Two heads are better than one, and so are two orgasms. There’s nothing more satisfying than both partners getting off, of course, but on those perfect moments when you can do it at the same time, well, it can really be something special.
A study in 2010 showed that couples who had simultaneous orgasms reported greater satisfaction in their relationships, sexual life and even mental health. For most couples, sharing the Big O will likely involve the woman getting a head start and the man taking it slow. It's a bit of a tricky game, but it's one that's fun to play at. Here are some tips on how to get it right more often.
For Her: Starting EarlyWhen it comes to, well, coming, at around the same time, it's important to remember that it takes women a lot longer to get to the finish line. So, the technique that experts suggest is called the bridge technique, where a woman is brought to the very point of orgasm (without actually going over the edge), before intercourse. This way, the normal rhythm of sex can trigger climax. And, of course, it won't take long for her guy to follow suit.
Sometimes the process of moving toward orgasm begins even before physical foreplay. Women are very susceptible to arousal through imagery and mental stimulation, so building fantasy and anticipation before getting it on can be good ways to heighten desire. (Learn more tips and tricks in The No.1 Secret to the Female Orgasm.)
For Him: Slowing DownThere are several ways to delay orgasm in men (or to put a more positive spin on it, to prolong sex). One option that works well for some men is to orgasm right off the bat, then build to a second erection. It’ll take a little longer to orgasm the second time around, but this will give his partner time to catch up. Condoms can also assist in reducing sensation, helping men to last a little longer, as can special numbing creams and agents.
Finally, a simple change of pace can also do the trick, such as slowing down or taking a break. Putting a temporary hold on thrusting can also give the man an opportunity to do some things to help his partner catch up, such as performing oral sex or using a vibrator.