8 Tips to Make Role Play Sexy - Not Silly

You don't need a bunch of new gadgets or sex toys in your bedroom to make sex even more exciting. In fact, why don't you use the imagination that you already possess? Most people still love "playing pretend" as adults. Why else do we get caught up in make-believe dramas on TV or in books? If you take that same principle and apply it to intimate time with your partner, all that drama can really spice up your sex life.

Using your imagination is exactly the idea behind sexual role play. You and your partner can pretend to be different people. The excitement during sex when you play your roles can be palpable. Unfortunately, a lot of people may feel awkward getting into the idea of pretending to be someone else. It can be hard to get "into" the roles deeply enough to feel that arousal without feeling a bit ridiculous in the process.

Don't worry; I'm here to help! Here are eight simple things that you can do to help alleviate some of the silliness that's part of role playing and really get into your role. Take some of the following suggestions to help make your role play experience more realistic and arousing:

Discuss Role Play Ideas With Your Partner

Before you begin to plan out a role play, you and your partner should discuss what role play ideas you'd like to do together. If there are multiple suggestions, you both may want to write them on small slips of paper and take turns selecting an idea to act out. You both want to ensure that you're really turned on and behind the idea of each individual scenario. If you're both really into the roles, it's much more likely to seem realistic and run smoothly.

Pick Out Special Clothing

You could just make up a role-play outfit with the items that are already in your closet. However, you may want to purchase new items and outfits to accomplish this. Basking in after-Halloween costume sales can be a cheap way to do this. Purchasing new-to-you and new-to-your-partner items helps keep the role-play feeling brand new. To make it even more potent, you may want to keep your partner from being involved in any of the outfit selections. When your partner first sees you for the role play, it will be the first time they've seen you in your outfit. This can lead to an extra feeling of "this isn't the partner I know."

Pick Out Accessories

Another way to make your role play even more realistic is by adding applicable accessories. Working with accessories that reflect the roles you're playing can add another level of realism. Handcuffs, hats, pretend academic papers, DVDs, and other items can make your fantasy more realistic. A babysitter/adult may work well with college textbooks and a DVD. A hotel worker and a hotel guest may benefit from a "Do Not Disturb" door hanger or a room service meal.

Meet In a New Location

You and your partner are used to your bedroom. Instead of sticking to activities just in the bedroom, why not plan to meet up somewhere outside of the bed ahead of time? You'll want to find a place that is appropriate for your role play. If you're role playing teacher/student, you may want to meet up in a business office or an empty lecture hall at the nearby university. If you're doing a police officer/driver, you can have your partner pull over on the side of the road. You don't have to have sex or do any of the foreplay out in public, but you may find that meeting out in public helps you both get into character.

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Have a General Plan

Take it from people who are into BDSM and plan elaborate scenes: having a general "game plan" before you start can make the difference between a fantastic experience and a mediocre one. You don't have to plan everything down to the exact detail, but having a general plan will ensure that there aren't any lulls or any "what do we do now?" moments. For example, for a babysitter/adult role play, you may plan on your partner coming home early and "surprising" the studying college babysitter who is watching a movie. The adult may try to make conversation, but he may find himself attracted to the college-aged sitter who's sitting around in revealing pajamas. This general game plan helps you both stay on track with a sexy and realistic scenario, one that you both consented to and were aroused by beforehand. (Read more about the importance of consent in Yes! Why Consent Is Totally Sexy.)