Can a vibrator help make sex more comfortable for me?

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Q:

I've been dating a man for about two months. We've gotten each other off several times without actually having sex. Recently, we tried to have sex for the first time. I was so tight that he couldn't fit himself inside of me. We have tried it a couple of other times since then in different positions, but nothing has worked. I read that using a vibrator might help, but I don't know if this is true. Can a vibrator really help make sex more comfortable for me?

A:

It sounds like that you're most likely just really tense. After all, you've only known the guy for a couple of months. Vaginas have an amazing capacity to stretch; think about childbirth.

A vibrator doesn't help simply because it's a vibrator. It helps because the vibrations will help relax you. So, using a vibrator during foreplay can be very beneficial for relaxing you and getting you ready to have penetrative sex with your partner for the first time. Aim for at least 30 minutes of foreplay. This gives the vagina time to produce enough lubrication. The vibrator that you choose should be smooth. Also, try to make sure that you have at least one orgasm during foreplay. This helps to completely relax the pelvic muscles.

There are also sex positions that you can use that can make penetration easier. You might definitely want to start off with positions that allow you to control the speed and the depth of the penetration. So, start off by trying positions that have you on top. You can always change positions later.


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