How can I convey to my children that I have sexual feelings and thoughts without embarrassing them?


How can I convey to my children that I actually have sexual feelings and thoughts without them getting embarrassed?


Embarrassment can be a very natural and normal response. I recommend developing a balance of being both honest and private. Let them know sex is just another life skill that every person should have some understanding of. As you say this, you might say, "Even me, I had to learn these things too." Be honest and matter of fact. This will teach them that being sexual is normal and everyone has sex. Let them blush a little. These are their feelings and they will work through it.

I also recommend checking out this Guide to Age-Appropriate Sex Education. It’s a good guide to help you understand when and what conversations you may want to have with your children.

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Ducky DooLittle is a pleasure-based sex educator and the resident sex toy expert for Blush Novelties and Sola. She also leads the marketing team, does some sex toy design work, tests prototypes and brings pleasure to the world! She's also a certified Sexual Assault and Violence Intervention Counselor and the author of "Sex With the Lights On: 200 Illuminating Sex Questions Answered." Ducky has appeared in the New York Times, HBO's "Real Sex", "The Morning Show", MTV, NPR, "The Howard Stern Show" and Playboy TV.

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