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Why is anal sex still taboo?

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Profile Picture of Ducky Doolittle Ducky DooLittle is a sex educator from NYC. She is also the author of "Sex with the Lights On: 200 Illuminating Sex Questions Answered". Ducky has appeared in the New York Times, HBO's "Real Sex", "The Morning Show", MTV, NPR, "The Howard Stern Show" and Playboy TV, to name a few.  Full Bio
Q:Why is anal sex still taboo?
A: Anal sex is not taboo for everyone, but it may be taboo to some for various moral or emotional reasons. For example, some people believe the primary purpose for having sex is to procreate. Other people fear it will be messy or don’t want to come in contact with any potential poop. Some guys fear that if they enjoy anal sex, it might mean they are homosexual. Still other people believe it will be painful.

Even so, studies show more people are opening up their minds and bodies to anal play. One study done in the 1990s showed that only one-quarter to one-third of young women and men in the U.S. had experimented with anal sex. Just a decade later, a study done by Dr. Debby Herbenick, co-director of The Center for Sexual Health Promotion at Indiana University's School of Public Health, shows up to 45 percent of young people have experimented with anal sex. In other words, it's less taboo than ever.

It’s true that anal sex is not for everyone, but just to be clear, enjoying anal sex will not make you gay and has nothing to do with sexual orientation. Plenty of healthy straight men find pleasure in the practice. Plus, if your body is healthy, there is little chance of any mess. And when done well, anal sex should never hurt.

Ultimately, each person will have their own reasons for wanting to try anal sex or shunning the practice. I say it’s your body, so do what makes you feel good. If that happens to be anal sex, then go for it.

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