without your wand for a neat, versatile toy. Each one of the spokes will press individually into the skin with a sharp shock before and after each press. If you love the sensation of nails along your skin, you'll most likely love this toy. Just be sure that you keep the intensity on a lower power as metal conducts electricity particularly well.

Electro-Friendly Rope

Do you enjoy rope bondage and want an easier way to incorporate it into your electro-sex play? Welcome to electric wand rope! The fibers of the rope are braided with conductive materials. This means the entire rope will conduct electricity along its length! Enjoy tying your partner up and pressing the wand to the rope. The rope will conduct the electricity to every spot where it's tied! Of course, this requires a bit more forethought to avoid putting rope near unsafe areas such as piercings, the face, or any other sensitive spot, but once you get everything worked out, this can be an amazing new way to experience electro-sex - and rope bondage!

Metal Finger Attachments

When used with a body contact probe, those "claws" that slide over the fingers can be particularly intense. Since each claw comes to a point that's sharper than most people's nails, these claws can add an entirely different sensation for the recipient - and can easily cause scratches and marks. (Just make sure that's what your partner wants!)

Head Scratcher Electrode

While you'll most-likely need a wand that can function while upside down (not all can!), you can totally purchase an electrode that attaches to your wand that's shaped like one of those head scratchers. Use it on kinkier parts of the body or use it (on very low power!) to add a bit of a zip to a standard head scratching.

New Glass Electrodes

If nothing else, it's extremely simple to change up the basic sensation of your wand just by changing up the electrode attached to your wand. While most wands come with standard glass electrodes, you can always choose to pick up new electrodes. Other electrodes include electrodes for branding, electrodes with a roller, electrodes shaped like combs, electrodes meant for zapping, electrodes for a light saber look, and more!

Anything Metal You Can Find!

To put an end to this list, you just need to know that your imagination is the limit! When used with a body contact attachment, anything that's conductive can provide a sensation. I've seen people use cookie sheets as spanking paddles while using their electric wand! Make sure to do some light experimentation with your potential idea before going all-in, but feel free to get creative.