So, why do we spend so much money on garments that so few people will ever see? Here are a few ideas why:
What's the Appeal of Lingerie?
Wearing lingerie is all about feeling sexy AF – for me. Rihanna told Vogue, "Women should be wearing lingerie for their damn selves. I can only hope to encourage confidence and strength by showing lingerie in another light."
When I own sexuality, whether it's wearing something drop-dead sexy or taking control of my pleasure, I feel empowered. I wear a red thong as a confidence boost for interviews and a black lace teddy to sleep solo. It's so cliché, but when I look good, I feel good – and I don't care if anyone else can see it. Never underestimate the feel-good powers of sex appeal.
Sure, it's a ton of fun to dress up for partners, but lingerie doesn't have to be worn for their eyes only. You deserve all the yummy, sensual goodness. If you don't believe me, check out this trailer for the Savage x Fenty Show Vol. 2 and tell me these women don't look and feel fierce.
It Sends a Message
Sometimes almost seeing everything is better than actually seeing everything. It leaves a little bit of mystery and fuels the fantasy. With sex, partners generally look for three things: mystery, excitement, and a bit of foreplay. Lingerie is sensual, and watching a partner slowly disrobe can build anticipation and arousal.
For example, stockings draw attention to the legs. A structured bra or bustier directs eyes to the breasts and neckline. A boned corset creates an exaggerated silhouette. Garter belts direct the gaze to that curve from the hip to the thigh. The area of bare thigh above a gartered stocking is one of the most sublime sights on a human being. Even lace-up ribbon detailing begs a look.
Using Lingerie for Foreplay
The visual tease of wearing lingerie for your lover can be just as hot as the main event. Taking your time to slowly undress and show off your beautiful body can make foreplay sizzle. You're deliberately drawing the eyes, hands, and mouth to erogenous zones around the body before it all comes off, and that is exciting for both partners.
Also, seeing your partner all worked up can be a major ego boost. Give your lingerie more than two minutes of showtime before it ends up on the bedroom floor. I promise, it's worth the slow tease and wait.
Psychological Appeal of Lingerie
Lingerie can be incorporated into kink, fetishes, BDSM, and role play. (Note: not all kinks and role play fall under the BDSM umbrella). Latex and leather pieces are a great way to subvert the typical lingerie status quo and signal a certain aesthetic.
Corsets, bustiers, and back-seamed stockings can speak to sexual roles and underline a person as either a dominant or submissive partner. There's a whole world of lingerie fetishes that revolve around garters, panties, stockings. There are even form fetishes, where people get off on the shape of the object, or in this case, garment.
Lingerie can also assist in fulfilling certain fantasies. Always wanted to be a naughty nurse or sexy sailor? There's no shortage of lingerie to make your role play a reality.
Lingerie, Every Day!
Whether you seek comfort in a t-shirt bra and cotton briefs, or something flirty, like a red push-up bra and lacy thong, there's a lingerie style to suit every fancy.
Remember, lingerie doesn't have to be reserved for special occasions only. Every person, no matter their gender, size, or ability, deserves to feel fabulous every single day – no reason necessary.