Truth: Body Changes Drive Sexual Exploration
Menopause and the aging process can make your former sexual hot-spots less responsive to stimulation than they used to be. But sex isn't just a mechanical process where we push a button or pull a lever for that big orgasm at the end. Good sex involves fully connecting with your partner and all the eroticism that kind of intimacy entails. Moving together, feeling together and pleasing each other is something you can always enjoy, no matter where you are touched or whether it results in orgasm.
Truth: The Inability to Move Does Not Mean an Inability to Please
Aging changes our bodies. It changes how they move and how we're able to move them. And this can have a real impact on how we feel about ourselves in sexual situations. Remember that great sex doesn't have to be aerobic or acrobatic. In fact, at its most basic, it involves a mutual desire to please. That could mean a look, a caress or even the sounds you make. Or, why not please yourself with an ergonomic vibrator like the Sola Sync and allow your partner to watch? What you do is up to you, but it doesn't have to be physical.
Truth: Toys Enhance Blood Flow & Expand Possibilities
Great sex doesn't always have to involve doing something. It can simply be about receiving and enjoying pleasure. You can lay back and allow your partner to explore and please your body, but you can also do your own exploring.
Menopause can reduce blood-flow to our genitals, thus reducing sensitivity and elasticity in these tissues. Stimulating them more often can really help keep this area vital and improve their health and orgasmic capabilities - it’s really use it or lose it! Sex toys can also help you explore your body - and what turns you on - on your own.
If you’ve never tried a toy before, give something simple and fun like the Sola Egg Massager Wellness Set a try. This set includes two different massaging heads that are great for all over massage and provide deep and relaxing vibrations.
Truth: Your Sexuality Is About More than Your Genitals
Whenever possible, try to embrace the changes menopause brings. Sex is about more than your genitals. You are more than your genitals. When you begin to think about sex as a whole body experience, it becomes possible to enjoy it in different ways throughout your life.
Explore your body and your sensuality (sex toys can help!), eat well, exercise and do things that make you feel beautiful. And be sure to do things that make you feel joyful too, whether that’s hoola hooping or belly dancing or yoga - or sex! The better you feel in and about your body - your whole body - the more you'll be able to open yourself up to all kinds of pleasure, including the sexual kind.