SEXUAL HEALTH
Sex Stories We Love: Shedding Inhibitions, Vacation Sex, and Darth Vader's a Sex Machine
Published: JULY 28, 2015
| Updated: FEBRUARY 14, 2022
In this week's Sex Stories We Love, we have nude beaches, why vacation sex is so amazing, and the best DIY sex toy in the galaxy!
Summer’s the sexiest time of the year, and this week’s Sex Stories We Love is packed with sexy beach reading that explains why.
Strip Away Inhibitions By Getting Naked
It’s beach weather in many parts of the world. Yet, many people feel self-conscious about exposing themselves in bathing suits, let alone going au natural. Metaphysican, ordained reverend, sexpert, and Dominatrix Sandra LaMorgese, a woman who’s very attractive and comfortable with her sexuality, was one of those people.
“A nude beach, though, just sounded uncomfortable. Getting soaked and naked with large groups of strangers was an activity I had no interest in whatsoever,” Sandra wrote in the Huffington Post. “Not only was I not willing to take the risk of exposing myself, I surely didn't want to be a witness of some naked guy bending over to grab a volleyball. I couldn't fathom why my friends wanted to have such experiences.”
After months of convincing, Sandra’s friends finally convinced her to join them. It didn’t take long for her to not only enjoy herself, but it made her wonder why she resisted for so long.
“The longer I spent on that sunny judgment-free afternoon, the more I felt light, free, and relaxed,” Sandra wrote. “I even chatted, still completely bare, with fellow sunbathers and a cute park ranger. No one else seemed interested about their bodies or mine, it was all about feeling free of the stigma of body image and enjoying the ocean, sun, and the wildlife.”
Why Vacation Sex Rocks
I’ll be one of the first to say that vacation sex rocks. It’s something I’ve never given much thought to figure out why, but researchers at the University of Illinois did. In interviews they did with 863 women, they found the Top 5 reasons were:
- Alcohol consumption;
- The party-scene at the destination;
- Being detached from everyday norms;
- Being in a break-loose mood;
- Feeling more sexually confident.
The study also found that 90.3% in steady relationships had sex on vacation while 49.8% of their single counterparts found their inhibitions drop while on group tours. More vacation sex stats and information can be found at Prothema.
Survey Says...
To all those guys who thought that women were just pandering to them when they said that size doesn’t matter, it turns out they really weren’t. In two separate surveys about what women find attractive in a penis, one that was published in the Journal of Sexual Medicine found that length came in fifth out of seven attributes. In a survey by Cosmopolitan, 89% of the respondents were not concerned with penis length.
So, what really matter to women about male members? General appearance and grooming. While every man’s willy is unique and the one they’re born with, it appears that guys can boost their appeal with some manscaping. Sex educator Reid Mihalko offers some groin grooming tips in a
story about these surveys in Salon.
However, not all surveys make people feel better about their sexuality. Lisa of Sweet Woman, Dirty Mind found a few that were designed to make people feel guilty and ashamed of their sexuality enough to seek treatment or buy self-help books.