Use your tongue to spread saliva along the shaft which can be used as lubrication for added stroking.
When you do have the cock head in your mouth, close your lips tight, but swirl your tongue around.
When the head is in your mouth, if you’re in the right position, stroke the frenulum up and down. If the ridge of the glans is more present, do the same thing to it.
If you do proceed to some mouth pumping or strong sucking action, edge your partner occasionally by pulling your mouth off and licking their penis all over.
A tongue on the scrotum is an amazing sensation. Mix things up with an occasional swirl while you stroke their cock.
Step 6: How to Use Your Hands During a Blowjob
Another phallus fallacy from film is that blowjobs are all about the mouth. Put-mouth-on-penis-and-suck isn’t really the true path to great fellatio. Sure, head certainly can be a purely mouth-driven experience, more often than not you will find that your hands will become an integral part of the pleasure process. And there’s a pretty simple reason for this: blowjobs can be real work!
Think about it. Our hands and arms are used to performing labor. Pretty much every day for extended periods of time. Our lips, tongues and jaws, on the other, er, hand, are mainly concerned with specific activities: talking and eating. Giving a hand job is almost second nature as something arms can handle. Extending licking and sucking sessions aren’t as commonplace—unless you really love big ice cream cones and really thick milkshakes.
So, in a practical sense, adding some hand action to a blowjob will again, help you enjoy the experience as well because it will alleviate some of your discomfort. It will add extra pressure on the shaft if your jaws tire from sucking. A well-placed thumb can provide stimulation to the frenulum while you lick the glans—or vice versa. Your hands can provide a significant amount of the low-key continued stimulation that makes a blowjob overall amazing while your mouth comes in as the superhero with extra-special powers that makes the experience mind-blowing.
Step 7: How to Deep Throat
So here you are. Lips, tongue, hands—everything is coming together and your partner is loving it. You’ll be able to tell by the moans, groans, twitches and involuntary thrusts. They might even have their hands on the back of your head or entwined in your hair. They might be touching and pleasuring you at the same time. They might even be guiding your head to go further down...and you might also be tempted…
Here’s the thing about the mythology of blowjobs: yes, deep throating is a thing, but no, it neither always possible or desired.
Deep throating is the act of opening your throat wider to take a penis deeper into your mouth. Some people can do this, and some can do it with remarkable ease. However, many people cannot. Everyone has a gag reflex which helps us deny objects from entering our throats and causing harm. Some folks have better control over their gag reflexes and can allow things, like hard cocks, deeper into their mouths.
Let’s put it this way: the average penis is between five to six inches in length and the average mouth is between two to three inches deep. The most sensitive nerve endings of a penis are located in the head, in the first inch or so.
If you try to deep throat your person’s penis and it works, great, carry on! If you try to deep throat that penis and it makes you gag, pull back and concentrate on the pleasure you can provide. If you do gag, don’t worry. You might feel embarrassed, but there’s no shame in knowing our bodies’ limitations. However, if your partner tries to push deeper or move your head down further, stop and revisit Step 1 with them.
Step 8: Spit or Swallow?
Alright, this is the one we’ve all been holding our breath for. If you’re taking the blowjob train right to the end of the line then you need to know when you’re getting into when you arrive at Ejaculation Station. Regardless how much you read, watch or get told by friends, nothing can fully prepare you for the moment of intensity you will experience when your partner shoots a load of cum in your mouth.
That is...if you want them to.
Whether you do or do not want your partner’s ejaculation to occur in your mouth is entirely up to you. You may love it and want to do it over and over. You may hate it and may want to never do it again. You might be entirely indifferent. However, how you feel about having a mouth full of semen is the paramount consideration so be sure to listen to your own needs at this point.
If you do want to receive your partner’s semen in your mouth, here are some things to be aware of:
Precum and cum taste very different. Precum is much sweeter, whereas cum can be bitter, salty, semi-sweet and all of the above and entirely influenced by your partner’s diet.
Precum and cum also have different textures. Precum has a viscosity and texture more similar to lube or oil. Cum ranges in textures (partially influenced by your partner’s hydration levels) from runny and slick to lumpy and sticky.
Some people “shoot” cum from their penis with some force and can send it a good distance. Others have just a dribble out of their cock.
The average amount of ejaculate excreted is one teaspoon. As with everything else, this can vary.
Just because you take your partner’s ejaculation in your mouth doesn’t mean you have to swallow it. Spit it out if you want!
Some folks, partners or friends, will tell you that in-mouth ejaculation is the key to a “complete” blowjob. And you might feel that way yourself. But this isn’t necessarily the case for everyone—including those who are on the receiving end of your oral pleasures. Here are some alternatives for when your partner nears ejaculation:
Move your mouth away from the meatus. Your mouth can still be on their penis—other side of the head, shaft, scrotum—but the cum won’t be in your mouth.
Close your lips but keep them in contact. The ejaculate will coat just the outside of your mouth.
Lick the frenulum. In this instance, you might still end up with some cum in your mouth or on your lips...but it won’t be like taking the whole shot at once.
Aim somewhere else entirely. For some folks, the moment of ejaculation can also be visually awesome. If you’re comfortable with your partner cumming on your face, chest, torso, pretty much anywhere else, use your hand to stroke and aim that load to a different destination.
Do you feel ready to use your mouth in a whole new way? Hopefully you’ll take away some ideas that are exciting and your concerns have been addressed. With all things sexual, you’ll never really know if you like blowjobs until you try them. We’ve shared a mouthful here...so good luck!