Vibrating toys offer a bit more variety. This is especially important for those who are still in the G-spot discovery phase. The LELO MONA Wave is one that satisfies many uses. It sports that essential G-spot curve, vibrates, and makes that telltale rhythmic curling motion many G-spots love.
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Some prefer vibration on their G-spots, while other’s don’t. With a toy like this, if you’re not sure what you like, you can experiment with it vibrating or turned off. One thing the Mona does that most other G-spot toys don’t is it can do the “GET THE HECK OVER HERE” motion for you. You can set it to apply repeated, steady, G-spot pressure like fingers would. This is perfect for those experimenting alone, or for partners that need a little break. MONA can also be used externally for clitoral stimulation alone which is ideal for my next tip ...
Have a Clitoral Orgasm First
It’s critical you are at the height of arousal and have engorged erectile tissue before you venture on to the G-spot. Going in “cold” may result in discomfort or just not getting anywhere. Using our metaphor from earlier, it can be like trying to ride your bike with flat tires. Having a clitoral orgasm (or at least some intense clit stimulation) before penetration ensures you’re not only warmed up but relaxed too.
Anxiety is one of the biggest roadblocks to G-spot pleasure. If your mind is elsewhere or hyper focused on performing to a predetermined set of expectations, it can stop you in your tracks. I always tell my students that relaxation is key. But nothing makes someone tense up more than than insisting they relax! An orgasm can help you forget about your worries and let go enough to enjoy pleasure.
Go In Deeper
The goal of all this experimentation is to feel good, have fun and discover what your body responds to. Some swear their G-spot isn’t where all the magazines tell us it is. They report their sweet spot being much deeper inside. What these people are likely referring to isn’t the G-spot at all. It’s the anterior fornix, commonly referred to as the “A-spot”.
The A-spot is behind the G-spot, deeper in, near the cervix. It’s a circular area that feels kind of spongy. When stimulated, it can produce very powerful orgasms and abundant vaginal lubrication. Technically, this isn’t G-spot play, so why am I listing it here? Put simply, your goal is mind blowing penetrative stimulation, right? If this gets you there and you have fun doing it, isn’t that what matters? There are multiple pleasure centers inside the vagina. Limiting yourself to only playing with the G-spot eliminates your potential for maximum pleasure.
It’s important not to be goal oriented during any type of sex, especially G-spot exploration. If you slow down and enjoy the journey without expectation, you may stumble upon pleasures you would have otherwise missed. Perhaps these techniques will get you there on the first try. Maybe they’ll inspire you to come up with a few new moves of your own. Or, upon trying them, you'll discover you don’t like G-spot play as much as you anticipated you would. Wherever your G-spot journey takes you, that’s OK. The fun is in the trying. Whether these tips lead you to a toe-curling G-spot orgasm or not, you’ll still have an amazing ride - and a happy ending.