Food and Sex Collide
Of course, as with anything involving sex, some take this one step further by incorporating food into their sexual situations. This can be as simple as squirting a little whipped cream on your partner’s chest and licking it off, or it can be much more involved. Two particular sexual interests that depend on food are sploshing and feeding. Sploshing is arousal derived from being covered in wet and messy substances with foods such as pie, pudding, chocolate sauce, baked beans, and more on the menu of delight. Feeders also involve food in sex, but not so much with sexy smearing. A feeder will provide food to their partner, get excited by their consuming it, and also get turned on as their partner gains weight. (Learn more in A Beginner's Guide to Food Play.)
Having this level of comfort with your sexuality is a fantastic situation and as Dr. Read notes, using food to bridge that gap in conversation is a natural way to help. She also reminds us that food, and a balanced diet, is also a great way to stimulate a flagging libido. Eating nutritious foods will improve your overall health, and that could increase your sexual desire and abilities. Good food will also help you get better rest, give you more energy, and improve your sex life.
At the same time, it is important to recognize the potential link to specific foods being actual libidinous triggers. Dr. Read explains that some people might have a certain food that does increase their excitement when eating it. While aphrodisiacs are often dismissed, they were, historically, exotic foods introduced into a new region. They were also often high in nutrients that those people weren’t getting enough of, creating that ecstasy that can make us feel better and more excited.
This can still play out today even if the food isn’t exotic. Maybe it is good energy. Maybe it is endorphins. Maybe it is comfort. If food is your sexy thing, embrace it.
“If food turns you on, be unabashed about it,” Dr. Read proclaims. “There is so much shame about sex, if this is the way you feel sexy and you can do it in public then you should go for it. If it feels good, eat it!”